How To Conquer Self-Doubt [0:00:00]
Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we might oft win, by fearing to attempt.
Guys, Shakespeare was talking about self-doubt over four hundred years ago.
It’s not anything new.
And, thankfully, there are proven methods out there that you can use to power through
to eliminate self-doubt forever.
How to do this?
Guys, that’s the subject of today’s video.
[Music] The first thing that you need to know about
self-doubt is you are not alone.
I deal with self-doubt.
Every successful person I have ever met, any person I met, when you talk to them and you
get to know them, they deal with self-doubt.
Me, I view myself as this kid that grew up in a trailer park was known as boney Tony,
was horrible with girls.
I could never talk to girls.
I never let anyone know how I felt about them because I just wouldn’t go after things.
Now, things have changed, I’m much more going to go after what I want.
I have achieved many great things that I’m very proud of, but I still look at myself
in the mirror some days, many days actually and like who is this guy?
And, here is the deal, if you feed self-doubt, it’s going to get stronger, but if you starve
self-doubt it’s going to get weaker.
And I can start to build up an ability to [0:01:09 inaudible] keep that self-doubt at
bay.
Next tip, gentlemen, get outside, exercise, go for a walk, you don’t need to over complicate
this.
In fact, study show when you’re just out walking in nature, that is best.
Now, it is nice if you’re in a city, you can go walking around not going to have the
same effect according to the studies.
But for me, going to the gym first thing in the morning that right there sets the tone
for the entire day.
The next tip to eliminate self-doubt, build up your confidence by becoming an expert.
And, yes, you can – anyone can become an expert.
When I was in fourth grade, I was an expert in World War II.
I started just diving into all these World War II books.
When it came to something I knew I had confidence and I could stand up and talk about this and
my teachers were just amazed that I could give this history lesson and go into more
detail than the books.
You can do this with anything, you just got to find what you’re passionate about.
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Don’t compare yourself.
If you compare yourself to other people, you are in for a world of hurt.
In fact, there’s a 2014 University of Toledo study that talks about people that spend a
lot of time on social media, what they find is that these people their self-confidence
their thoughts of themselves they go down because they see all these guys out there
that are incredibly rich before the age of 25, they’ve got six pack abs and they’re
60 years old.
But, that is not average and when you think that, okay, because that person is really
good at those particular things, I am somehow a failure.
Guys, that is not a true comparison.
You know your heartaches, you know your pains, you know the suffering, you know all the work
everything that’s nasty and dirty behind the scenes, but what you don’t see is that
that person has the same issues.
So, don’t compare yourself.
No one is perfect, just strive to be the best that you can be.
So, Col. Sanders was 74 whenever he finally sold Kentucky Fried Chicken was able to take
money off the table.
He was 62 before Kentucky Fried Chicken really started to gain ground and he started it in
his early 40’s.
So, what could we learn here?
Guys, it is never too late.
If you’re 40, if you’re 50, if you’re 60, if you’re 25, look at how much time
you have.
You have got twenty, thirty, fifty years especially if you take care of yourself and you have
got tons of time, more time than what you think.
Gentlemen, it’s never too late, you always have the power to change.
So, let’s talk about failure and self-doubt, they go together.
So many men are afraid to actually take a chance to do something because they’re going
to fail.
Here’s the truth, you are going to fail no matter what and life is full of failures
and falling down.
Don’t look at failures though, they’re not permanent.
You simply pick yourself back up and keep going.
It’s like with a kid, when you learn to ride a bike, you fall down.
It’s the only way to learn to ride a bike is you actually got to ride the bike.
You cannot read about riding a bike.
So, when you do that, you learn things that you can only learn to experience.
View this as an experiment and keep trying, trying again.
[0:05:02] I know for me, if I’m hitting three out
of ten, two out of ten, I am happy.
But, fail fast, move forward, guys, pick yourself up, but don’t be afraid of failure.
Next up, surround yourself with cheerleaders.
And, no, I’m not talking about those type of cheerleaders.
What I’m talking about are people that have your back, people that are going to stand
by you, people that make you feel better about yourself.
So, if I go in I’m just looking at my history here on the phone, I talk to my wife quite
a bit.
I talk to Aaron Marino, Ryan Masters, my friend, Tom Webster.
All of these people when I talk to them, they make me feel better.
They always have something positive to say or when they’re going to give me a little
bit of criticism, they do pretty good job of like, okay, I respect their opinion, but
I talk to people, I surround myself with people that are positive.
And, you want to avoid people that are toxic.
You know who they are.
And it’s very painful when their family, when there are people that just you got to
limit you got to create barriers.
I’m not saying to cut them off completely, but you’ve got to surround yourself with
people that are going to help to lift you up because otherwise they’re going to feed
into the self-doubt and that’s going to bring you down.
Stop being so negative.
So, are you an optimist or a pessimist?
Let me ask you a question.
When you look in your backyard and a tree branch falls down, what’s your reaction?
Now, that tree may fall down, you may say, oh, I don’t – I got to do a lot of work
now, I got to cut that thing up, or you may say that’s great, I needed some more firewood.
I got something to do, I’m going to go out there and get some exercise.
One thing happened, but my reaction to it says everything about me.
And if you find that you are a pessimist, you are a negative person and believe me,
this can happen to us overtime, work to actually change that.
You can have a jar that simply about things that you’ve accomplished and by simply,
again, being grateful, you can become a much more positive person.
So, the next mistake that leads to self-doubt is not taking action.
Five, four, three, two, one, do it.
Stop thinking.
When you over think things, you fall into analysis paralysis.
I was thinking, okay, should I break up the video, actually maybe film in a different
location, but I’m like the lighting is not off them like, hey, Antonio, just grab a camera
and people are going to see your dirty office, it doesn’t matter, you guys are going to
get some great information.
I didn’t over think it, so stop thinking, take action.
All right.
So, at this point you’re like, great information, Antonio, but how am I going to find time to
actually implement this?
Guys, go check out this video right here, How to Wake Up at 5:00 AM.
You wake up at 5:00 AM, you’ve got time for yourself to be able to focus in on improving
yourself, on reading, on actually going to the gym, on going for those walks.
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[Bleeping sound] I got to get out of here.
My son is playing football and I’m excited to go watch his game.
And, on the way to the football game, I’m going to be listening to Audible.
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That’s it.
Take care.
And, I’m out of here to go watch my son play football.
Bye. [0:08:08] End of Audio