- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica J.
I was just wondering if you've ever
sat and thought to yourself,
"Uh, Jessica, how do I get her to approach me for once?"
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Milo!
Well, so I'm glad you asked,
cause today I'm gonna talk about three things
you could do to get women approaching you,
when you're out and about,
without you having to talk to them.
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Well, I'll tell you right now,
I rarely talk to people when I'm out and about.
I'm rarely out and about cause people terrify me.
But I've noticed for the people
that I reach a conversation with,
or with whom I reach conversation,
there's one common theme that'll help you
getting women approaching you,
instead of you having to do so yourself.
And because I know y'all are always eager to hear ways
about how women can start taking over
and doing more of the work in the whole seduction dance.
Let's cut right to number one.
Oh yeah, the theme,
I'll talk about the theme at the very end
and how you can implement this habitually
in your everyday life, ingrain it into memory,
make sure that it's now happening on autopilot,
so that women come at you everywhere you go.
So you can go right into pound town with them.
Okay, sorry, number one:
The first way to get women to approach you
is to use your face.
I noticed men are so much more comfortable
approaching me when I do this.
And I notice I always approach people
or even men who do this to me.
So for instance, about a decade ago, I was up in the club
and I was waiting on line to get my drink order,
cause I'm, I'm only 4'11 and you know,
for as loud as y'all take me on here,
I do get drowned out by the drum and bass.
So I'm sitting there on this line
and I see this guy along the way, who is also on this line.
I don't even remember what he looks like,
but he looks at me and he does one of these.
Signaling that like,
"Girl, are you as annoyed as I am right now?"
So then I respond with one of these.
And then he responses one of these.
And then I respond with one of these.
And before you know, him and I are full on conversation
with just our f***ing faces.
Then out of nowhere, he just stops.
I just stopped, we get our drinks.
And then I'm like, "What happened?"
So then I find him later on, I shove him and I'm like,
"What's up?
You're supposed to find me so we can talk shit."
But it is in that communication,
it is in that non-verbal connection
where I now felt comfortable enough with this person,
I felt connected enough and I felt compelled enough
to go chase him down and be like,
"What gives?
We're in a relationship now."
there's having a good time for us tonight,
I'll just, I'll just say that much more.
Whoo!
So use your face, that is your first line of communication.
And when women feel comfortable and connected
off of the shared environment, y'all have with one another,
we will feel so much more inclined to come after you.
The second one is talk to people in her vicinity.
Fine, if you're fully aware of the fact
that when it comes super hot chicks
you want to talk to,
you know that your approach isn't necessarily on point,
but you know,
you're perfect enough with anyone else
who isn't a woman you want.
Then open the conversation with somebody in her vicinity
when she sees how capable you are of connecting
with other people, When she hears other people,
comfortable with you, engaging with you,
she will feel that comfort and connection as well.
And again, feel compelled to open you up as well.
I can't tell you how many times dudes will come
and talk to somebody standing right next to me.
And I'm like, "Why am I not included in this conversation?"
And then I'll just like, kind of, you know, assert myself
if they seem like they're having a grand old time.
Energy is contagious.
What are you doing?
I'm telling you right now your energy is contagious.
So if you open somebody in her vicinity
with that super warm, super friendly, gregarious energy,
she is going to feel that not only from you,
but from the person next to her.
And you know, everybody loves a good Amazon review.
If it looks like that,
person's having a grand old time talking to you,
we're going to want to have a grand old time
talking to you too.
So if you know approaching isn't your forte,
but you're really good with approaching anybody else,
then talk to anybody else standing around her,
I'm telling you she won't be able to help herself.
Now, the third one is actually
the secret sauce behind number one and two.
And if you just do this all the time in your regular,
everyday out and about,
women will feel drawn to approach you
whenever you're out and about.
So in the beginning, I tell her about this overlying theme
I noticed when I am approached by men or approached
by anybody in public or when I feel okay enough
to approach people in public.
And that's when I feel just completely relatable to them.
Here's the thing.
What makes us all feel comfortable enough to talk to anybody
is feeling like we can relate to them.
I'll tell you right now,
I approach every Filipino I know out and about
with the knowing nod.
For reference: The knowing nod,
nods up, the not knowing person nods down.
In fact let's make that a bonus one.
If you see a chick, you really like in public,
if you nod up,
she'll automatically think you guys know each other,
or you have a connection and she'll be like, "Oh my God,
I guess he knows me. How does he know me?
Does he know my soul without me knowing my soul?
Oh my God, I need to have him."
So that's a bonus one for you.
But going back to being compellingly relatable,
the way to do this is to constantly speak
about your personal relevant experiences in the moment,
which is the pinnacle of my Speak To Sparkle Arousal system.
And it's what I hammer into every single client
who comes through my spotlight speed dating program,
is knowing how to be completely relatable,
every time you open your f***ing mouth
so that you don't necessarily have to talk more,
but you are creating that much more of a connection
with anybody, you come into contact with everywhere you go.
So if, instead of when somebody asks you,
"Oh, how are you doing today?"
instead of being like, "I'm fine".
You can be like, "To be honest,
it took me four hours to get here I don't even remember
what I came her for, but now that I'm here,
can I have chocolate chip cookie?"
Being that f***ing honest
and that f***ing personable
and that f***ing relevant will always make people
feel that much more related to you.
And that's what makes people comfortable enough
to talk to you.
It's what makes them feel compelled enough,
because when they feel it in their bones and,
"Oh my God, I also have had experiences like that."
They will inadvertently want to connect with you.
So if you don't yet know how to be personal and relevant
in a habitual way,
so that it's on autopilot with women now approaching
you on autopilot.
Don't forget to check out the first two modules
and my Speak To Spark Arousal system.
At Speak Spark Arousal.com.
where no, I'm not going to tell you
that you have to change who you are.
I'm just telling you how to change, how you are,
how you present yourself to the world,
how you talk and engage with, or don't engage with women.
Cause at the very least,
if you don't have the women you want right now,
chances are you are not actually
putting your self out there.
And I'm not talking about go and be vulnerable
about your deepest darkest fears and your traumas.
Something as simple as, "It took me a long ass time
to get here, I forgot what my order was,
can I please just have a chocolate chip cookie?"
That is the amount of vulnerability
you're gonna need to give, simplest thing ever.
And I teach you exactly how to do it on autopilot,
because that's the step that we women are looking for
in regards to being able to open you up,
is feeling comfortable and connected to you.
So again, check it out right now.
If you have not yet Speak To Spark Arousal.com.
Thanks for watching as always,
and I'll see you guys next time.