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- Hey, psych2goers.
Are you crushing on someone right now?
Liking someone can be incredibly confusing and frustrating
because it can either end in love or heartbreak.
But it's also one of the most fun
and exciting things you could ever experience.
So while there is no definitive theory yet
about how we develop crushes
and what we go through when we do,
here at Psych2go
we've done our best to come up with these six stages
we believe everyone with a crush goes through.
Stage one: Interest.
So the story begins when you meet someone new
for the first time and you feel intrigued by them.
This stage can happen at any given moment.
Sometimes it can be as quick
as when you first lay your eyes on them.
And other times it can take awhile before you feel a spark.
When you develop a crush on someone you've known
for a long time like a close friend,
a lot of people tend to deny
and debate with their feelings first,
before they can accept them.
But the moment you do, you'll suddenly feel the pull
of romantic attraction taking a hold of you.
That there's something special about this person.
That's when you move onto stage two: Curiosity.
Did you look up your crushes Facebook profile,
browse through all their posts and tweets
and view their Instagram stories?
Maybe you even added them on one of their handles
if you were feeling brave enough.
You did all of this so that you could get a better idea
about what kind of person they are,
how much they have in common with you
and how compatible you'd be together.
Once someone catches your eye
it's only natural to feel curious about them.
You wanna get to know them better
all their likes and dislikes, their hobbies,
their dreams, their favorite things.
Some people do this by simply going up to their crush
and asking them about it.
But others feel too flustered and nervous
to even strike up a casual conversation.
So that's where social media enters the story
like a Knight in shining armor.
Stage three: Infatuation.
Now that you know for sure you have a crush on this person,
next comes infatuation.
And for many of us,
this is the best part about having a crush.
Because when you're infatuated with someone,
your whole world starts to change.
Everything seems so much brighter,
more vibrant and more beautiful to you
now that you found someone
who makes you giddy with excitement
every time you think about them.
There's this never ending flurry of butterflies,
fluttering in your stomach.
And you always feel like you're floating on cloud nine
with each glance or each word of conversation
you share with your crush.
They send you a text message
and you feel like your whole day is made.
They make you laugh
and the memory doesn't leave your mind for days.
Even the mere mention of their name
is enough to make you blush and swoon.
At this stage, everything seems perfect.
Your crush is everything you ever wanted
and you just want this feeling to last forever.
Then comes stage four: Sharing.
You know you're really starting
to get serious feelings about someone
when you tell your friends about them.
Of course, sometimes your friends can figure it out
for themselves when you have a crash.
But what matters most isn't that your friends already know
it's that you wanted to tell them about it regardless.
You wanna talk to your friends
about how your crush makes you feel
and tell them all the things you like about them.
You want their advice
about what to reply to your crushes text,
or what to say next time you see them.
And you ask them what they think your crush meant
when they told you this or that.
You want their support and their encouragement,
but also their honest opinion.
And it's usually because of your friends
that you slowly start to realize the flaws your crushes have
or where your relationship with them is going on,
which can end with you either heading to stage five
or straight to stage six.
More on that later.
Stage five: Falling in love.
To like, and to love are two very different things.
But sometimes your crush turns into something more
and you find yourself falling in love with them.
At this stage, your feelings for them
are no longer clouding your judgment about them.
You've stopped putting them on a pedestal
and thinking of them as perfect
and instead, get to know them well
and grow closer to them
in a way that allowed you to see them
for who they really are.
And if you're lucky enough
that they feel the same way about you too,
then you're on your way
to starting a romantic relationship with your crush.
Congratulations.
Stage six: Falling out of love.
On the other hand, however,
you may find yourself falling out of love with your crush
after having seriously thought everything out
between the two of you.
Maybe you realize they aren't as great as you used to think,
and it's made you lose interest in them.
Or perhaps you feel that there's very little chance
of them ever liking you back
or seeing you as more than just a friend.
Whatever the reason may be,
it's made you reconsider your feelings
and snap out of your crush.
It may take some time before you can accept it.
And depending on how strongly you once felt about them
it can be a painfully devastating thing to go through.
But once it's all over and you finally moved on,
you'll thank yourself for ending it
because deep down inside
you knew that this person wasn't right for you.
And then it just wasn't meant to be.
Oh well, maybe the next one to come along will be better.
Do you relate to any of the things mentioned here?
How does having a crash feel like for you?
Can you identify the stage you're in right now?
Do let us know in the comments below.
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