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hello swedish potatoes we recently
talked about how to be that girl
and create a morning routine you love
waking up to plot twist we already are
that's cruel or boy when we're being
true to ourselves
and an overwhelming amount of you guys
wanted to see
a nighttime slash wind down routine so
here we are i got you leah
and at this point it should be news to
nobody that our evening start the night
before
so if we want to be the best that girl
or boy that we can be
we may want to highly consider focusing
as much
on our evening routines as we do our
mornings
so that we can have a smack banging
am routine and just be able to wake up
when we want to wake up
for this video we'll be using a similar
three-step framework from our morning
routine as i go through my high energy
nighttime routine if you're like high
energy what's that
don't worry we'll talk about it in step
three to start off
my evening routine the first and
foremost
important thing for me to do is to
separate my work life from
my personal life if you guys have been
here for
a few years you know how deeply i
struggled with having a healthy
work-life balance
my working hours would bleed into my
personal life hours and my personal life
hours would bleed into my working life
hours
it was a mess i was a mess ain't nobody
got time for that i was
almost always just one degree away from
burning out
i was constantly on and i just didn't
really know how to shut down so this is
why i've been trying to implement a
proper
shutdown ritual to start my evening
routines and this is from cal newport's
deep work
so at the end of the workday i write
down everything i still need to do and
turn them into action items so i can be
prepared for the following morning
to bring down you can use whatever app
or notebook you're already using the
most important thing is to properly shut
down one part of your life so another
can begin
working deeply when you're working so
that you can rest deeply
when you're resting here i'm using
identity it's a web browser that helps
organize
everything we do online in one place
simplify our browsing experience
and remind us to be more mindful when
we're surfing the interwebs
one of my favorite feature is this notes
feature which includes a to-do list
where you can add due dates hyperlinks
and link to tiles that directly clicks
into launching the website which saves
time the next morning fumbling through
and opening new tabs
and this is what i was using to bring
down everything
and of course you can click on a tile to
launch a website
organize tiles by categories like work
finance and entertainment
as well as search for specific tiles
notes or
categories if you guys want to give
identity a try you can check them out
via the link in my description box below
so after brain dumping
it allows me to fully unplug fully
disconnect
shut down my laptop put it aside and get
ready for some
deep resting starting with making some
din
instant udon
hey siri can you set a timer for four
minutes
four minutes
before we can actually build a mcmansion
we need to have a solid foundation so
step one
is to set a solid foundation for your
nighttime routine
how do we do that similar to last time
list out
every single habit you've tried in your
entire life
go here's mine
once you listed everything down next to
every habit
give it a plus if the habit was an
impactful habit that did good for you
that sparked joy that
you saw amazing results from give it an
equal if it was just okay it wasn't
amazing but it also wasn't terrible it's
something that you wouldn't mind doing
or not doing
and give it a minus if it is just
something that you can completely live
without
very focused when eating noodle when
eating nude on
when eating udon and you add some fruity
caucay
wait this is so cute ingredients
happiness joyful delicious magic grumpy
dreamy affection usually
at this point in my evening routine i am
eating something
as i probably watch kdrama or youtube
probably k draw more than youtube tbh so
the purpose of setting the foundation
for your nighttime routine listing out
all the habits giving it a plus
equal minus sign there's a few reasons
why
i think it can be very helpful first and
foremost it's easy to watch videos
on youtube like this and be like ah her
life looks
great or this video looks beautiful or
her life is so aesthetic
and i want to live that life forgetting
that a lot of times what works for
someone may not work for other people
just like how what
may work for you may not work for me and
vice versa i think it's just
easy to be a little disillusioned and
think that you know and
an aesthetic life means it is a
meaningful life in reality
as we talked about in last time's video
an aesthetic
life without meaning or death
it's still a pretty empty life ted talk
is over
going to enjoy my udon in peace i
actually
you know what that's actually i i most
of the time i eat
in silence as i do with most other
things i just do it in silence
um if i'm just if i just so happen to be
watching a drama i would put a drama on
but it's not as frequently as eating in
silence
or sometimes i'll call james what do you
do romina i don't know
i do whatever my heart tells me to do
currently watching do my ear service
i don't know i don't really love it but
i don't really not like it
i like it enough that i'm you know 15
episodes in and i just have one more
left but
see you guys after nom nom
so now that we've identified every habit
we've tried
rank them given them a plus equal or
minus
take a look at that list for like a
minute
put it away sit yourself down
make yourself a nice beverage and really
ask yourself
if i can create the nighttime routine of
my dreams
what would it look like it can be as
simple as you want it to be it can be as
extra as you want it to be it's your
world
what's your nighttime routine look like
