- If you really want to find out why your ex comes back
or why other guys reappear,
then this video is just for you.
Hi, guys, my name is Ieva Bereisaite,
I'm one one Greta's high value women coaches
and today I'm going to be naming five reasons
why men always come back.
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Reason number one is that they want to have an ego stroke.
If a guy checks in on you and texts you something like,
hi, how are you?
How have you been?
Then it shows that he is actually checking in on you
to see if you are still available for him.
Sometimes these types of men reach out even after years,
and very often these types of men
want to see if you will jump into the palm of their hand
when they reach out.
They basically want to see if you will start chasing them.
And the most important thing,
again, if you know anything about being high value,
it is not to chase.
These men or these guys that reach out,
they want to see if you're gonna be chasing them
and if you're gonna start pursuing them
to have an ego stroke,
they obviously want to feel better about themselves
for whatever reason
and they want to get an ego push,
they want to feel like they can have anything they want,
and so when they do reach out,
whatever you do, you don't start chasing them,
because remember that one of the reasons
why they would do it is to get that ego stroke.
Most men are used to women chasing them,
so you have to remind yourself of that.
So when he does reach out, a lot of men,
especially if they have had low value women in their life,
or if you were low value with them,
they might be used to the idea of being chased,
and that will give them an ego stroke,
so whatever you do, as I said, don't chase.
If you really liked a guy, for example, and he pulled away
and you never heard of him again for a really long time
and he just randomly texted you something like,
hi, how are you or anything short and subtle like that,
then it is very possible that he just wants to be
overloaded with attention
to make him feel confident about himself again
and to make him feel cool again in a way
because for a guy to have a girl pursuing him,
it will really boost his confidence.
And as I said, one of the main reasons why men do this
is to have an ego stroke.
Keeping this in mind,
this can actually even happen when the guy
has been in a relationship with a girl
and the girl left him.
When a girl leaves a guy,
the guy's ego is really shattered
because he has just been left,
and so it is possible then in these types of situations,
he will reach out to maybe his exes
or other girls that he has been chatting with
just to get an ego stroke, to boost his ego
because his ego has been shattered from or by his ex.
So this is something to definitely take into consideration
if your guy or your ex
reached out to you after a longer period of time.
The second reason is that distance makes him miss you.
If you have been with your guy for a longer period of time
and you ended up breaking up with each other
and sometime has passed maybe a month or two,
three, four, five, six, seven,
and he reached out to you, it can mean that he missed you.
A man misses a woman because of the distance between them,
this distance or this time that has passed
between you guys not being together
has potentially made him recall all the good times
that you have had in your relationship together.
And when a person recalls the good times,
they end up missing those times
and the person that is attached to them.
Very often people are reminded
of the good stuff in a relationship
when it has been mostly good,
quite rarely are men reminded
of the bad times in a relationship,
unless it was completely bad,
but if the relationship was more or less good
and you had a lot of fun times together
and a lot of really awesome moments after a period of time,
men and people in general will be reminded
of those good moments
and then the guy starts missing those good moments
and those experiences and you as well.
So if this is the case for you
and you feel like your guy has reached out to you because
he misses you or some man might even say, miss you,
you know, after having texted for a little bit,
they might actually say that, well, I miss you,
you know, so remember this might be a nice thing to hear
but always remember that actions speak louder than words,
so see what he has to say
and where he goes with the conversation,
does he offer to meet up or go on a date for example?
So see what he has to offer
because everyone can speak nicely if they want to
but it's the actions that we should really focus on.
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Reason number three is he wants what he can't have.
Have you ever found yourself in this scenario
or maybe you've heard of your friend
speaking about this or telling you this experience?
I know I've heard it a couple of times
and it is very interesting to see, and that is, for example,
when the girl has a new boyfriend
or actually is engaged or married,
sometimes the ex after a longer period of time
of not speaking will reach out to her,
the way that I see it is some men
really do want what they cannot have.
