- Did I, did I go out last night?
No, no, I didn't go out last night.
I went to John's house and ah,
it was, it was, it was great.
Okay, could you tell if I was lying there or not?
Well, obviously it was an over-exaggeration.
But most people probably couldn't tell
in a normal situation.
However, there very very specific things
that I did with my body language and voice
that was a dead giveaway if you knew what to look for.
Did you pick up on them and the fact that I was lying?
If not, and you've always wanted to know
how to catch a liar, keep watching.
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Here are 10 ways to tell if someone is lying.
Number 10 is throat clearing or difficulty speaking.
When a person lies, they experience an increase in stress
that's out of their control
until they either come clean or leave the situation.
The stress that's caused from lying
causes their autonomic nervous system to reduce saliva flow
and empty mucus membranes,
creating an uncomfortable dryness in their mouth and throat.
This can lead to the need for the liar
to constantly clear their throat,
and make it hard for them to speak at all.
They could also have a hard time keep their lips moist,
so licking and biting them is another telltale sign
that they're nervously deceiving you.
Experts say that if someone clears their throat
right before answering a question,
it could be their way of ensuring
that what they're about to say is clear and understood,
giving the lie every chance to be believed.
No, I didn't go out last night.
You're crazy.
What?
Number nine is pausing.
If I were to ask you
what shirt were you wearing last Saturday,
you'd likely need a moment to figure that out,
unless of course you wear the same shirt
every single Saturday or you're a nudist.
But otherwise, you'd need to remember.
The process involved in remembering something
is similar to the process we use
to create a fictitious story.
Both take time and require us to pause while we think.
Many officers and experts who handle interrogations
use this fact to help them get the truth out of people,
using more specific questions
that shouldn't take any time to answer,
like did you break into that house last week?
The answer, of course, should be no and spoken immediately.
However, if there's a pause,
the interrogator might be dealing with a guilty party.
Did you eat all the cookies last Saturday?
No.
Number eight is feet shuffling.
It's not just the words coming out of someone's mouth
or the look on their face
that reveals when someone is lying to you.
If you look carefully,
you may actually see the deception
all the way down to their feet.
And I don't mean they're just gonna dance in front of you.
Just give it a second, I'll explain.
Though they often don't show it, most individuals,
even ones who tell tall tales every day,
experience an increase in anxiety while lying.
This can often lead to fidgeting,
including them shuffling their feet,
due to the overwhelming desire to flee the situation
before they're caught or asked a follow-up question
that they haven't prepared for.
Simply put, they don't want to stand there
in the midst of a lie.
They want to make you believe them
and get out while they're ahead.
The liar's body betrays them,
giving them restless legs
that do little to help in escaping,
but let an observant person see that they're being lied to.
Number seven is nonverbal disconnect or pointing.
Sometimes it takes a long conversation
and multiple questions to determine if you're being lied to,
while other times the liar's subconscious
gives them away in a matter of seconds.
This can be especially true
when the liar's verbal and nonverbal behaviors
go out of sync.
For example, if a person tries to convince you
that they didn't do what you've accused them of
or don't know something while nodding,
this could be indicative
of them accidentally revealing their deceitfulness.
The parts of our brains that control verbal behaviors
and body language are naturally linked,
which means if someone is showing
with motion, distance, or facial expressions
the opposite of what they're saying,
then there's a disconnect somewhere
that the brain can't make up for.
Essentially, their brain is trying to tell you
that they're lying.
No, no, I did not kill that guy.
I did not stab him in the face.
Nope.
Number six is rigidness.
Humans have two basic responses
when presented with unwanted situations, fight or flight.
Most often, a liar will present a flight response,
fidgeting or trembling
as they eagerly await to be able to get away
from the person that they're lying to.
But there are some others who prefer to fight.
These individuals will go without fidgeting,
but can give themselves away by doing the opposite,
staying completely still.
Going rigid is a type of automatic action the body takes
when it's ready to take on a problem,
such as lying to someone
that they know has a chance of catching them.
Someone who usually uses hand gestures suddenly won't,
and the natural movements that they were making
before the lie will suddenly stop.
