This video is about = "Get to Rejection Quickly" I will explain why you should seek getting to
rejection quickly! To find out more please stay tuned to this video.... Welcome to The SCG Show!
Please hit the like button for the YouTube algorithm, and turn your life around with
BetterHelp! The link to BetterHelp is in the description below! Why are men and women
so terrified of rejection when it comes romantically? Why do we go into a panic
and a frenzy at the thought of our crush saying the following "I think we should just be friends...
I no longer find you attractive... I've fallen out of love with you....I'm not interested
I don't feel the same way.... I'm not on the same page....I don't want the same things..."
I think rejection has been over dramatized by social media and Hollywood and also our
imagination. When we watch a drama for example that main character's in love and everything is
going well = until by the end of the show they get dumped, cheated on, or something really bad happens
that sends the main character into a spiral of despair as they shout out "oh will I ever find love
again! Why me, why me!!" Are we not guilty of doing this too? Do we not over romanticize that other
person only a few dates in or perhaps go all in on someone we hardly know about because they look
kind of attractive and then if we are to get rejected for whatever reason we start acting
like that character in a Netflix drama or movie cursing our luck and romantic circumstances...
Dr Robert Glover is the author of the book "No More Mr Nice Guy"
and he's done a series of workshops helping men when it comes to rejection. In fact he banned
the word "rejection" from his workshops because it's too negative! Instead he'd refer to another
person as low interest and that nothing should be taken personally. So basically if they are
into you they reply to your messages, they see you, like you back... okay if they have high interest...if they
have low interest it's the complete opposite! Dr Robert Glover also insists his clients must
get to rejection quickly, to weed out the time wasters, the manipulators, the toxic people, the low
interest people! It doesn't matter what they say and it doesn't matter being ballsy enough to say
"look are you interested or not?" because you're gonna cut out those who have got no interest....
Let me dive deeper into this fascinating topic about getting to rejection quickly...
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This should not be a surprise but when it comes to dating & relationships (especially online
dating like Tinder etc) there will be plenty of time wasters! This actually comes in all walks of life
too! Let me tell you a story = as well as running The SCG Show, I have another business which is
a real estate business, I've been doing for 12 years! I've grown it passively and I've been in
the industry for a long time now... When I first started out, I used to do rentals myself as I
didn't want to use agencies at the time... I'd do an advert for a listing of one of the apartments
and I'd get an influx of people bombarding my phone and email... They'll say "I want the flat or
I'll make an offer for you right now... or we love it we want it right now.... or I need this property
the price the location it's amazing, give it to me right now now!" Of course back then I was naive
and assumed that real estate or renting flats houses etc was a piece of cake, was easy
but over time I realized that most people were just lying, not genuine and thus
wasting my time! The amount of times I've had a prospective tenant and then for whatever reason
at the 11th hour they've pulled out...I could write an entire book about that feeling! It sucked...
But the more and more i experienced it... the more and more I kind of expected it
but also realize that some people are just a waste of time... some people just want attention
or validation or like playing games.... they just want casual... some people are just confused, they don't
even know what they want for breakfast and they don't even know what time or date it is..Ironically
but that might not be you, perhaps and that's not me either! I'm direct
honest straightforward...I know exactly what I want and I also know exactly what I don't want
so get to rejection early to weed out the duds and time wasters... remove the time wasters... the last
thing you want to do is waste your precious life with someone who wants to waste your precious time...
Now sometimes people can have a crippling fear of rejection... which is why I'd like to tell you about
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By simply getting to rejection quickly in a strange way it almost obliterates and destroys
anxiety you had about a person...
I've always said "I'd rather get things over and done than delay the inevitable..." that's my style
maybe because I lack patience for any BS and I don't tolerate any manipulation. Once upon a
time a woman I was dating had a big argument with me for no reason...I assumed things were great and
we were getting along.... the reality was she was having second thoughts! I was naive at the time
but could sense her pulling away, being distant moody etc, I had this overwhelming and impending
sense of doom come over me... "she's going to break up with me, I can feel it!" I said to myself. So after
that big fight she became far less responsive to me and she was difficult in talking things
through... I had enough = "listen" I said "if you're just gonna break up with me, get it over with right now..."
She then went into this tirade "actually I wanted to talk things through! Blah blah blah! But now you
said this you leave me no choice!" Look the entire thing was childish (I'm not proud of
it, i'm sure she isn't) but the truth was she was actually cheating on me, and I found out through
a close friend! So she was just looking for an excuse to get out and I finally gave it to her...
Delaying the inevitable - Does it feel off? Are they playing hard to get suddenly? Is communication
now a drag? Are things unnecessarily difficult? Do you feel no matter what you do you can't do
anything right to please them? Well you'll never be good enough for the wrong person and therefore
why delay the inevitable? Take the rejection on like an adult! Sometimes in our head
the rejection is worse than the actual reality and kill any anxiety and insecurity in the process by
getting it over and done with now! Please do not forget to Subscribe and hit the bell notification
so you never miss my videos! Let me tell you a powerful secret that hardly anyone knows =
choose those who choose you! Sometimes due to insecurity naive and immature thinking - we wrap
ourselves in the wrong situation, scenarios and with the wrong people! Because of that we end up
chasing the wrong person! Like I've repeatedly said you will never be good enough for the wrong person!
Let me show you the fundamental difference between choosing the person who chooses you
and the person who's not sure aka high interest versus low interest. High interest people = these are the
people that smile when they talk to you, they laugh at your really bad jokes, they take the
time to talk to you, they're excited to be with you, they are flexible and hanging out and they
are easy to associate with! Now let's look at low interest people = they're cold when you talk to them,
they're really serious and distant, they don't make time to speak with you, they seem disinterested in
meeting up and they are difficult to arrange to do trivial things and they are hard to get along with...
Say somehow miraculously you prolong rejection for many many years = congratulations
you've forced someone to stay with you for the sake of it! They are not that into you
and they have only grown more resentful, hostile ruder, negative and more toxic towards you too...
There you are as a result still with them but completely mistreated, manipulated, abused and
miserable in your relationship with them. Would it not be better in the grand scheme of things as we
pan out and see the bigger picture to have cut ties as soon as possible? So you didn't waste your
time with someone who didn't choose you personally? I know what I would prefer because I know what
it's like to settle first of all and I also know what it's like to force someone to be with me or
I have to be convinced to be with them... It's not pretty. Rejection can be interpreted as personal
and a damaging experience for our mental health and self-esteem. We often give so much of ourselves
and we are sometimes taken down a path where we have been misled, lied to, manipulated only to find
that really they never feel the same way, or they just want to be friends, or they're time wasters
but oftentimes the story you tell yourself, the scenario you play out in your mind
is really a 100x worse than the reality! The build up is like an anxiety like full speed
the lead up is so heart pounding... your palms get sweaty and you just hear those words "I don't feel
the same about you..." coming out of their mouth and then that's it, you've been officially rejected or
they've got low interest or they're not whatever God forbid you did not die or lose all your money
hopefully and they just don't want to date or be intimate with you anymore.... will this matter in one
year's time? How about 5 years time? How about 20 years time? Pan out see your entire life and look
back at the rejections you endured and how you were actually fine and picked yourself up again
and eventually moved on....What I'm trying to say is you can handle rejection! Detach yourself from
that drama hollywood narrative in your mind it's not going to be the end of the world, and trust me
when you choose those who choose you and those... who have high interest and you don't try to
convince someone or beg someone to like you.... these actual trivial problems no longer exist...