- In this video, I'm gonna show you why they would come back
and I'm gonna show you energetically
how to unleash non-attached magnetic energy,
so that you completely transform the energy dynamic
that is currently going on.
Now, the first thing to understand
with this whole entire process
is that based on the energy we are emitting,
we are either attracting or we are repelling
based on that energy.
Now, if you're clicking on this video,
then it's a chance that you might be feeling resistance
about your current situation.
Now here's the thing,
in order to become irresistible energetically,
you must release resistance.
Irresistible is void of resistance.
And the thing is, is when there's somebody
or someone that we're connecting with,
and even somebody that we're thinking a lot about,
what happens is when we're thinking about them,
we're literally projecting energy towards them.
And that energy if we're feeling resistance
is being projected at them and they are feeling that.
So the interesting thing about this is remember,
people feel what you feel about you.
And if you're thinking about them,
there's a feeling of I'm not safe right now.
I don't feel safe within my own body
or I want someone else's validation or approval
or them to do something they're not doing.
And in a way, what happens
is then you're thinking about them
and it's literally repelling them
from actually doing what you want.
Now the reason this is, is because energetically,
when you are in your body,
and you bring the awareness into your hands and your feet,
there's a magnetic quality that comes from being present.
Now, when the energy's being projected outwards
and not only is it being projected outwards,
but it's saying I want things to be different than they are.
In a way it's an energy of arguing with reality.
It's arguing with the person
whose attention you may be trying to get.
Now energetically, the key to this
and the most powerful thing I could share with you
in this whole entire video is understanding this dynamic
and why it is important
for you to actually bring your energy back to you
versus projecting it towards them.
And the reason this also is,
is because when you are inside of your own body,
think about it, the electromagnetic energy of your heart
is thousands of times more powerful
than that of the head.
And this is something the HeartMath Institute has shown.
So what happens is, if we're thinking about someone else,
we're thinking about someone else,
we're thinking about someone else
and we're not feeling complete
or we're feeling like they're not doing something we want,
we're energetically closing in, we're feeling resistance.
There's a certain dimming of the light that occurs.
There's a certain level of energy
that begins to close in and contracts.
However, when you get more inside of your own body,
and even inside your own heart,
and you're following your own purpose
and you're doing what you love,
and you're around friends and people that you like,
and you're living by your own values, it changes the energy.
It allows you to then be who you came here to be.
And what I would encourage you to do
is to look at whether or not you are following your passion,
whether or not you are living according
to your own values and virtues,
because those go very strongly
into your own sense of integrity, to how you feel about you.
And here's another main point
I want to really wire you're in here
because this for me for a long time was a challenge for me.
I had to become aware that I was in a way
more familiarized with being the cameo
in other people's movies
rather than being the star of my own movie.
There was a level of safety I got
from wanting to help someone else,
from wanting to fix someone else.
And therefore I would attract people
that I felt like I needed to fix,
which also was implying there's something wrong with them.
And that would depolarize the dynamic,
depolarize the relationship.
And that was something that was stemmed
from a childhood wound of feeling abandoned as a kid,
and there's an abandonment wound there
to then said that in order for me
to really keep people around,
I need to do what everyone else is not willing to do.
I need to fix somebody else,
I need to stay around no matter what.
It's like I need to have an extreme amount of loyalty.
But then in the process I'd always end up abandoning myself.
So one of the main core themes that I noticed within myself,
the more I did this, the more my life transformed
is the more I stopped abandoning myself,
and the more I brought my attention inside my own body
and the more I started living according to my own virtues,
values, and levels of integrity,
and the more I became the star of my own movie,
the more my life changed as a result,
because here's the thing.
Reality is simply reflecting back to us who we are being.
And if we're being the cameo and everyone else's movie,
they're gonna treat us like a cameo.
They're gonna say, "Oh, you're there just for this purpose."
And they're not gonna respect it.
Now, what happens though is when you start
being the star of your own movie,
people, at first, they might be a little bit shocked.
'Cause like, "Why is this person
all of a sudden setting boundaries?
Why is this person all of a sudden doing what they want
when I want them to do something else?"
But here's the thing, they will eventually respect you.
And maybe if they don't, that's okay, that's on them,
but you respect yourself.
It's not like you're seeking their respect
or their approval.
See, I did the thing,
I did the thing I saw in Aaron's video.
Where's my respect?
That's one of the things to understand here too.
Don't be doing things to get a certain result.
Don't be trying to manipulate reality.
I'm gonna be this way to get this result.
Be it because it's who you choose to be.
It's an end of itself.
And I promise you, the moment you begin,
I've seen this happen so many times
with people in dynamics,
where they may be going through a breakup,
one person starts to do their own thing,
this person gets all in their head
and gets kind of needy about it, and then is coming
and maybe watching my videos or something like that.
And then what happens is they start chasing.
This person wants space, they start chasing,
this person then wants more and more space.
And then they eventually find my videos again,
and they're like, "Okay, maybe I'll listen."
And then what they do is they say,
"You know what? Aaron's telling me to detach.
He's telling me to focus on my own life.
He's telling me to become the start of my own movie,
to be safe in my own body, to do the frame technique,
to put my energy within."
Then guess what ends up happening?
This person starts to become more solid.
This person starts to become more
with momentum in their own reality.
They start enjoying their life more.
They start having fun more,
they start raising their vibration.
Then this person may come back.
May want to see why the energy feels so different.
