Can do it mentally. How many of you been
doing that mental in your mind? Yeah.
Helps right? Now you'll discover the more
you do it, the better it is and the more
effective it works. And eventually, you
know, what I do is, sometimes I just
notice it, I take a deep breath, peace and
just goes away. It really releases it
because the unconscious mind is so smart.
It learns and knows how to make the
changes. And so, this last week definitely
has been an opportunity for me, I did
some tapping over the weekend several
times. It's part of the growth process
you realize that. The deal is you're
gonna tap for the rest of your life. and
I want you to realize that is the deal.
If you don't, now I will tell you this.
And I've seen many people come to this
seminar, they get really big changes and
their life really does change. But the
tapping does not prevent events
happening to you in the future.
say for example, you know, you clean up
whatever it is is going in your life
currently, and then in the future you may
lose your job, your, your dog may die or
your or some, something happens and if
you have a tendency to go back to the
old way of coping with things, you can
create more problems. You create a
whole new set of problems. But when
you're creating all these problems, you
can look back to whatever it is, you've
addressed in this seminar, you'll notice
it doesn't bother you. Because you change
that. What we want to do is, is
develop this skill of addressing and
releasing and letting go. That is the
gift of a lifetime and you need to
really practice this. Because in the past,
how did you deal with your stuff? I mean
seriously how did you deal with it? You
dealt with it you put it right back here.
You try to eat it. You try to drink it.
You try to smoke it. You try to work it.
You try to run from it. You try to do
whatever it is. But the problem is, it all
goes with you wherever you go. Because
where's it at? Right here. And you can't
run fast enough and you can't work hard
enough. Yeah, I mean you just can't.
Because what happens you get to lay your
head on the pillow and then your mind
starts rambling with all that stuff
you've been running from. Because you
hadn't developed the emotional
intelligence or the internal process of
letting go.
You know, whenever you tap, the the real
deal is, feel it,
notice what bothers you, notice how you
know. It could be the picture. It could be a
sensation. It could be anything. Just
notice it. You don't necessarily have to
say anything. All you have to know is
know how you know it bothers you. It
could be a feeling in your stomach. It could
be a feeling your heart. It could be a
heaviness on your shoulders. Feel it and
then tap. You can, you know the key is, is
identifying. Now some of you, if you want
to do it this way even though I have
this problem, whatever it is, this, I
accept myself even though I have this
problem totally and completely accept
myself.
That problem, whatever it is, that feeling,
whatever it is that you're doing just
let it go. Let it go. Peace. Then go back
and check it again. If it was a strong
emotion and you did it one time and it
dropped from a ten to a five, do it again.
Now if you don't do it again,let's say
it dropped from a ten to a five,
you definitely feel better. If you leave
it at a five level, it will still remain
a five level. And then you'll experience
something later on, or you start to think
about it again, and all of a sudden, it's
at that level. What you want to do is
completely release it all the way down
to zero. Now I use a protocol. I use a
Sud unit. Now you usually don't have to
do this for yourself but you can, like
for example, you think of something, and
you feel it and you measure it. Zero, I
can't feel it. Ten really strong. It's a
ten feeling. But if you're internally
doing it yourself, you don't necessarily
have to do that. Now I use the Sud unit
when I'm working with somebody, so that I
can understand that there's changes
occurring. But you don't have to do that
for yourself, unless it's just something
how you, you want to do it. That's how you
think. But this is how to Sud unit
subjective units of distress. Zero, can't
feel it. Ten, it's really strong. We want
zero. In order to get zero, I use what I
call a TOTE. Test, I feel it, it's a ten.
Operate, tap. Now there's a lot of ways of
operating. You don't necessarily have to
tap. There's lots of ways of making
changes. Tapping for me it's just one of
the fastest ways. And then you test it. So
it was a ten, you tap it. You test again
and it's a zero. Then you exit. That mean
it's all over with.
Whoa. And then sometimes it's gonna be
test operate, test operate, test operate,
test operate, test operate, test operate, test operate,
test operate. And then you exit. It may take
you 15-20 minutes. If it takes you two
hours,
hang in there. Do it and until it's gone.
Because there's one person who will
benefit when you get to zero and that's
definitely you. This is deep, deep
internal changes. And you want those
changes. And then after you take this
problem whatever the problem is, one of
the things it's real important, go back
and make it positive. So make it, make
it feel good with it. If there's a memory
and it's a bad memory makes you feel bad
when you start, and you start tapping, you
tapping all the way down to zero. Change
the memory where it's a positive memory.
