all right let's get the facts straight
what is personal development because
maybe it's your time and it's better for
you to understand exactly what this is
watch closely
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you know a big question I get asked is
Kirk all the stuff you do and teaching
classes and mentoring what is personal
development you know what really really
is going on with personal development I
pull out a piece of paper and or I will
describe this to them that you know
here's you here's something you want a
goal and right between you and your goal
here's a wall and you try to go towards
the wall to get to your goal but you
don't really try to go to the wall you
try to go toward your goal to get your
goal but then you feel like you hit
something like something's there there's
something stopping you and what is it
well the only way you can describe it as
something that stops you and when you
look around in life it's like well the
only thing that would really stop me
would be a wall you know I'd run into a
wall and so we we come up with this name
that we hit a wall that's just a made-up
name
most people have no idea what the wall
even is and then we drift away from the
wall because we figured that's just
permanent and that's the misconception
is we think when we're moving forward
and we hit this point in her life where
everything stops and it's that's the end
we think it's a dead end we think it's a
wall and so we turn and we go the other
direction looking for the next direction
to go but there's our goal sitting there
why can't we have the goal why can't we
get to the goal and so what personal
development is is to uncover the mystery
behind the wall what's happening at the
wall what's happening to you
what really is the wall and how is it
that you go about creating this goal to
literally be enough that you are willing
to go through the wall to get it so
personal development is clarity clarity
on what is really happening because of
all the misconceptions and all because
of the myths and all the made-up stories
that have been passed down from
generation of generation there are
people who won't personally develop
themselves they won't work on them
they won't do the extra most people
think you have to go to school and as
school is where you develop and then
when you come home you don't develop but
wait a second mom and dad tried to teach
us how to do chores mom and dad tried to
teach us how to be honest and have
integrity and keep our rooms clean and
brush our teeth and take showers isn't
that personal development we don't learn
that as school we learned that at home
but for some weird reason people give a
little wigged out here a little weird
owed out when we I say well you can work
on your mind like oh no this is weird I
can't work on my mind well your mom and
dad did your mom and dad did growing up
your mom and dad tried to help you
think positively be nice to people
believe in yourself so personal
development has been going on ever since
you were a child
ever since your child they're teaching
you they're showing you they're helping
you personally develop so personal
development is not some weirdo name it's
a very household name but it's used in
the form of parenting so here we are as
adults right or as teenagers and and and
here we are we we see something in our
life that's not working right and and so
since we don't see it working right we
can either go oh it's a wall I'm not
supposed to have it I can't get it I'm
not qualified I'm not worthy I'm not
good enough and we can be that way and
walk away from it or we can further
develop our mind we can further develop
our abilities and our skills and our
understanding so we can get that goal
there are certain people who hit a wall
and they walk away and there are other
people who hit a wall and then their
next question is what can I do to
improve Who I am and how I see this so I
can still move forward and that's the
dividing line amongst the human race
it's just the dividing line we've got
some we got a lot of people in fact
going down the line of oh I hit a wall I
can't do anything we've got other people
are like well I hit a wall and guess
what I'm gonna do something and there is
a list of what
to do to be able to make that wall
smaller and shrink it down and be able
to make that goal bigger so we can
literally actually get it and get
wrapped around it so we can have it
we've got to learn how to manage our
thoughts that's part of personal
development is managing our thoughts
what goes on in here every single day
what goes on cuz people around you I
don't know what's going on inside there
you do though if you're paying attention
if you're paying attention the other
thing that's required is for us to
manage our emotions emotions can derail
us and emotions can empower us but the
common person today emotions take them
over mess them up take them off the
trail and they just wander and worry and
flop around
they just flop around because they're
lost but a person who manages their
thoughts and their emotions they can be
clear about what they're doing and where
they're going that wall shrinks down to
almost nothing the goal gets bigger
because they can focus their thoughts
and manage their emotions the next thing
is to really seek for clarity of what is
your goal you know personal development
is to get focused and clear about what
is you want in life we've been asked
that question ever since we were a kid
so why is it different as they as an
adult right ever since we were kids say
what do you want to be when you grow up
what do you want to do when you grow up
and we come up with ideas and you know
and then we change our ideas but for
some reason when we get to about 30
years old 40 years old the whole idea
about what we want to be when we grow up
kind of fades away and where did grown
up even start does it mean you're grown
up when you're 20 or does it mean you're
a grown up when you're 50 and all this
idea about what we're gonna be when we
grow up
maybe we're not done growing up ah
that's you you're not done being growing
up come on you got space you got things
to do you got things to build and create
I don't care how old you are you're not
grown up yet you're still a kid you and
me are still kids
and if we could manage our thoughts and
manage our emotions and get clear about
something we want oh my goodness we can
get that wall shrunk down in that gold
bag and we can get going that way
but it takes these four things number
four it takes action
you know what happens with action
mistakes and this is why this is why me
and you won't take big action because
we're so stinkin scared of mistakes so
stinkin scared we're gonna make a fool
of ourself or do something wrong and we
got to retract what we did and we have
to redo what we did and and everybody's
walking around trying to be perfect but
yet everybody's scared so scared of
making a mistake so how do you do that
Kurt well you you see your goal is very
clear you manage your thoughts and
emotions so you can take action you're
not afraid of mistakes you just take
action that's what you do but these four
right here these four shrink the wall
build the goal then you get the goal
there's no wall there's no wall when you
learn how to do these four there's no
wall but be careful the next time you
run into obstacles and things that seem
like you shouldn't go this way don't
make up stories don't make up stories
that that means you should turn and run
the other way maybe you come up with a
better story I think it's time to have
some personal development you're not
done yet you're not a grown up yet I
think we're all grown up when we're like
a hundred and ten then we're done
growing up because you're still growing
your mind is still growing everything's
still growing around you life is still
moving but to follow these four you're
gonna find the walls will shrink the
goals are getting more clear and you'll
take clear action and you will love the
new path you're on not the one going the
other way of just run away and just go
you know complain that you can't have
what you want your life to get what you
want life requires personal development
know if ands and buts around it personal
development and the people who are in on
it
are the ones who are making changes and
developing their mind in their emotions
of their actions so that they can move
forward
that's called accomplishment that's
pretty powerful right
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