Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me for another video. I'm really excited about this topic this week because
worrying and stress is something that
We're human. We're going to worry at times
we're going to stress about things and I think that
To try to pretend like we should never worry about something or stress about something is ridiculous
So, I think it's more of learning
Coping skills and tools to help you in life and a lot of this channel
most of this channel is educational and it's about teaching you things that will help you in life to learn lessons to not
attract unhealthy partners into your life
but also how to be your best self and how to really take care of yourself, and I think that's something that
We don't learn growing up
We don't often learn how to not worry how to not stress how to not have anxiety how to not attract
You know a terrible toxic narcissistic partner. I think we just are taught
You shouldn't worry. You shouldn't stress but the coping skills on when we are stressing when we are worrying. What do we do?
That's something that unfortunately, we're not taught
So this channel we're going to learn now one of the first things that you must do
every single day as often as you can this is
Regardless of whether or not you're worrying about something stress about something
This is just for you to be the healthiest. You could possibly be to recognize things within yourself that you no longer
Want to have do think etc. You have to practice self-awareness
So you have to be aware of the conversation that you're having?
I mean to me that's half the battle right there because most people in this world are just Auto they're robots
They're going off autopilot. They're not even thinking about the thoughts that they're thinking. They're not curious about
Why am I having those thoughts? What are those thoughts?
They just believe every single thought that they think they attach to every single thought that they have so when we're aware, okay
I'm in a cycle right now of really worrying about something or I'm really stressing about getting this done at work paying this bill
Running through the list of all these things that I have to do
You know and am I going to be able to do this someday?
Am I going to be able to find a partner and just all of this stress and worry that we carry around?
With ourselves every single day if you're not aware that you're carrying this huge
toxic negative load with you
consistently throughout the day you are going to
Unleash and react negatively when someone, you know says something to you
You might be very irritable you might lose motivation and drive
It really affects a lot of aspects of your life your relationship your career your own mental health everything
So being aware of like, okay. I'm in a cycle right now of worrying and stressing and
Recognizing that and I know that sounds very very basic and simple, but you have to recognize okay?
I'm in a cycle right now, and I need to get out of it
I don't want to be in the cycle anymore
you have to recognize and accept that so the next thing is challenging your thoughts and this is
Huge you have to challenge what you think because you are not your thoughts
Your thoughts are coming from a place
And usually it's coming from your wound itself your ego self because that's the part that you have been in a habit to
pay attention to and listen to so worry and stress that doesn't come from
Unconditional love that doesn't come from whatever we're connected to you can call a guard who can kind of call it the universe source
Energy, whatever all of that is the good stuff
All of that is where we're free where we're happy where we're content where we're living in the moment, right? That's unconditional. Love
That's the voice that's reminding us that everything's gonna be
Okay
The other part of us the ego self the wound itself were all of the fear and the stress and the worry lives
Where we plays those stories over and over again about am I gonna get that job? I hope I get that job
I'm probably not gonna get that job, you know, am I gonna ever find someone someday?
Am I gonna have enough money to pay this bill? I need to make this much money a year
I mean we can go on and on and on about the stories that that part of ourselves
Likes to tell us
Constantly throughout the day that keeps us in fear keeps us worrying keeps us stressing
So half the battle like I said is knowing. Okay. I'm in this trap. I'm in this wounded ego self. I'm in this
Blame and stress and worry and fear. I'm not in being free and being happy and being content
So when we have those worried thoughts we have to challenge those thoughts. Where are those thoughts coming from?
Okay, they're coming from this part of me. That's scared. That's wounded. Totally. That's fine. That's valid
I'm a human being we all have that side of ourselves and start challenging all of those thoughts
So the thought that I'm having right now is worrying on whether or not I'm gonna meet someone someday
Am I really worried about that and if you dig into the fear and the stress?
you know a lot of what I do with my clients is when when there's fear and stress that comes up in a session or
Conversation and we begin digging into. Okay. What does that fear look like really get to the root of it
Really what the root is is you being scared of course of the unknown the fear of the unknown?
Scares the heck out of us that the fear and the worry and the stress start to Rises
Now when we have a fear of the unknown what that basically means is we're not trusting life
We're not trusting in ourselves that we can create the life that we really want
So when you don't believe in yourself when you don't believe that good things are gonna happen to you and you believe that
Life is good, and then I create my reality
so whatever I want I'm bringing into my existence by the thoughts and I'm thinking and the actions that I'm taking so when we
Don't come from that place. We're gonna fear the unknown we're gonna fear that what we really want probably isn't gonna come to us because
We don't have confidence there on ourselves that we can actually do what we need to do to attract what we want into our lives
That we don't have the self-worth of the self value probably to even think that we're even worthy of it, right?
