(gentle music)
(glass smashing)
- The hardest part of a breakup
isn't the breakup itself,
it's the days following.
I mean, the day after is easy.
I eat a ton of ice cream.
Stay in bed all day.
Get to watch Netflix.
I have the rare excuse to be as sad as I want.
It sucks
but it's easy.
What isn't easy
is getting back to reality without you.
When things I was once happy to make habits
become habits I now have to break.
Like, texting you when I find jeans that fit.
Or when I master the perfect cup of tea.
Mmm mmm, ow.
Things only someone who cared about me the way you did
would be interested in.
It's the moments I feel sad and the only person
I want to call, is the one person I can't.
You.
I know I need to move on.
But, it's hard when I can't stop thinking about
every detail of what happened,
how it could have happened differently,
what I wish I had done, or said.
And how that could have landed me in a better place.
I'm trying really hard not to miss you.
But it's difficult when everywhere I go
I see things that remind me of you.
Like our favorite cafe.
Or, the jacket that you left behind
and I forgot to give back.
Or,
maybe I didn't forget.
But, there are only so many cafes I can avoid
and jackets I can ask your roommate to pass off to you
before I have to face the fact
that I miss you.
And I know, pretending I don't
isn't going to help.
So,
I'm giving myself permission to miss you for awhile.
I can't expect to land on my feet
and feel fine overnight.
Our lives were tied together.
Untying myself from you is going to take time.
And the good stuff will take time.
New possibilities and freedom and excitement
and as much as I want to rush to get to the good stuff
I can't.
So I'll take my time.
Yeah, I'll mope for awhile.
Lose a little sleep.
Cry a little bit.
But I'll also find new people to celebrate with.
New cafes to go to.
And plenty of jeans that fit.
Because that's all part of the process.
I hate to break it to you
but at the end of this process
you don't stop feeling sad.
You certainly don't get over it.
But there does come a moment
when you realize
life will go on.
You stop worrying what was and start thinking about
what could be.
And know this is where it starts to get good.
Maybe you get a dog.
Or you learn to cook.
You workout more.
Clean out your inbox, and fold your laundry
as soon as it's done.
Drink more coffee.
Write more poems.
Because life after the breakup is just that,
it's life.
And it doesn't have to be about the breakup forever.
Just as long as it needs to be.
Life is about getting crushed and bouncing back
again, and again,
and again.
Learning, I have value.
Just because someone doesn't want to be with me
doesn't mean I'm not worth dating.
Having self control.
Respecting others
and myself.
And remembering the good parts.
I'm thankful for the memories I have of us.
And now
it's time to make some new memories.
(gentle music)
So, how do you get over a breakup.
Let me know what you think in the comment below.
And also, this is the last episode of Crush.
I hope you guys like this show.
Please let us know what you thought about it.
And I will see you next time.
- [Narrator] Soul Pancake.
(pop music)