how to overcome limiting beliefs stay tuned this is Damon from NLP Gym
dismantling limiting beliefs you haven't already please click subscribe to this
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practitioner training mainly what you're learning is behavioral change how to
change behaviors that you don't want to do anymore so it doesn't have to do with
state management and a little bit to do with what belief change and sometimes
beliefs are easy to change sometimes all it takes is contrary evidence so you
believe that new yorkers are rude you've never been into new york but you've seen
movies you've seen television you've heard people say that New Yorkers are
rude and finally you go to dark and you meet the arcus they're really nice
people until you say it to yourself I was wrong New Yorkers are nice people
and then you may only drop that belief that New Yorkers are rude people it's
just a stereotype so the contrary evidence causes your
belief to dissolve we have other beliefs so that are not so
easy to get rid of and it doesn't matter how much contrary evidence you put in
front of someone or you put in front of yourself either you or the person you're
trying to help continues to have this limiting belief so it might
be successful failure and at the same time I'm making six figures every single
year but it doesn't matter that I just filled that information out or it might
be that I don't believe up worthy of love or that nobody loves me when I have
a family who who loves me dearly like I'm surrounded by people who love me but
I still believe that I'm not worthy of it or people don't love me and no matter
how much evidence you put in front of someone or you put in front of yourself
you continue to hold on to this limiting belief so what is that about
well it's goes deeper than the belief itself typically what happens is it's
more rooted in a feeling and that feeling was something that was created
usually early in childhood we call that an imprint and in LP so something
happened and if you were too young to you're your personality wasn't fully
developed your ego wasn't fully developed and you didn't have access to
all the resources you do now now that you're older what happens in that when
that when that happens at a time when you're so developmental and you don't
have the resources you will it will feel very painful you know it'll you don't
feel like suffering it'll feel like something you don't want to feel so what
we then do is we isolate that part of ourselves so that we don't feel it
anymore we kind of alienate that part of
ourselves so we don't have to feel the suffering we're not to feel the pain and
what happens is a lot of times we go through we carry that throughout our
lives and it evolves into a limiting belief so I don't if you know this thing
is painful I cut it off for myself I isolated from myself I a lien ate this
part of me so now I feel not whole I feel less fulfilled I don't
and now I don't have access to a part of myself and anytime we do this anytime we
separate ourselves anytime we suppress something about ourselves the suffering
is nearly instant I mean I wouldn't even say nearly it's instant so you feel that
pain you isolate it which creates another type of pain
but at least you're not feeling that pain anymore the original pain and so
you feel like you but you've gotten what you wanted but not really so you carry
this pain around with you and like I said it starts to develop into what we
call a limiting belief it's a limitation with inside yourself you've limited
yourself now you're not fully whole you're not accessing all of your
resources so you take that limitation within yourself and you project that
onto the world and you project it on yourself and you say the world is this
way or I am this way and it creates that limitation like I'm a failure our people
don't love me I'm a loser and no matter how much
contrary evidence we put we see or we have where people tell us it doesn't
really matter because until we deal with that alienation until we regain access
to that part of ourselves that we've cut ourselves off from until we reintegrate
that part of ourselves it doesn't matter how much evidence someone puts in front
of you there's a process called reimprinting and this is the stuff that
you typically address in a Master Practitioner training for NLP is belief
change and reimprinting so basically you go back into your childhood yury access
that memory and a lot of times it's been unconscious or it is unconscious because
you've buried it for so long and then it comes back up again now this is the
thing that you've been fearing ever since this part of you ever since you
felt this pain and ever since you've isolated this part of yourself this has
been your worst fear is to feel this thing this feeling this pain
the suffering so of course you've been pushing it away and it's really hard to
access because of exactly that's usually unconscious it's usually something
you've been running from for you're in almost your entire life it's the one
thing you don't want to feel so this is where a coach comes in real handy
someone who can point this out to you and take you there or guide you there
and it doesn't feel good the good news is though it passes it processes finally
just alienated part of yourself so this feeling gets to finally process
because it's been festering in isolation for so long and now you're freeing it
yeah you're allowing it to process and evolve and this is so important and when
that happens now you can finally move on and the limiting belief will dissolve
immediately but you're not done yet because when you get rid of a limiting
belief when you free yourself from that pain you don't want to leave things up
to chance you want to instantly create a powering belief right on this right then
don't wait you need to do it right away because you don't want to leave that up
to chance you don't want to leave your beliefs up to chance you want to you
want to be in control of this you want to create your beliefs so you create an
empowering belief based on whatever resource was missing at a time when the
limiting belief was created and then project that now onto yourself and on to
the world around you your unlimited projection that allows as many
possibilities as many choices as you can possibly allow all beliefs are limited
to some degree but we're going to have them no matter what so we might as well
make good ones we might as well make empowering ones we might as well make
the ones that give us the most choices and the most possibilities and gives us
access to the most resources that we possibly can be have access to
this is an in-depth process and I give I've done this a number of times with
myself with other people with extraordinary results overcoming
limitations and just recently I bumped up against a limitation again I didn't
recognize it my good friend and coach and mentor dr.
Matt recognized it and said hey you need you need to deal with this and I didn't
know how to deal with it so he helped me out and it wasn't fun it wasn't easy but
once I got over it which didn't take that long it freed me the limitation was
gone is gone and now in addition to being relieved and a lot happier I am
projecting more possibilities and more options and more opportunities unto
myself and on to the world around me so of course much much gratitude to dr.
Matt for recognizing this and pointing it out and it also takes being able to
accept this because a lot of times when you touch something so sensitive or
someone else touches something so sensitive to fur that knee-jerk reaction
is to push back to push away to defend and say no I'm not doing that it's
really hard to accept that this is actually happening and it's also very
important to surround yourself with really good people knowledgeable people
people who aren't trying to take advantage of you people who know what
they're talking about skilled people good coaches good mentors who you trust
to point these things out to you for your good not for their good so that can
be a little tricky too
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