It's kind of like they freeze,
possibly even locking eyes with you,
unblinking as they tell their fake story.
The cookies?
No.
I didn't eat them.
Number five is covering the face.
You know, lying in a way is kind of like a fight.
It's basically two minds attempting to win,
one by discerning the truth about the situation
and the other by successfully deceiving.
This happens even when the person being lied to
doesn't realize it, which can be bad for the liar
and lead them to accidentally giving themselves away.
When someone actively lies,
they go into a defense mode.
Liars rarely know for certain
that their story's being believed,
so they will unconsciously shield vital areas
from potential attack.
They may cover their eyes or their mouth
or their whole face, or lean away from the other person.
Covering the eyes or even closing them
has the additional benefit of stopping the liar
from determining if the person that they're lying to
is suspicious of what they're hearing.
Therefore, they can remain convincing in their tale
without worrying.
Just don't overdo it.
No, I didn't eat the cookies.
Mom, you're silly.
You're silly.
Why am I not looking at you?
My eyes hurt.
Number four is repetitiveness.
Lying is obviously a skill not all people have mastered.
It can be incredibly difficult,
especially when the fib that they're telling
isn't one that they've told before.
If that's the case, then follow-up questions
can trip them up in a big way.
One of those ways is through repetition.
When a request for a detail
that they haven't prepared for is made,
the deceiver will often repeat part or all of the question.
If you asked who was with you
and they respond was who was with me,
then this could be their way of stalling
while they think up an answer
that goes perfectly with their fake story.
Liars will also often repeat simple phrases
as they attempt to convince themselves of their own life.
For instance, saying I don't know what happened,
I don't, I really don't,
could be a sign that they do, oh they really do.
Number three is self-grooming or sweating.
Worrying about what they're saying
isn't the only thing the liar's brain is doing
when they deceive you.
They might also be gassy, but that's also not all.
Often as their heart begins to race,
they instinctively prepare themselves
in the hopes that their story
is being accepted by the listener.
This leads to a manner of self-grooming,
which includes fixing the hair, fidgeting with a tie,
straightening the shirt,
or pretty much anything that makes them more presentable
in the situation.
Liars also tend to sweat when telling falsehoods.
So if someone can't handle having perspiration
on their face or body and continuously wipe it away,
they may be leading you on.
Keep in mind that the liar wants every detail
attuned to being believed,
and will make themselves and their surroundings
as clean and organized as possible,
and often with no idea that they're even doing it.
Yeah, I know it's winter, but it's LA, right?
Number two is scratching, rubbing, or shivering.
Uh, when people are faced with telling a story
that they know is a lie,
they tend to focus so much on their words
that their body is suddenly on autopilot.
They don't want to incriminate themselves
by telling the truth,
but they also know that getting caught is equally bad.
So their anxiety levels increase quickly.
This spike activates the autonomic nervous system,
which takes blood from places
such as the face, ears, and limbs,
which helps fight off the anxiety,
but leaves the liar feeling itchy or cold.
Without even being conscious of it,
their hands will go into a type of autopilot,
moving to those body parts and rubbing or scratching them
in an absentminded attempt at warming the area up
or quelling the itch.
They may also bite or lick their lips
to try to restore feeling to them,
all the while trying
to make you believe what they're saying.
Uh, why am I scratching and licking my lips?
Uh, I'm on meth.
Yeah, meth, so much meth.
I'm definitely not lying, meth.
And number one is excessive answers.
Often when a person is trying to deceive someone else,
they wind up prattling on and on,
telling long stories full of information
that the people listening never asked for nor need.
This is because instinctively,
when we feel our lies are being believed,
we start to indulge in storytelling,
giving as many facts as we can
as proof that what we're saying is the truth.
The thinking is if you provide enough detail
about what happened,
or certain descriptive factors
about what was seen or experienced,
then it will be more likely to be accepted as factual.
However, those with keen observation skills
can see right through the ramblings.
So the next time someone is late, ask them why.
If they say they simply lost track of time, move on.
But if they tell you what color the car was
that cut them off and then stopped traffic,
you might be dealing with a liar.
So that was 10 ways to tell if someone is lying.
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