Heya playas, if you're a guy or someone in a relationship with a guy, one thing becomes
apparent after a while, men get lazy and stop being romantic.
Why though?
Is it something he's doing or is the solution to the problem much simpler than we think?
I was asked this question by shamimomime on one of my videos and I think to understand
the answer, you have to go back to the beginning.
Usually what you'll see is a guy courting a woman.
He'll take her out to dinner, he'll drive her around, he'll do everything he can to
nurture her so that she feels cared for.
And this whole dreamy set up where this guy takes you on this magical adventure is called
romance.
Romance is the feeling and excitement of mystery when it comes to being loved.
And what women love most about it is that guys are pulling out all these stops to show
that he cares for her.
But lets assume that doesn't happen.
Let's say he switches things up all the time.
Why then do guys still stop being romantic?
The reason is because you the partner have fallen in to a routine too.
What happens in a lot of couples, especially when they start living together is that the
woman starts to nurture the guy.
She'll cook for him, she'll clean for him and she'll take care of the house.
The man then falls into this routine too and see's no reason for going back to courting
the girl.
He's getting everything he wants.
In his mind he's thinking why do romantic things when she's gonna do these things for
me anyway?
His basic needs are being met.
He's being fed, he's being given clean clothes and he's living in a maintained shelter.
All of which the woman is providing for him.
In today's society women work just as hard, if not harder than men and yet they find themselves
with a second job at home while the man slacks off.
Society reinforces this model because that's how things were in the past but men of today
need to wake up.
If the woman can take care of herself and you, guess what man, she doesn't need you.
Losing the excitement in the relationship kills the romance and for her that's a basic
fundamental need of her attraction for you.
So if you want to put romance back into your relationship, here are some tips on how to
do just that.
First off, guys, don't take her for granted.
Thank her each and every time she does something for you.
Whether it's cooking or cleaning, neither of those jobs are easy to do and yet she's
doing them to court you.
Besides, if you're a real man your man sensors should be going off.
The minute you hear that your woman is going to do real hard work for you, why aren't you
stepping in to help her?
Be a man, do the right thing.
Also take notice of the little things that she does and ask a lot of questions.
An even quicker tip for men, if she has anything sparkly or colorful on her body, whether it
be make up or jewelry or something on her shoes, tell her it makes her look beautiful
and ask her about that item.
It'll let her know that you're paying attention to her and that you appreciate the little
things that she does to get you to appreciate her.
And finally the most important part is to continue to take charge.
This doesn't mean you can't let her do things for you, trust me sometimes a person feels
worthy when they can do something for someone else.
But every so often try to step in and help her out.
What do you guys think?
What can men do to be more romantic?
Leave your comments below because I think a lot of guys would like to know.
There are plenty of ways to assert yourself, whether it's peeling potatoes or bringing
your laundry down to the washing machine or even tossing out the garbage when it starts
to overflow.
These little things can keep the romance in the relationship because she'll start to become
excited at the idea that you're willing to care about her just as much as you did on
day one.
As always guys, love and peace.
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