May feel that the energy
is no longer being projected at them.
And they say, "What the hell is going on?"
I'm used to you projecting energy at me
and being all needy and shit,
now you're not being that way."
So then they start chasing, they may beg or whatever.
Here's the thing that I encourage you to do.
Really focus and to keep the energy on you,
instead of saying,
"Okay, I got what I wanted, they came back."
Because a lot of times what happens is when you do that,
you then surrender your own frame again,
and then you're back in the little toxic-type dynamic.
So what you wanna do is you wanna become solid,
not because it's gonna get this person back.
When I say solid, I mean in your own frame.
Feeling safe in your own body.
Not because it's gonna get this person back,
you wanna do it because it's how you prefer to be.
It's a way that you prefer to live your life,
the star of your own movie.
Not as like a narcissist, like, "I'm the star,
everything revolves around me."
But normally people that find my videos
have a similar challenge that I used to have,
where it was a part of a childhood trauma,
where as a response you say,
"I don't feel safe just being me.
I need to prove it to other people that I'm good enough,
so therefore I will abandon my myself
to make everybody else happy."
Then you end up becoming the cameo in everyone else's movie,
and then people don't respect you,
you have trouble setting boundaries.
You're searching for their validation or approval
and don't even know it.
But then you start bringing the awareness back.
You start validating and and approving of yourself.
You start to bring the energy more inside of your body.
You start going out to your purpose,
living and having a vision for your life.
And then the energy will completely change about you.
But I'll say it will change more than anything else
when you also do this.
Your internal beliefs about yourself
are what is reflected out and you get a reflection of.
So you're projecting out what you believe about yourself.
Now I find it very funny that very often
people that go through a breakup
or they go through some type of separation.
A lot of times, it's because they don't see
their own sense of worth.
They don't see their own sense of value.
They don't believe they are worthy.
They don't believe they are valuable.
They may even believe that people don't stay,
they always leave because I'm not worthy.
Well, guess who you're gonna attract if you believe that?
You're gonna attract people that don't see your own worth,
because you don't see it.
You're gonna attract people that don't stick around
because you don't believe they stick around.
You're gonna attract people
that are a reflection of that belief.
And the funny thing is, is if you want someone to come back,
the key to this is you seeing your own value.
You feeling your own sense of self-worth.
You tapping into your own heart energy,
not because it's gonna get them to come back,
because it's who you prefer to be,
and it's the kind of work you prefer to be doing.
The more you open up your heart,
the more you see your own sense of value and worthiness,
the more people will reflect that back to you.
So I encourage you to get more inside
of your own heart center.
For me, this meant becoming vulnerable,
sharing vulnerably how I feel,
sharing vulnerably the real me,
even if it meant I could get rejected
'cause a lot of times this abandonment wound
is you don't wanna get rejected, but here's the thing,
you can only really reject yourself.
If you are just being the real you,
you're just being the real you.
If other people don't like it, that's on them, not you.
When I learned this, it changed everything
because then I was able to be more assertive
when I was dating.
Be able to say, "Oh, actually I'm attracted to you,
I'm not attracted..."
Or I wouldn't say I'm not attracted to you, I just wouldn't.
Actually that wouldn't be a bad thing to say though.
If you say, "Hey, I don't feel that connection."
Because that's happened too before,
where someone, I've seen it in my coaching groups
where people say, "Oh well there's this guy I'm talking to,
and he really wants something with me
but I don't want anything with him and blah, blah, blah."
And it's this weird thing.
And I'm like, "Well, why don't you express it,
that you're not interested?"
It's like a whole new world.
It's like, "I didn't know that was an option.
I just thought I had to be nice."
You could be real, and when you start valuing
being real over being nice,
when you start valuing being authentic and vulnerable
over being nice, validation, approval,
your life will transform
because you get in life reflective of who you are being.
And if you're being the most vulnerable version of you,
if you're being the most heart-open version of you,
you're gonna perceive of new probabilities
and new synchronicities in your life
as a reflection of that.
So when we're talking about this kind of energy,
realize the more you value you,
the more other people are gonna feel
and reflect that back to you.
So it's funny that when you get
to your sense of your own body,
you feel safe in your own body, you start valuing yourself,
then other people start valuing you,
it's because you must treat you
the way you wanna be treated by other people.
And that means loving yourself,
that means opening up your own heart.
That means letting go,
a lot of times of the abandonment wound.
Letting go of the feeling of unworthiness.
A lot of times that also means releasing the shame.
There's the not worthy wound, the abandonment wound,
letting go of the old stories.
This is really a process of you letting go
of this old version of you, of how you think, feel and act
which is in the familiar, and you becoming
this new version of you through this journey right here.
Now this journey right here, I call the MAP process.
The Magnetic Activation Process
for creating transformation in your life.
It is a way of tuning to this version of you
with an open heart, so that you can be it
because you get in life a reflection of who you are being.
And if you wanna know step-by-step,
how to go through the MAP, the Magnetic Activation Process,
go and click the link below
to a completely free training video
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I have thousands of people
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So go ahead, check that video or go to aarondoughty.com/map.
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And also if you want a video
that will show you how to use the magic of detachment
to really let go to unleash that magnetic energy,
this video is why most powerful video
on that concept right here.
What I'm about to share with you is counterintuitive
to almost everything you've been told about manifestation,
about creating your own reality.
However, I would say it's the one major difference
that will completely transform your life
if you begin to apply it.