Send loves and forgiveness. Send
something where it feels good. Because
then your unconscious mind will use the
positive. That's what you want to do. Now
in order to have a problem, I believe you
got to be good at having a problem. That
means inside you, you have to do
something to make it happen. So, for
example, if you have an anger problem, I
said,"Are you angry?" You said,"Well, sure. I'm
angry." I said,"Well, how do you know you're
angry?" "Well, I have this reference right
here." And so the reference is like a
ladder to the problem and each rung of
the ladder represents an emotional
aspect, you start tapping on this, this
problem whatever it is, you're using the
tote, until you get down to zero. And
then when you get to zero, you can't have
a problem this way, because first of all,
it doesn't bother you anymore. And then I
say,"Well, can you get this problem back?
See if you can get angry again?" And you
said,"Well of course I can. I drove my way
over here and this guy pulled out in
front of me. I'm really angry." I said,"Okay,
how does it make you feel? You start to
feel the emotions. You start tapping on
the process, the emotions, get down to
zero. Of course now you have a different
perspective. And then you just start
trying to find every way to have a
problem. And so now you can't have a
problem because you have changed all
your internal references. Okay. But that
doesn't mean you all your abilities to
be angry is totally gone because you
have plenty of references. There's a lot
of roads to Rome, you know. And so, and
since you have a lot of experiences, what
you're going to do is, you go out in the
world. And everything is a test. So that
you can clear it out and clean it up. So
you may have something bad
here in the background. And as you do, I
want you to just continuously working
healing and releasing whatever the
stressed emotions are. And of course, say
for example, when I work with somebody
and they have ten, I have two, five
memories here. And all the memories
basically have the same basic emotional
driver. And each one of them, they go to
it and it feels like a ten. If any one
separately they go feel it. But what I've
noticed by working with individuals, as
you start tapping on the emotions in one
memory, the next memory usually the
emotions dissipate, they lessened. And
each time you do this and eventually
it's real hard to have this problem. And
that definitely your world begin to
change. The tote is very powerful. The
most important key about using this
process is, when you feel it, stop and
feel it. Then tap it and release it. Then
make sure it's completely gone. This is
the most powerful thing that you could
do for the rest of your life. When you
feel disruption, where you feel upset,
when you feel hurt, don't run from it.
because if you're running from it you
take it with you. But if you face it, you
feel it, you tap it, you release it, you
become free. Actually you gain personal
power and control. In order to get what
you want, it's important to let go of
what you don't want. And that's, and that
is so important because whenever I have
clients come in, the first I say,"Hey what
do you want?"
"Well, I don't want this. I don't want that.
I don't want this. I definitely don't
want this." I said,"Okay, what would you
like to have?" "Well, you know, I would like
to have this, but I, but this Rover here
really bothers me. And I don't want this.
And I don't want that. And I don't want
this." What drives your bus, is what you
don't want. And here's the craziest part.
Now that I had a young girl today. Now
this is really, really amazing. And she's,
she's really good at worrying. I mean
she's an expert at worrying. Matter of
fact, she said,"This is what I do. This is
who I am. I worry."
And of course I said,"Well, what are you
worrying about?" She said,"Well, I've been
having nightmares of my dog dying and my
mom's dying and my dad's dying and,
and, and I have this worry that I'm not a
good enough daughter." I said,"Okay. So, so
when you're around your dog what do you
do?" "I just cry when I'm around my dog." I
said,"So in your mind the dog's dead, right?"
"Yes." I said,"Now if you're the little dog
and, and your owner comes to you and they
start bawling because you're dead and
gone. How would you feel if you were the
dog?" And, and, and then she's worrying that
she's are not good enough daughter. All
right. And then I said,"Well, okay
somebody's gonna die what's, what is your,
what's the big deal?" "Well, I have this
fear. I'm gonna be alone. And they may not
think I was a good daughter." And I said,
"Okay, here it is, let's say you're the
mother. And you had this daughter in the
bedroom. And she's got this horrible
headache. And she's miserable and upset
and all this stuff. What kind of daughter
would she be? I mean, would you be making
her feel good? Would you be doing things
to help your mom feel like she's a good
mom? "Well no, because I'd be in there
worrying and creating these problems." I
said,"Here's the interesting thing. What
you fear drives your bus." And say,"Here's
the credit, if you don't want, if you
don't want to be a bad daughter, but you
keep focusing on how bad you are.
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