Hi, there. Mat Shaffer,
your empowerment, connection, and relationship coach.
Today, I'm here to share with you seven tips that you're going to be able to use
to kiss a man like a goddess and create a physical connection with him
that really leaves a deep impression on him.
I can't wait to unpack those with you, but before I do,
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The first tip I want to give you is to use the magic inch.
[chuckles] I know that sounds a little funny,
but the magic inch is this magic little space
between your mouth and his mouth.
As you're going to kiss him or as your mouths get close,
there's this electricity that's created between the two of you.
It doesn't have to be an inch, but just allowing some separation
between your mouths and he's anticipating that kiss
and you're holding back just a little bit,
and so the two of you can actually keep that space
going back and forth.
The more you can milk that anticipation
and that space between your mouths,
that is a really powerful way to help build the energy up
and make the ensuing kiss even more powerful
and even more electric.
That also works really well after you've been kissing for a little while,
to pull back and allow that space to be there
and let him pursue you and come forward.
You want to remember that kissing is a language.
It's a form of communication, just like anything else.
You're dancing back and forth with each other. You're talking with each other.
I'm going to tell you a little bit more about that at the end of this video.
Be sure to stay with us till the end, we're going to be getting a lot more into that.
Using this magic inch is a great way to embody
the dynamic of the masculine and the feminine in your kissing
because he can be the pursuer and he can be trying to bridge that gap
between the two of you.
You can pull away and play with him and tease him and invite him forward
by maintaining that separation.
It's a really fun tool to use to do masculine and feminine polarity dynamics
down at the kissing level.
Isn't that cool?
Tip two is really important, is that you want to vary intensity of kissing
with a man when you're kissing with him.
Remember, kissing is a language.
Physicality is a language and for most men, touch is our number one
love language, for most guys out there.
Men are creatures of variety when it comes to physical touch.
Giving men a wide variety of kissing will help keep him engaged.
Starting off very softly and gently, and just brushing your lips against his.
Then as you guys, as it gets more intense and more passionate
allowing yourself to kiss him harder and firmer and more aggressively
and allow him to lead and then you to lead and to go back and forth like that.
The more you can vary the pressure and the different ways that you kiss him,
it's going to help keep him excited and engaged
and help him take the lead on that,
which is of course what you want from a masculine-feminine perspective.
If you can vary the intensity,
you're really going to create a more engaged, exciting make-out session with him.
Tip three might seem a little scary if you've never done it before,
but it's so effective, to use your teeth.
Now, your teeth are a really powerful tool you can use to spike the passion
and to let him know that you really want him or that you're really into him,
or you're really into the connection that you two have together.
Using your teeth in a gentle way to grab his lip,
to grab one of his lips and pull on his lip or chew it a little bit,
or to even grab his tongue a little bit and use your mouth
as just another way of varying the sensation of your kissing with him.
That's super hot for a lot of men in a way that you can really,
as you're kissing him, demonstrate that you're passionate and you're really lit up
about the whole experience.
If you use your teeth effectively,
it's going to be really powerful. Don't just bite him.
Don't just bite his lips.
Again, this is something you want to engage with a man,
but see how he responds if you pull on his bottom lip a little bit.
See if he breathes in, or if he gets turned on,
then you know that you've done something that is really lighting him up
and you can probably do a little more and be a little more aggressive with him next time.
Now, tip four is all about your tongue.
Now, your tongue in kissing, it's like a paintbrush.
It can be used to paint a masterpiece, or it can make a mess.
The key to using your tongue in kissing is to go slowly,
engage your partner's comfort level.
Start off by just giving him a little tongue, just flicking your tongue across his lip,
seeing if he enjoys it, seeing if he meets you there.
If he gets more passionate or turned on by that,
then give him a little bit more, give them a little bit more
and then see if he responds by giving you some tongue as well.
Let that deepen. Again, it's like a dance.
As you gauge how comfortable he is with tongue,
you can meet him there and play with him in that space.
