-[Jessica] We had a long crazy week.
-Right.
-What are you thinking. -Dr. Nicole gave us a family
exercise to do so
from your perspect-- from your side.
How do you feel about our family
coming together.
-My only concern is your mom. -All right.
They say you can tell how a man treat you by the way
he treats his mom
and being that Eric and his mom does not have a
relationship, shuts her out.
He honestly does the same thing to me and it kind of
makes me concerned.
You need to have a sit down with her.
You've always told me "Yeah I'll do it, I'll do it"
and then something happens
so where you're all good. Something else happened and
now you're are at odds again.
And it's led her to not to like me.
it's hard to keep reaching for someone who ain't even
trying to reach back.
Like I went above beyond for you like
I go above beyond for her, to make her happy.
But then again, she was never satisfied.
Bought her house, ground up.
It was like...
You ain't put no furniture in it.
Who wants to keep reaching out to somebody that's like that?
How are we going to move forward, get married and...
...you and your mom relationship is
not even right?
Every time she do something, it's me to go
apologize to her.
So be the bigger person again.
Why?
Because that's your mom. You already know
how I feel about family.
That's your mom. Call her.
You don't have a problem with speaking up or telling me how
you feel about certain things.
Why are you afraid to do that with her?
-I'm not afraid to do that with her.
-Okay, well, why haven't you?
Because I do feel like that's still the issue that affects
you deep down inside,
rather you want to admit or not.
His relationship with his mom, I feel like, affects us
because he thinks that what his mom does to him,
I'm going to do to him,
and I don't think that that's fair.
-You know that I was adopted by my aunt.
-Yeah.
Just growing up not having my biological mom,
I feel like,
-I'm big on family because I didn't have her.
-Mm-hmm.
But someone else stepped in to fill her place.
-And so I think I appreciate that so much...
-Right.
...to where I'm determined to make your
relationship work.
The whole adoption thing is the reason why
I'm the way that I am.
The reason why I'm so passionate about
motherhood and...
I feel like, all of that has molded me into...
...how I am right now.
Growing up, I felt abandoned, I felt like I wasn't
good enough.
Like, if my biological mother didn't want me,
then why should someone else?
I always wondered, like, why she's just
not here, period.
Why not come find me?
I get it. Um...
So do you think if your mom was around...
...do you think you would still be this person or
would you be another person?
I don't know. All I know about her is...
...you know, that she was a prostitute, like,
-she got pregnant with me, her family was racist.
-Yeah.
They didn't want anything to do with me
because my dad was black.
Yeah.
And it goes back to...
I feel like, me dancing, like...
I'm not going to say it was in me because
of my mom, but...
[sniffles]
I guess I will say it was in me because of
who my mom was.
When people think I'm a dancer, they think,
"Oh, she's a prostitute."
-Right. -And I don't-- I really
don't like it because...
...women are really out here hustling...
...to take care of what they need to take care of.
Children, whatever.
-Right. -So that,
just in today's society is,
kind of messed up, like.
[sniffles]
This moment actually means a lot to me, you know.
We having this intimate conversation that's
pushing each other
and that's getting the best out of each other.
That was needed.
I'm gonna ease up and I'm gonna manage myself...
...to where I'm going to take the proper steps to put
everything behind me so
our relationship can move forward because that's a
big part of our relationship.
We gotta have those uncomfortable conversations.
And hopefully you know what the end goal is, right?
Give me a hug.
[kisses]