﻿How did I become the last single person in my friend group?
You might suddenly have this realisation that all your friends are in relationships and you start to
think, will I be treated differently? Will they include me and will I be single forever?
First of all this is normal, life happens, people date, it's a matter of timing and
every one is on a different calendar, so remember do not blame yourself.
"But being the last single person
in my friend circle is hard ! " Struggles of being the Last Single
One in my Friends Group Yes there are struggles that
only you can relate to such as; You're the only one with money?
It might not be much, but it's more than your loved up friends. As romance equals finance.
Ask your friends: dinners, cinemas, takeaways, presents and holidays. It adds up big time.
Don’t be surprised if they can't afford to spend time with you, their funds might restrict them,
as their next move might be a down payment on a house.
They feel bad for you… Your friends cock their head
and say nothing, like you have just been diagnosed with something terminal.
They are moments away from patting you on the shoulder or a warm embrace.
Then you realise that they feel pity for your single life. Yes it happens,
it's incredibly annoying. This leads them to ask you
at every opportunity... How is your love life going?
Every time you do actually end up meeting your loved up friends,
they feel a great topic is your love life? "Oh how’s it going, are you seeing anyone?"
It will become tedious quickly, so if you want to make it more enjoyable for you,
make up some crap. Like you are dating a soccer star,
or a billionaire. That will shut them up for a week or two, then by that time you can
make up that you met someone else. Alternatively if you opt for the "no i am not
seeing anyone" phrase then your friends assume... You must need a relationship
"I know this guy who is great, let me introduce you,"
It's amazing how your friends think you need fixing, when the reality is you probably don't
want a relationship. But if you mention this,
they will think you are mad and use that as a defence mechanism for not getting hurt.
Just say "ask me in a month," that will get them off your back for now.
Is it unhealthy to be single? Living on your own has many advantages.
For example, you can live your life the way you want to and on your own schedule.
Some scientific studies say that being single has some health benefits;
You exercise more ... As you have more time on your hands,
you might think of exercise. Also If you want to be 'in shape'
because you are dating, then you will find yourself at the gym more.
You will get more sleep A night time cuddle might be charming
but have you ever been with someone then one day you get a bed to yourself.
Jeez, it's like christmas. When you're single, you don't have
to worry about the covers being taken, snoring or a partner's alarm clock going
off. It is utter bliss. You are more independent
People in relationships often feel like "they've lost themselves" because they stop
doing things independently when they have a significant other.
Singles, on the other hand, have more solitary time to devote to personal growth.
It is important to maintain a sense of independence and stay in touch with yourself.
Doing this with a partner around adds a layer of complexity
when it comes to carving out 'me time.' What do you do when you are the only one single?
Third wheeling is great... We all know the feeling of being
left out when we see our friends with their significant others.You
may sometimes have to accept being the third wheel.
The term "third wheel" is invented and therefore shouldn't stop you from having
a good time with your friends, even if they're in a relationship.
Being asked to be a third wheel can be a great way to get to know your BFFs partner better.
Delete Instagram Nothing tells the world you're
a lonely individual like scrolling on social media through your friends' baby pictures to
hand holding on a tropical beach. Try and hold back the sighs here.
People are rarely as cheerful and in love as they appear on social media.
If you're feeling down about being single, avoid social media at all costs.
In fact, a recent study found that there is a strong and significant association
between social media use and depression. Just don’t read too much into social media.
Never settle because your single You don't need to settle just because
you're single. There are plenty of people out there who would love to date you.
It's really empowering to wait for the right person, so try and battle your
inclination to settle for any relationship. Dating may seem like a numbers game at times. but
you are never too old to find the right person. Dont compare and don't care
It may be really damaging to believe that other people have it all figured out
while you're being left behind. It's human nature to compare ourselves to others,
but it's important to remember that we usually do this when we're feeling insecure. Comparison from
a place of insecurity is never productive. If you want to be successful,
focus on your own goals instead of comparing yourself to other people.
Be Free, do you. You'll probably
miss your single life one day... These are some of our few opportunities to
be free and self-sufficient. You have all the time in the world right now to devote to yourself.
You're newly single and it's time to take advantage of all the opportunities
that come with being able to date around. You can have anyone you want,
so now you just need to figure out who that is. How do I meet more single friends at 30 ?
Life gets in the way of friendships sometimes.
We get busy with work and other adult responsibilities,
and we might start spending more time with our romantic partners than our friends.
But that doesn't mean we have to lose touch completely!
Being intentional What reasons do you
have for wanting to make new friends? Knowing your motivation for wanting to make
new friends will help you greatly in finding and keeping them.
Saying hello to someone in the changing room at the gym might not be the door to
lasting friendship but its practice. Introduce yourself and make conversation a minor win.
Do Something out of your comfort zone. Your next friend is not going
to just appear. You have to put yourself
in an environment that will encourage opportunities. Join a rowing club, a members
club or anything that resonates with you. But you are going to have to exert some effort.
When you place yourself in a new environment new openings will present themself
Ask your friend to introduce you. It might seem unusual, but if you
have a close friend in a relationship. Explain your situation and if they know
anyone they think you should know, or would do well hanging out with.
A failure to make any effort is your fault. You will not lose anything from being kind,
courteous and patient when introducing yourself to new people.
You are not alone, there are millions of single people, but will you be the one to take action?