hi there hopefully i didn't scare you
guys
we have now all the habits we've tried
from that we extracted and created our
most ideal and dream nighttime routine
this is me trying to smile and the third
and last step
is to turn these dreams into reality so
how do you turn dreams into reality
there's a few things you can do the
first thing is to look at your dream
nighttime routine
and highlight every single thing that is
a non-negotiable
through this you can also extract and
turn your ideal nighttime routine
into a high energy mid energy and low
energy routine with the high
mid and low energy routine i think it's
actually so helpful because
as humans we have very unrealistic
expectations for ourselves we think our
energy level is like this
when in reality it is like this if you
guys remember from our energy
management versus time management video
and
it will be helpful to have these three
set
routines so that if you do
come home after a long day and you're
just feeling absolutely spent and you
can't do anything
there is this very simple routine for
you to do
to take care of yourself and to take
care of your mental health
so that you can still check things off
and being like
i did the bare minimum of what i needed
to do but that is still
a job well done and i was actually
talking to fowle
in one of our in one of our beauty
within videos and she said a quote that
doing something is better than doing
nothing and it's the same as
done is better than perfect i think a
lot of times we think we need to do
these
we need to do everything we need to
chuck off all the boxes we need to
always do the ideal morning routine
in reality sometimes doing something
in your low energy routine is better
than doing nothing at all
and with that let me don't wash this off
ah
this is one i usually go in with a sheet
mask but because i'm feeling a bit lazy
let's just use
a leave-on mask this one is from
fen and really helps to lift up
and oh this was actually created
because the founder was like how can i
turn a sheet mask
into a leave-on mask
i feel like in this world that we're
living
in where we're all working harder and
striving to be more productive and
better people
i think it's very easy to get caught up
in
doing things and wanting to be better
and wanting to improve yourself which i
honestly think there's absolutely
nothing wrong with but it's
when we prioritize
that and work and productivity and all
that
over everything else in our lives
including
ourselves including our mental
well-being including our hearts and our
soul
even kind of it's just a bit ironic
how the channels that
are growing and the way that my channel
grew
was through all these getting your life
together videos
and you know reset routines and all of
that
i feel like there's a generation of new
creators that are going through very
similar things
where the boundaries between
work and our personal life has been so
blurred especially over 2020 and
especially
for creators who basically
like i don't know like our job is our
life
it makes things a bit complicated
and it makes us want to work all the
time
but again just because we can work all
the time
doesn't mean we should i mean yeah i
just it's just something that's been on
my mind like seeing a lot of
people very similar to my younger self
who's going through very similar things
that i went through
and i honestly would not wish
what i went through upon anyone in terms
of working so hard to the point where
i was like in pain or like my shoulders
would be so
tense and i basically had no social life
and neglected all of my friends because
that's not
that's no way to live and i feel like
having a nighttime routine and having a
morning routine
that is very intentional can help you
carve out time
for what's important to you this is why
it's so important that for me at least
the very first thing
in my nighttime routine is to really
separate myself and turn
off and switch off so that i can spend
the time that i'm actually by myself and
like recharging
actually recharging and with that as
always
make sure to take care of yourself make
sure to take care of your mental health
these all of these videos this that girl
trend glow up trend
any trend that you see at the end of the
day they are trends
what you are not is you are not a trend
your mental health is not a trend take
the time you need
to really figure out what works for you
try things
that you haven't tried before try
routines you haven't tried before try
habits you haven't tried before give it
time
and really
dig deep within to ask yourself
why is this important to me and why do i
want to do this because at the end of
the day
when all when all weather is away and
blows to dust
does having a really good morning
routine make you a better person
i don't think so but i think it can
really
help you achieve that clarity and that
groundness groundedness that i feel like
a lot of us are seeking
it's very grateful for you guys as
always and
before we say our goodbyes if you guys
want to connect with like-minded
potatoes we do
have a online community on vibe lee
where you can chat with each other
share your hopes and dreams secrets
deepest darkest fears anything
as well as complete challenges together
so for the
that girl morning routine video we had
everyone
shared their ideal morning routine and
this is what
everyone shared so beautiful i think
like
personally as i mentioned i geek out
over looking at other people's morning
routines so it's been lovely reading
through everyone's
and if you guys want to join we will
have
the link down below as well as a notion
worksheet that honestly be very similar
to
the morning routine one with that thank
you again to identity for sponsoring
today's video
link down below if you guys want to
check them out and
we do a hug hook and we do a bye bye
see you guys in the next video bye