One of the worst things you can do is just [chuckles] is give a guy a ton of tongue,
and that's not something he's comfortable with or not something he's used to.
It might actually shock him, turn him off,
and take him out of the experience.
When you're using tongue, just go a little bit at a time,
see where your partner's at, and then meet him there
and then just dance with that, and it will be a lot of fun
and can really escalate the passion and take things to another level.
Tip five might be the most powerful kissing technique that you have,
and it has nothing to do with your mouth, seriously.
This is a use your nails.
Your nails are such an incredibly powerful tool in kissing
because you can add an entirely new sensation to kissing
while you guys are locking lips and you can use your nails on the back of his head.
One of the greatest places to use your nails and your hands
is on the back of his head, going down his cheek,
even taking your nails down his chest a little bit.
That can absolutely make a man totally crumble
and get very passionate and very ignited.
Be creative in the way that you use your nails on his neck
or on the back of his head, through his hair,
and grabbing his hair as you're kissing him.
You're demonstrating to him when you do that, that you're really excited,
that you're really interested
because men are always wondering as they're connecting with a woman physically
in any way, sex, kissing, you name it,
"Am I doing a good job? [chuckles]
Is this working?" The men, generally, they're enjoying themselves,
but they're always wondering like,
"Is this landing with her? Is she into this?"
You want to take every opportunity when you're kissing a guy
to let him know, "Hey, I'm interested. I'm turned on.
I'm into this. Keep going."
Your job in the feminine is to make an invitation to him
and invite him to meet you there in that passionate, vulnerable, connected space.
Using your nails is one of the best ways to really get him excited
and to let him know that you're totally stoked to keep going with it.
Another great tool other than your mouth that you can use to kiss him
in a way that just makes him absolutely magnetized to you,
is to use your body as you're kissing him.
The way that you move your body, the way that you press yourself up against him,
the way that you allow yourself to mold against him,
and maybe you feel yourself shutter, and you let him feel that,
every time you do something with your body
and you communicate to him with your body that you're interested,
that you're turned on, that you want more,
you're inviting him into a deeper space of connection with you.
Your nails and your body,
and just all these different parts that you have are all powerful tools,
in addition to your mouth to really get him excited.
Use your body in a powerful and effective way.
Don't hold back.
If you have a date and it goes great, and you want to have a really passionate kiss
that he'll remember, allow your body to press up against his as he kisses you.
That's really going to be something that is going to inspire him
to want to see you again and inspire him to want to continue to get to know you
at a deeper level.
Use your body, use your nails,
use everything you have at your disposal
and you're going to create a huge impression on him as you're kissing him.
The seventh and last tip I have for you around kissing him
is to really look at this as a dance and as a piece of music
in which you were the conductor.
You can set the tempo of this.
You can set the tempo of kissing. You can have crescendos
where I want you to really be connected to your partner.
A crescendo is when the volume goes up.
As you invite him to rise and maybe you use your tongue
or you use your teeth and you make that invitation and you let him know like,
"Hey, let's get more passionate," and he meets you there,
move with him and get more passionate with him,
get more fiery with him and allow the tempo to rise.
Then it might peak and you might hit a crescendo
for a while and then pull back.
Let there be a little space between your mouths, and then let that electricity happen
in that dance and let things slow back down
and really play with the tempo, play with the intensity
and dance with him like this, and realize
that you can be the conductor of this.
You can set the tempo and you can really make him nuts
for you by treating it like a piece of music
in which you are the conductor and guiding him,
and inviting him, and dancing with him and playing with him
as your mouths meet.
That's the way.
If you want this guy to go nuts and you want him to be passionate and ignited
and activated and drawn into you and towards you
energetically and physically,
you can absolutely do that by seeing yourself as a conductor
and seeing your kissing as a beautiful piece of music.
I hope these seven tips landed with you.
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and get out there and give that guy a kiss that's going to rock his world
and make him never be able to forget you because you have
everything you ever need to kiss him like a goddess right now.