Well, I always say that the best way to have anybody change is to
demonstrate it in your life.
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if you change yourself. Why is this important?
Because you are the creator, you create with your thoughts and feelings!
Your life is the reflection of everything you thought and felt till
this moment. In order to manifest different
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Have a nice day! That certain people
will not see possibility until they reach crisis, till they reach
their lowest level and then they're going to wake up and say: I better change!
I think the greatest demonstration of of change really is to begin to
show others how to do it, to be the living example of it! That when you and I
are the living example of joy, that when we are not attached
to what people think, or emotions that keep us feeling sick,
and we are celebrating life, and we are passionate about our future,
that we are filled with ideas and inspiration,
that's a very contagious state of being! And people that are lost in
habits, or lost in those emotional states,
they will see it initially as a front.
It'll be a confronting moment for them.
But inside them, they secretly want to be free!
They just don't know how to do it.
So, we always say in our workshops:
You always know when someone's in the midst of change because they
stop talking about it.
They don't talk about it.
They're too busy being it.
So, if you and I are waking up every morning and demonstrating change
in our life, the people in our life have one of two choices:
They either begin
to become inspired by change for themselves,
not because you're preaching to them philosophically, but because
you're demonstrating it in your life. They'll either rise up to
that, or the person cannot maintain a relationship with the person
who's living in such freedom. Which means - they'll probably stay the
same for the rest of their life! But if crisis happens, they may make
another choice.
So, my recommendation for people who are steeped in habits and
emotional states and patterns of thought,
individuals around them have to live in a state of joy.
They have to live in a state of freedom.
They have to demonstrate it in every single area of their life.
And normally, there's a thing in physics called "entrainment".
Which means - sooner or later, others start to vibrate at
the same rate as you. So, be the example and don't drop to their level
of suffering. Because if a person is suffering or a person is stuck in
a pattern, they're using people and conditions in their life to reaffirm
that addiction to suffering. That addiction to guilt, that addiction
to difficulty.
But if they're no longer using you for that addiction, because you're
just overjoyed, they have a choice now.
They can surrender that and that's the greatest thing you can do
for them.
Is to no longer meet them on that level, but begin to influence them
to rise up.
Not by what you say, but who you are!
Well, you have one of two choices.
Listen.
Nothing wrong with feeling frustrated.
Nothing wrong with feeling sad.
Emotions are not bad.
They are the end product of past experiences. And we can remember
experiences better because we can remember how we feel.
But when you have a reaction to someone or something in your life,
there's a refractory period of chemicals that are created.
There is an alteration in your chemistry. And if you don't know how to
control that
refractory period,
and you allow it to linger for hours or days,
that's called the mood.
The mood is one long emotional reaction.
If you keep that refractory period going for weeks or months, that's
called a temperament.
So I say: Why are you so frustrated?
Well, I lost everything 6 months ago and I'm living by the same
emotional reaction.
If you keep that emotional reaction going for years,
on end, that's called a personality trait.
So, most people's personalities are defined by the emotions that they
memorized.
And so, you would say: Why are you so frustrated?
Well, I'm frustrated because I lost everything 9 months ago, or 2 years ago,
or 5 years ago. Now, purely from an objective standpoint,
what that means is - I was altered in some way because I lost
everything and I haven't been able to change for the last 2 years.
As a matter of fact, my frustration
keeps me connected to my past.
Now,
shortening the refractory period of your emotional reaction is emotional
intelligence.
Great thing to teach children.
But if a person is going to live in frustration and that is their
identity, and then they're going to tell the story of how they lost
everything within that emotion,
then they're firing
and wiring the same circuits in their brain and emotionally
conditioning their body to more frustration.
And their identity now is connected to the past.
Now, they will never
create a new future holding onto those emotions of the past. Now,
I have had many many challenges in my life that have left very strong
emotions.
I understand them.
I'm human.
But at what point do you realize that living by frustration is:
number 1 - not loving to you, because those chemicals push
the genetic buttons that will ultimately will create a disease.
Number 1. And number 2 - frustration is causing you to view your life
through the lens
of frustration.
So, you're going to look for more things in your life to reaffirm your
addiction to frustration.
And then you're going to hang out with people that complain and are
frustrated too.
And you're going to use each other to reaffirm your addiction, and
that's called a culture.
So then,
there comes a moment where a person finally says: Enough! And they say: No more!
And they begin to look at how they think, they begin to pay
attention to how they're feeling.
They begin to become conscious of how they're behaving when they're in
that state.
And if you're observing those states of mind and body, it means you're
no longer the automatic program. You're the consciousness now
observing the program. And that's when you begin to objectify
your subjective self. You're the observer of the self, which means
you're no longer the addiction, or the biology, the program that you're rooted in.
Every great person in history knew this. We go to movies to watch
people overcome insurmountable odds, because we secretly believe in
our own greatness!
So, whether I'm talking to a CEO of a company, or to a prison inmate,
or the janitor that's sweeping the floor in a school, everybody secretly
believes in their own greatness!
And when you realize that that frustration is keeping you anchored to the past,
and you realize that there's a whole lot of future for you to create,
when you can really reason that in your mind,
you will say: What is this frustration worth to me?
And when you begin to break free of it, you will be liberated and new
opportunities will come into your life!
So again, study! Study the knowledge that shows you that there are
futures possibilities! Nelson Mandela.
He had a whole lot of reasons to hate.
He had a whole lot of reasons to be frustrated, he had a whole lot of reasons
to be a judgmental.
27 years in prison. Sooner or later,
he realized - I got to be creative. You know, first 10 years of his life
he said: I'm never going to get out of here.
I'm never going to get out of here.
I'm never going to get out of here, and he was creating the emotions
of hatred and anger! Looking outside his prison after 10 years, and he
said his heart spoke to him.
And all of a sudden, it said: Maybe you could get out of here.
What if you could get out of here?
And he started thinking, how could I get out of here?
How could I get out of here?
Asked the frontal lobe question. And all of a sudden, the frontal lobe
begins to select different networks of neurons and seamlessly piece
them together to create a new idea!
And he says: I'm going to write letters to the United States on apartheid,
an anti-apartheid.
So, every week he writes
letters and he sends him to the United States.
Few years later, the United States starts answering.
And then he says: Wow, who's going to lead this nation?
Who's going to lead this nation, who's going to lead this nation?
And then all of a sudden he started thinking: Maybe I could lead this nation.
Maybe I'm the guy that should lead this nation.
And as he starts to ask this question, the most important
question comes out:
How would I have to be to lead a nation?
Now this is greatness! And he transmuted his hatred into kindness!
He took his judgment and turned it into compassion.
He took his bitterness and turns it into an unlimited mind.
He walks out of that prison
27 years later.
He gets to lead a nation.
And so, we are defined by our adversity.
We are literally defined by adversity. And if you can't take a past
experience and transmute that emotion into wisdom, then you are, you
will never evolve in one lifetime.
So, there are people in the world that had it harder than us, that
confront adversity every single day.
And if you can't see that your frustration is still keeping you to
the past, then you will only create more of the past! When you realize
that that frustration can be transmuted into something else and that
you tell the story of your own transformation one day,
now you're liberated.
And everybody can do that in this world!