In this video, I'm going to be sharing with you 10 own habits that make you
incredibly flippin' attractive. These are the habits of confident, empowered
women in the ways that they use their phone, and guys notice it.
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habits right after this
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Phone habits that make you really flippin' hot. Number one is to put
your phone away on the date. Notice that even if I talk to you
with this phone out now, it looks like I'm distracted.
Even though there's nothing on it, putting your phone away on a date
is an incredibly attractive habit because it shows you have
healthy social priorities. It shows that you're interested in the guy,
and it shows that you're present in the moment.
All of these things make it a habit that makes you hot, and you will
stand out a huge amount from women who do not do this.
Bonus points. If you put it on airplane mode, or even if you
feel up to it, leave it in the car.
Number two hot phone habit is not having serious conversations,
"I have to tell them this. This is so over," over text!
No serious conversations over texts. In all seriousness, I don't
think there is a bigger turn off than someone who is warm
and fuzzy and really cool to hang out with in person.
And then has these weird, serious conversations over text. As if that
is her outlet. You want to save serious and real conversations
for over the phone or more, even better in person, where you can
really connect to someone and then keep it light. Keep it fun.
Keep it chill over text. In fact, I've got 12 Texts To Make Him Yours.
Plus my new guide, Messaging Magic available in the description below.
So have a look for the link for that. Have light conversations over texts.
Avoid serious conversations over text. And this is a habit that men
will notice that will make you hot.
Number three is putting your phone away when you're not on the date.
So healthy phone habits in general, you know, I was talking to a friend
recently and she said, I go to the casino, and there's lots of older ladies playing
pokies all the time.
And I said to her, yeah, a big part of that is, is the dopamine that you get from
playing the poker machine. And I said, the young people version of that
right now is our phones. A lot of us don't go to the casino and sit on
poker machines. We sit on Instagram, ding, ding, ding!
And that's our little dopamine addiction. So if you can put your phone away
when you're not with the guy, maybe you're at the gym, you stick it on
airplane mode. Maybe you go to work and you put your phone in your bag
the whole day. Maybe you're out with your friends, and you just put the phone
away in general. This is a habit that the guy won't see directly, but it makes an
incredibly attractive persona and build you an incredibly attractive life.
But I, 100000% guarantee, the guy will notice as highly attractive
as he gets to know you.
That's why you don't have your phone on you. That is exactly why,
which brings me into number four, which is text back on your own terms.
Only a woman. Who's not confident in herself and not confident in her value
has to think about when to text the guy back.
Should I text him back too soon? Should I not? That whole thinking is
a substitute for number three, because you're not putting your phone away.
So when you put your phone away, when you're not with the guy,
what you'll find is that you can text him back every time, all the time
when you've got your phone on you. You're not going to text him back too
much because you've got other things to do. And then there'll be big chunks
of the day where you don't text him back at all because your phone's away.
Maintaining healthy texting habits where you can text back like a normal person
when you've got your phone on you and then put your phone away is incredibly
attractive to a man, especially because not many people do it.
Number five is being able to talk on the phone. So 20 years ago, this wouldn't
have been a thing. Everyone had to do this because it was just how you had
to meet people. Now, what used to be a standard has become a stand out.
If you can talk on the phone these days, you are exceptional to a man.
You are confident, you are attractive. You know yourself, you're okay being
present in conversation. You don't have to plan ahead. And all of this displays
what high value perception you must have of yourself and thus to him.
I created my new book, Feminine Phone Secrets for just this reason.
It's all part of the Messaging Magic package. And by having this skill,
I promise you, you will make a huge impression and be highly, highly hot
compared to women who cannot do this.
Number six, texting to say that you enjoyed the date.
There are a lot of men that I spoke to about this one, and they all said the
same thing. It's really, really nice when a woman who enjoyed the date says
that she enjoyed the date.
This relates back to number four, which is texting on your own terms.
You're texting because you want to on your terms, not because of him
and how he will receive it. When you say you enjoyed the day, when you're like,
"Hey, I had a great time. Love to do it again."
You're making it very clear. You're putting yourself out there, and you're risking that
little bit of vulnerability by saying, "yeah, I enjoyed this."
By doing so, the guy perceives you as more confident because you're willing
to put yourself out there a little bit more where most women are not.
That is a habit that makes you incredibly attractive to a guy.
Number seven, and the fellows are going to hate me for this one, but not sending
nudes. Now it's different if you know someone and you've gone exclusive.
In that case go nuts. But your nudity over the phone, men can get that on the
internet. Men can get that from multiple women. And unfortunately, it gives a
lower value perception. If a guy has already getting nudes from you before
he's slept with you, I'm all for sending nudes later on. But when you're starting
out, you're much better off saving that for in-person, saving the surprise for
in-person because there are so many women willing to send nudes that you
will be the standout if you make him wait for it in person. You can write classy erotic
sext. I've even got the guide to do that in the description below, but not sending
nudes is a habit that makes you really fricking hot.
Number eight is putting an X on the end of your texts.
Now, I talk about this in my 12 Texts To Make Him Yours. That is another free
guide that you can get from the description below and what it really
amounts to is adding warmth to every text you send. I send Xs to women.
I send them to men. I send them to literally every person that I text.
And sure it doesn't occasionally mean that I'm interpreted as too warm.
Yeah, it does. But it also means that I'm never interpreted as too cold.
And the big problem with texting is always that it's a cold, medium.
There's no emotion in it. There's no connection in it, so I'd much rather
be perceived as too warm, and then fix that later, than be perceived as too cold.
I actually learned this from a former partner of mine, and I noticed how
much attraction it built in the text she was sending. And then men just found
out she did it to everyone. So it wasn't as meaningful, but it still adds that
warmth to every text. And in fact, I talk about this in Messaging Magic as well.
So add an X to the end of every text. And it's a habit that makes you hot
over message.
Number nine is using voice messages. I cannot explain how attractive this is.
It is such a hot phone habit. Virtually no one does it. And every time I've
met a woman who does this. You as a guy, you can hear the femininity in
her voice. You can hear, I don't know if it's estrogen, what it is, but there is
science to this. By hearing someone's voice, you can hear the testosterone
in a man's voice, just the way men can hear it the opposite in yours.
It creates that attraction, that texts simply can't.
Not only that, it shows you're confident with your voice.
You're confident expressing yourself, and you're not overthinking because
voice recordings, you can't plan them very much, much less than texts.
All of these, all of these factors make voice messaging, a rare and incredibly
attractive habit. And it's one you should absolutely use with the guys right from
the get-go that you're meeting and dating.
And number 10, the 10th phone habit that makes you hot is congruency between
texts and in person. When I was asking men about this, the one thing I kept
hearing was "I don't want to feel like I'm talking to a different person in
person as opposed to over message." And I can completely back them up
on this one. I remember one interaction I had where the woman was so amazing
in person and over text, she was insecure and weird and there was total
incongruency in her character. It was clearly conversation she was holding
back in person that she was only willing to have over text. And it created this
huge mismatch which is very unattractive. So however you
represent yourself on the phone, whether through voice message or phone calls,
which is what I most recommend all through text, make sure that the guy
has a consistent vibe to you. There should be a, "I know her on text.
I know her on phone. I know her own person. I have the same person,"
the whole experience. That is incredibly hot and attractive because that is rare,
especially in this day and age. So that is the video. I hope you enjoyed it.
Make sure your free download. You've got the 12 Texts To Make Him Yours.
That is free. The sexting guide that is free as well. And my Messaging Magic
package, which has been getting ridiculously good reviews, which I
really appreciate, is also available from the link in the description below.
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