before a young person and this is like to the 17 18 19 20 or even above erodes out there who who
seemed to want to give their heart to another human being and they want to fall in love with
another human being but they haven't fallen in love with allah subhanaw taala yeah and they
don't they haven't truly found themself yet what advice key advice could you give to people like
that should they get married without finding themselves what kind of problems can they find
themselves in you know the difficulty we face now is you have 15 years 15 year-olds and 16
year-olds will tell you I need my Dakar done I need my Nakata and you say but why because
I don't want to commit Haram come on come on you don't want to commit Haram so now you want to get
your Nakata so be strong be patient you know stay away from sin because like you say now people need
to find themselves and by finding themselves they will definitely find allah subhanahu wata'ala I
always say you will not even know that your choice of a spouse shapes your future until
you get married in a lot of cases your choice of a spouse actually determines a lot of your
future so choose well and if you don't know how to don't choose with your hormones I promise you
that's what people do they just choose what their hormones it's a fact it might have sounded a bit
you know direct but it's a fact people choose with their emotion sometimes but wait go back to
the hadith go back to the Prophet peace be upon him and I've always said the two most powerful
organs the heart and the mind don't ever give anyone the control of those two because they
will hurt you they will hurt you you give that to Allah and you give it to anyone after that
within what Allah has ordained but we've seen thousands of people get abused and used because
they've given their heart and their mind in someone else's hand that's it they've given
it away give it in the hands of Allah your heart and mind and whoever you gonna love you can love
them more than anything but if Allah has allowed it and it's ordained and for this reason we say
be very careful my beloved brothers my sisters my children sons and daughters you know we sometimes
are not even the people whom we should be for those whom we would like to marry let me wear
it again in a different way we are not whom the person who we want to marry would even want to
marry do you understand that the qualities I have do you really think that guy I want
to marry is looking for those qualities no way oh the girl who I want to marry is looking for those
qualities so I haven't even built my qualities to the point where the person I would like to
marry would even be interested in would even be if you get what I'm saying and and I want to get
married and that's it and that's it there there goes so learn to develop yourself learn to get
closer to Allah look at people look at others who are married talk to them see what it's all about
and this is why I say my brothers and sisters do you know when you go to school and you're growing
you still find in yourself you're still setting your foot on the ground sometimes we make big
mistakes as we growing up Allah will forgive you but the people who know about it will not forgive
you Allah will forgive you for the mistakes you've made but unfortunately the people even
your best friends will be the biggest sellouts because they are not a photo rahim allah is