If this happens,
then it is really this idea in the guy's head,
oh, now she's taken, I wonder if I can still win her over?
This also goes hand in hand with the ego stroke
because let's look at this scenario,
for example, if a girl is engaged
or in a relationship or even married and her ex reaches out
and she leaves her now boyfriend or husband for her ex,
this ex would have the biggest confidence
and ego stroke boost ever imagined.
Some men find it more challenging to win a girl over
if she is in a relationship.
The most important thing to get out of this
is to realize and not be manipulated
or let yourself be seduced by the idea of,
oh, well, I'm married now and I have a boyfriend
or I'm dating someone and it's getting really serious
and my ex reached out,
I wonder if I still have chances with him?
That's a very low value type of way to go about doing stuff,
because if you're in a relationship,
be devoted to the relationship that you are now.
And that's the best way to go about this.
Be honest with yourself and never get involved with someone
if you are already in a relationship.
So if you are married or in a relationship or engaged
and your ex reaches out and you really don't understand why
and you just want to know why
but you don't have any feelings for him,
you have feelings for your current guy,
then it can really mean that he either missed you,
you know, he wants an ego stroke,
or he now wants you because he sees that he can't have you
and it is a challenge.
Whatever the case might be,
just ignore it and act like it never happened
because at the end of the day
the ex just missed his chance with you,
that's basically it and sometimes it's just too late.
Also, it is definitely not a nice move to make
from a guy knowing that the the woman is in a relationship
and they reach out to her.
It's not a nice move to make
and it's not a nice thing to do,
so it says a lot about him as well in a negative light.
Reason number four is that his girlfriend
is not as good as you.
If a guy is with someone,
he is seeing someone exclusively
or he's basically in a relationship
and he messages that he misses you,
or even, maybe he just simply reaches out to you and says,
hi, how are you?
How have you been?
It shows that he's not that into his current girlfriend
and that they might be having some relationship issues.
Either way, if a guy is taken
and he is in some form of a relationship,
he should not have any interest in your life,
he should not play a role in your life anymore
because at the end of the day
no woman wants to be with a guy who is taken
because being with a guy who is taken
or is in a relationship and you show interest to him
just because he reached out to you is low value,
especially if you know that he is in a relationship,
it's just very wrong on so many levels
and it's just definitely not a nice thing to do for sure.
Also, if a guy is in a relationship
and you know that he's in a relationship
and he however tells you,
oh, but the relationship's not making me happy
and I really liked our relationship,
don't you wanna meet up and catch up?
If he says anything like this,
remember that you are his second choice,
do not fall for this type of scenario
because it is a very manipulative,
it is very low value
and at the end of the day,
it is someone who's dishonest
and trying to trick the woman into thinking
that she is super special in his eyes
and she's the only one,
whereas if she was the only one,
there would not be a girlfriend or even a wife,
you know, in the scenario.
So don't fall into this trap basically.
And high value women do not go out with men that are taken.
It would also show that this guy is dishonest
and should not be taken seriously.
So the best case scenario would be
to just move on and leave it.
Reason number five is he wants to see
if there is still a chance with you,
or maybe you have changed.
Sorry for the disturbance again, second video.
Do you wanna say hi Bella?
Sometimes men check in to see if you have changed.
Maybe you have become high value.
Remember that a high value man
will want to be with a high value woman.
So sometimes if a guy has broken up
with you or the relationship ended and he reached out
and he might just want to see if you have have changed.
If you are both single and you do like him,
then act high value.
And the simplest way of doing it in this case would be
letting him come to you.
Men might also want to see
if they have another shot with you.
So if a guy who is single reaches out to you
after a longer period of time and you like him,
then remember that the ball is in your field
and you can totally decide how to take it from there, right?
And you should act high value,
let him chase you, be involved in your life,
be on the receiving end of things, not seem too keen,
and to keep the mystery.
By doing these things and acting high value
and doing the things that gratitude teaches
you are going to become happy
and there will be something to build out of it
That will be wonderful for you.
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