hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about how to tell if your crush
likes you back now let's begin number one spatial boundaries does your crush stand close enough to
reach out and touch you if the answer is yes your crush has crossed an important spatial boundary
personal space is a subtle but powerful way to analyze different relationships
the general rule is the more space you have between you the less familiar you
are a complete stranger for example would keep a comfortable distance away from you a
close friend on the other hand would have no problem entering your personal bubble
this concept comes from a field called proxemics which was coined by edward hall in 1963 he says
that there are four different zones of personal space each one reflecting a varying degree of
closeness so how can personal space help you figure out whether or not your crush likes you
all right let's say you have a crush on one of your co-workers and one day your crush asks if
you'll help them with a project when your crush sits down right next to you how close are they
if you're shoulder to shoulder then your crush may be welcoming you into their personal space
and trying to get comfortable in yours so don't let this huge signal go unnoticed if your crush
invites you into their personal bubble they may think of you as more than a friend number two
calculated contact according to a 2018 review from the psychological bulletin a small touch
is a nearly universal sign of attraction this review collected data from seven of the most
widely referenced research studies on romantic attraction together these seven studies reveal
which kinds of romantic body language are used by people around the world physical touch appeared in
almost every single one of these studies touching another person no matter how briefly can express
powerful emotions in a physical way it also establishes a more intimate bond with that person
crossing intimate boundaries like personal space so pay attention to the way your crush uses
physical touch a simple touch on the arm may only last a second but it could mean a whole lot more
number three self-soothing in the same 2018 review another type of physical touch appeared time
after time instead of touching another person some people show their interest by touching
themselves they'll touch their hands to their cheeks intertwine their fingers or fiddle with
their hair while there are many different ways to make contact with yourself they all send the same
kind of message you make contact with yourself when you're feeling tense anxious or under
pressure sometimes it's a good kind of pressure like butterflies in your stomach before a date
other times it's a sign of stress like waiting for someone to deliver bad news the hard part is
you never really know which one you're looking at so how can you tell the difference between
good self-soothing and bad self-soothing well the key is context if your crush is nervously rubbing
their arms while staring at the door this probably isn't a sign that they have feelings for you
instead it's more likely a sign they feel uncomfortable or trapped so it's important to
read these signals together if your crush likes you their feelings won't affect just one of the
things they do attraction changes all kinds of things about the way you behave and carry yourself
one signal no matter how strong is never enough to know how someone really feels
number four reciprocal expression does your crush show affection the same way you do
everyone has a different way of expressing their emotions especially
attraction some people use compliments to tell their partners how much they appreciate them
others use physical touch or quality time to show the important people in their lives that they care
but how does all this relate to your crush well most people show affection the same way they want
to receive affection so if your crush understands how you express yourself they'll start to express
themselves in the same way well just imagine you like getting gifts for the people you care about
you just love buying meaningful presents for every occasion just to show people that you're
thinking of them so if your crush likes you they may return the favor they'll get you a
meaningful gift because they understand that gift giving is how you express your emotions
number five attention from friends have you ever spent time with your crushes friends did they make
an effort to get to know you or did they spend the whole night pretending that you didn't exist your
crush's friends can be a reliable indicator of how your crush really feels if their friends are
trying to bond with you then they're most likely trying to test you or to see what kind of person
you are chances are behind the scenes your crush has been telling their friends about you maybe
they've gushed about all the flirty conversations you've had and they've told their friends time and
time again how great you are so now their friends want to see for themselves if your
crush's friends have taken a personal interest in you your crush may see you as someone special
number six unspoken tension is there tension in the air every time you talk to your crush
when thinking about romance tension isn't the first thing that comes to mind
but when two people secretly like each other those unspoken feelings create electricity in the air
well why is that because every moment every word you say is charged with emotion
and uncertainty both of you are sitting there wondering who will make the first move
both of you are analyzing each other trying to figure out how the other person really feels
but this tension is not a bad thing not at all if you experience moments of tension like this
it means there are sparks flying yeah they're nerve-wracking and confusing but tension is a dead
giveaway that things are more complicated than you thought number seven mundane conversations
what do you and your crush talk about do you cover mundane subjects like work school or what
you had for lunch believe it or not these simple conversations really bring people closer together
it's a tell-tale sign that your relationship has progressed beyond a casual friendship
each time you have these mundane conversations you're spilling intimate details about your life
most people think opening up means getting personal answering hard questions
or telling someone about the hurdles that you've overcome but you and your crush will bond when
you get involved in each other's lives maybe you tell them about the little things that annoyed
you at work or how you said something stupid to your boss this morning neither of these
conversations are particularly exciting or tragic but then again most stories aren't if your crush
still cares and asks for more then they're interested in getting to know the real you
number eight standing beside you does your crush stand next to you in a crowd do they
always take the chair beside you when you go out to eat these things don't happen by accident if
your crush is always standing or sitting near you your crush is trying to send you a message
they want to be closer to you deep down they feel the most comfortable right next to you
so they'll stand beside you whenever they can your crush may push through a crowded room
just to find you and stand next to you even if that means pushing someone else out of the way
number nine consistent engagement instead of staring at their phone or looking out
the window your crush pays attention when you talk they make eye contact they ask
questions if your crush actively engages with the conversation they care about what you have to say
now of course engagement isn't always a sign of romantic interest in some cases your crush is
just interested in what you're talking about or maybe they're engaged because they think of you
as a close friend either way engagement means that your crush cares about you on some level
otherwise they wouldn't bother listening to you in the first place so don't take their
listening habits for granted most people will tune you out or leave the conversation
if your crush sticks around it means they care number 10 endless questions boring questions
especially over text are a common sign of romantic interest alright let's say you've reached a lull
in the conversation you just finished telling a story but now there isn't anything left to say
but suddenly your crush fills the silence with a random question they ask about your favorite food
or what you did last weekend chances are they don't really care about those specific answers
they just want to keep the conversation going they're not ready to say goodbye just yet
they want to keep connecting so your crush may ask every single boring question they can
think of and if this sounds like your crush they may see you as more than a friend hey thank you
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