So if I don't even feel worthy of it, I'm not gonna have any motivation or drive to go after it
I'm not gonna have positive thoughts that tell me
When that fear starts coming that I can do this and I'm capable of doing this that I'm deserving of having what I want
So when we get stuck in those stories of the fear and the stress
These are the things that you have to begin doing. Now. This is a practice
This is not something that you're gonna get right off the bat. It is a continuous practice
But this is the journey of your life. This is earning
This is you learning how to be fully
Connected to yourself fully connected to that part of you. That is unconditional
love that is
motivating you that knows you deserve it and there are a lot of things every single day that you have to do in order to
Build that self-worth within yourself to build that confidence in yourself
And it's practicing self-love its practicing how to parent yourself. It's practicing doing affirmations
It's practicing. Okay. I don't want to go to the gym, but I'm gonna go to the gym
It's practicing pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to accomplish something that you were scared to do
But once you did it you were like, wow, I did that and now I want to go even further
It's constantly investing yourself to listen to tapes to listen to motivational
Speakers and find the tools that work for you
That'll help you to really learn to start loving yourself if you love to paint
And that's not something that you focus every single day on
taking time every single day to paint to get out in nature to do whatever it is that
Makes you feel the most like yourself to start building that self-love within yourself
The next thing is and this is so simple that it's almost scary
Sometimes that we don't always live like this
But in order to relieve worry in order to relieve stress
You have to in order to be happy quite frankly in order to really be happy in every single moment in
or every single day and feel free and
You know amongst other things learning how to motivate yourself loving yourself having positive and healthy self-talk
All that stuff is really very important. But the basis of real happiness is
Living in the moment when you live in small
Moments throughout your day, right?
You know that in this moment
There is nothing for me to be worried or stress about because all I'm doing in this moment is making this video
I don't no one's calling me to do anything
no one's asking of anything of me to worry about something that could possibly
Happen or not happen in the future. That is a waste of my time and my
Energy, so think back on a point in your life or a day, whatever where you felt happy
Okay. Maybe you were at a concert. Maybe you were on a birthday party
Maybe you were just having dinner with your girlfriends or sitting
you know at a table having some beers with your buddy and just kind of talking and having a good time, whatever in
reminiscing and laughing think about a time when you have felt really
Happy and you're loving life, right?
The reason why?
You felt that happiness was because you were in the moment of what you were doing
so if you're sitting at the table having beers with your buddies if you're out for dinner with your
Girlfriends or having a spa day and you guys are just laughing and you're like having a good time
You feel free light. The reason why you felt those feelings was because you were in the moment of what you were doing
you weren't thinking about what happened two days ago where your boss upset you or
Someone did something to take you off. You're not worrying about anything that could possibly happen in the future
You were just living in this moment and the thing with living in the moment is you begin
To not get so overwhelmed
With life right with goals with what we want to achieve with with not the day-to-day
nonsense that we sometimes
Obsess about you just begin living in these small moments and in these small moments
Life seems a lot easier a lot more manageable
Because you're not so consumed with all the other noise that's going on inside your mind. So
again, I know that these seem like very basic things but these are huge huge golden nuggets that if you practice this stuff every
single day
I'm telling you you will feel a lot less worried a lot less stress and when worry and stress does come up because
You're human and it's gonna come up. Sometimes that number one
You don't judge it, right and then you recognize very quickly when it starts to come up for you. You're like, whoa
I'm starting to worry. I'm starting to stress and that's not typically me, right?
I don't obsess or overthink situation so much that it causes me to have anxiety or really stress about something
And so you begin digging into where's this coming from and you become curious?
With yourself because you're loving yourself. You're taking care of yourself. You're learning how to self parent
So you want to know just like any?
parent would want to know why their child feels worried feels stress feel scared and you would want to dig into that right and
And learn how to remind yourself of what is the reality of that fear that you're having? It's the fear of the unknown
It's the fear of not having control over what could possibly happen which is what you're thinking but the reality is is that you do
So, I hope that this has really helped you guys out there to really start practicing these things because I'm telling you this will alleviate
stress worry
anxiety depression
It'll start building
When I tell you love within yourself what I mean by that is you won't
React when you should be responding to people you won't attach to unhealthy things
unhealthy people and healthy situations
You won't overthink because your happiness is so important and you know how to give it to yourself
And I mean that's the kind of stuff that we should be investing every single day into ourselves
You know, it's more than just going to work and being with our friends and family
You have to invest every single day into yourself and doing these things and practicing these things
I'm telling you is the best thing that you could possibly do for yourself because it affects every area of your life and self-development is
Something that I wish people every single day took
Time throughout their day to really invest in themselves
so I hope that
This has been a tool that you guys will use to start investing in your own self
And if you are interested in doing private coaching with me, I will link my website down below
I do offer private coaching as well as online coaching. So if you're not able to do
You know sessions with me online coaching is definitely your best bet
It'll be a little boost to get you started into what coaching actually entails
So I hope that you have found this useful
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