growing up I was taught that the world
can be a scary place older you get
influenced by so many in my life about
how getting older you lose out on more
opportunities and adventures but that
couldn't be further from the truth
looking back on the chapters in my life
I couldn't be more proud of myself we
forget how much we've accomplished in
our lives and the lessons we've learned
and how much we've grown to be the human
we are today not only do we become
teachers as we get older we remain
students that's another thing that you
need to remember as we inch towards our
30s 40s 50s and beyond
never quit learning and continue to
educate those who need a lesson or two
in life the best thing about growing
older is how much of an impact we have
on society and younger generations it's
also important to remember that it's
never too late to do anything we're
taught that certain ages mean we can't
do something but that is only a limiting
belief and we need to stop listening to
and preaching that to others start to
believe that once you hit a certain age
that you can do something not to tempt
becoming thirty I know now is the best
feeling knowing I can continue my
passion for teaching and impacting
others the 20s were my moments to
discover grow and learn and I can't even
begin to tell you what my 30s might hold
a whole new adventure awaits
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happy birthday to me it's not actually
my birthday my britmore tomorrow and
he's washing stuff for me today he's
like doing chores for hygiene but yes
it's a day we're gonna go for a walk
even though it looks like it's gonna
rain on my birthday and then we're gonna
get cake oh my god I love cake I like
chocolate cake I'm so excited and then
we're gonna get stuff to make tacos -
that's my favorite meal yeah I don't
know what else I'm gonna do today I'm
actually planning on planning today
bougie booked a super expensive hotel
for us to stay in and Nico for one night
that is gonna be actually my birthday
present I love tacos and I love burritos
I can't live without them by the gym
between sushi or tacos and cheese tacos
what really what would you choose that's
a tough question uh I like both but I
feel like I'd get sick of sushi after a
while I feel like I never get sick of
Mexican food I don't know you like sushi
once a week and maybe Mexican for the
rest of the six things
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hello everyone so today's video is gonna
be not so cinematic or voiceover II
maybe the intro is gonna be like that
you guys probably seen the intro it's
because this is a very emotional time
for me and it's a time for a new chapter
in my life and I'm so excited for it I
feel like turning 30 is like the best
thing because there's just so much that
I learned in my 20s that I can take and
use for my 30s you know like all the
lessons I've learned I'm just more
prepared for my 30s and more prepared to
be a grown adult I really wanted to talk
about the things that I learned in my
twenties that can really help you guys
out in the future there are so many
lessons you guys so many this could be
like a part 2 part 3 video but I'm just
gonna kind of highlight some of the
things that I learned while living
abroad in my twenties I learned what
self love truly is once I shipped myself
off to the land of Japan I realized that
I was on my own but this was it that I
am taking a hundred percent
responsibility for my experience in my
life it was a slow learning curve
everyone was saying that pampering
yourself with painting your nail bath
having a day off is self-love although
that is part of healing and taking care
of yourself self-love is what you can
provide for yourself and I realized in
the end but all the things that I had
gone through the heartbreaks the drama
the loneliness all of those things are
things that I could provide to myself I
can provide love to myself I can provide
encouragement to myself I don't need to
feel lonely I can take myself out on a
date I can go and meet people if I want
to I just felt like I was always playing
the victim a lot of the times my 20s and
I soon towards the end in my 20s
realized and I don't need to play the
victim that I can learn from all of
these things and I can provide a lot of
these things to myself once you go to
another country it just kind of hits you
harder I think it hits you harder and
realizing that you are responsible for
yourself doing something that scares you
can be the best feeling in the whole
entire world I pushed myself to do a lot
of scary things starting a YouTube
channel
to nagoya by myself moving to Japan by
myself
modeling getting married just somebody
that I met long distance like all of
these things scared the crap out of me
starting a business now I'm starting a
business and I'm starting a business to
change people's lives that that was the
end of that was a realization that was
like life purpose finding your life
purpose is a lot deeper and there is a
Japanese concept that goes with it and
it and it just has been a very good
blueprint for me to follow throughout my
twenties that got me to where I am today
but doing things that scare you is one
thing that can help you figure out what
you are good at and what your skills are
and what you like and what you don't
like whether it's in relationships
community career any part of your life
in order to reach the goal of figuring
out what you truly need in your life or
what you want you have to do things that
scare you all my life you know in the
beginning in my early 20s I was always
like oh this is too hard or someone else
maybe can do that but I can't do that I
started to realize throughout men
mid-20s and late 20 and ooh those things
anybody can do anything as long as they
practice and they work hard and they try
you're gonna fail many many times or
maybe something is just not gonna work
out and it'll turn into an amazing story
someday like a hilarious embarrassing
story you can compare everybody's life
to a book nobody wants to read a boring
ass book people want funny things people
want to relate to a story people want to
read things that have romance failures
venture and the ups and the downs people
want to read exciting story and if
you're constantly afraid then you just
don't have a story you're just gonna
live on the first page for the rest of
your life I just realized slowly but you
know these are chapters in my lives life
and someday I'm gonna write a bomb-ass
book about what I've done in my life it
led me to my life purpose today if that
makes any sense but doing things that
scare you is so important it's going
along with that you're capable of doing
more than you think when I moved abroad
I quickly realized that I didn't have
anybody to depend on you just learn to
trust your gut you've learned to figure
things out on your own anywhere
do things on your own I realize this is
kind of a small thing but I realize I
owned a lot of things I owned way too
much in Japan the houses everything's
the apartments are way too small and
when I moved here I had so much stuff I
started to accumulate more than I
actually needed and I things became
cluttered and just really stressful and
so I started to kind of adopt minimalism
a little bit I kind of became a body a
Kondo of my life I started getting rid
of things and being mindful of the
things that I bought or had in my house
you'll experience the highest of highs
and the lowest of lows if you live in
another country throughout my 20s I
experienced intense highs and intense
lows I think if I were to live in my own
country those things won't wouldn't be
as intense because in the beginning you
always have a support system experienced
a lot of the lows very very intensely
inside of me and then once and that I
would experience super highs when I
would travel and do exciting things and
it's just a lot of ups and downs and
learning and figuring things out
I learned that feeling the way that I
feel is OK learning to accept my
emotions and anxiety and stresses and
sadness and loneliness and happiness and
excitement learning to accept those
things about myself and realizing that
that that is part of human life that is
part of who we are that it's okay to
feel that way and to not suppress those
feelings and I started to read a lot of
self-help books and things to feeling
like my anxiety and my stresses and my
loneliness of living abroad was not okay
but just you know those feelings in
general were not okay and then I need to
fix myself people are telling me like
stop complaining job stop stop stop
when it's okay to feel that way it's
it's okay it's it's natural it's it's
it's a part of who we are as humans
everybody has different battles and
different challenges and different
things that they're going through in
their life and those emotions are
naturally going to come up
once you start to accept those feelings
and nurture them with love instead of
getting angry that they're coming up and
battling them which you don't need to
battle them they're just a part of you
they're trying to fit those emotions and
those feelings are trying to protect you
in reality there's no solution there's
no answer to fixing anxiety or fixing
sadness or fixing the things that you
feel you don't need to fix yourself and
I think it gets worse when we feel that
there's something wrong with us to
suppress those feelings makes it worse
we are meant to feel intensely once we
begin to accept the emotions that rise
within ourselves we start to see things
in a more neutral way my battery is
going to die but these are some of the
things I learned in my 20s and I'll
probably write a whole blog post about
this but oh my god you guys I'm gonna be
30 tomorrow this is so crazy this is the
next chapter of my life I'm gonna go now
I have to meet new G at the station
we're gonna get some stuff to make tacos
cuz it's my favorite meal be alright doj
finished oh my god this mess was so big
on me
did you finish his haircut so I'm going
to go meet him at the grocery store and
we're gonna pick up some things and
we're gonna cook a little bit later I'm
not really hungry now cuz I just had to
lunch but I'm gonna come back just relax
watching YouTube videos just beat myself
not worry about any work until tomorrow
they have seat sweet 16 what is this no
orange generate fruits oh it's a
lipstick oh my god I thought it was
candy oh my god it's so funny kay were
at the grocery
door and it's absolutely crowded and
chaotic does if I don't shop on the
weekend Yugi needs to get a beer because
we're celebrating my birthday you should
get the best beer yes it's my birthday
so you should get the best beer say that
you're fine make the most has delivery
in Japan
this is McDonald's delivery cars isn't
that funny they're brought they're
brushing their teeth having the time of
their life okay so we're just like
walking around looking the feed what
we're gonna do because too early to eat
but it's nice to get out Yugi distracted
by all the food
yeah
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yep
you don't have to talk with someone I
know right what chicken tikka masala
Pringles what
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he's admiring the view Wow
my my birthday feast I'm actually so
happy we came here because I missed this
place so much there's like nobody here
you guys yeah nobody
oh my gosh he's like are you telling you
don't even like
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they sing happy birthday they just sing
the regular happy birthday they're like
happy birthday to you with Japanese
accent yes okay yeah I love the smell of
candles I'm vlogging with my parents
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yeah I'm 30 yeah good morning everybody
so it is June 1st my actual birthday and
I always sit in front of this window
because the lighting is just so good but
I am feeling a type of way today just
because there's so much stuff going on
California is in shambles people are
rioting and looting and you know all
that stuff and I totally understand
where all of that is coming from I
totally understand that there's anger
and frustration and I know that there
are more peaceful protests out there
that are happening than the violence and
to be quite honest what I feel is that
there are a lot of people that are
looting and causing so much violence and
you know anger and destroying things and
putting people in danger and they're not
part of anything
they have no stance they're not part of
the black lives matter they have no
opinion on this whole situation they
don't care about the situation they
don't care about the black lives matter
movement they don't care about anything
and there's people out there like that
that are just taking advantage of the
situation and looting and stealing and
doing all of that stuff and those people
just don't care about anything at all
and that is what I'm upset about because
there are a lot of businesses that are
going up in flames that black people
owned there's a lot of stuff that's
happening from people that again like I
said a hundred times they just don't
care they have no they don't they
haven't taken a
side it's confusing there's a mix of
people that are actually frustrated and
angry and then there are people that are
taking advantage of the situation there
are ways to protest online keep posting
about it bring some awareness to the
situation there are places to donate I
donated to the black visions collective
and I will link that down below if
you're interested in donating there's
you know other places that you can
donate as well I did donate some money I
don't have a lot of money but I did get
birthday money and I gave some of that
away and I really hope and encourage you
guys to do the same because this does
need to change and I see that now and a
lot of my friends who are of color have
told me some you know horrible things
that aren't being showed in the media or
on the news and there's so many people
dying by the hands of our people that
should be protecting us and it's very
scary but there's also a lot of things
that aren't being covered in the media
and hopefully if we speak up about this
and we donate and we you know draw
awareness to the situation things will
eventually change and this is gonna go
down in history it's crazy this is
happening during a pandemic let me know
what you guys are doing to support the
situation because this is a very serious
thing and I hope that the people that
are rioting some of the people are that
are rioting are people that have you
know good intentions of change let's go
ahead to say please donate
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