- So here's the question, when do you think
it's appropriate to start splitting the bill on dates?
- I am more than happy to go dutch.
I believe in equality for all,
so I like the yin and the yang of a guy paying sometimes,
I'll pay sometimes.
It kinda sets the tone for a relationship.
And you know, I got your back, you got my back.
Having said that, if it is the first date,
he better offer to pay or there will not be a second date.
(audience applauding and cheering)
- I will say I love it as a gesture.
I think it's really sweet and I appreciate,
but a lot of times, I feel like no,
I wanna go dutch on the first date.
Cause we're both feeling each other out
and I don't want someone to assume something.
So I like going dutch on a first date.
(audience applauding and cheering)
- Well, I mean, I feel like it just depends on the delivery.
- (Katy) Yes.
- Like if the check comes and he look over at me like
- (Katy) Yeah.
- Then so you need to go ahead and put down on this
and I'm gonna go.
Never to be seen again.
I think that needs to be discussed early on.
Right, like how much of a date is this?
Are you interested in courting me for real,
or did you ask me out or did I ask you out?
Or was this like a set up by friends?
I feel like those things need to be discussed early on.
Communication will eliminate any room for error
in that situation.
(audience applauding and cheering)
- (Katy) Yes.
- Have we done this poor of a job with our young men?
(audience cheering)
- (Katy) Yes.
- Have we not taught our younger men
what this is really supposed to be about?
I'm sorry, the way it is supposed to work,
and I can appreciate everything y'all have said
because you're women.
So quite naturally you set the tone for how you are.
But let me say this to men.
It's the proper thing to do, it's the right thing to do.
(audience applauding)
And it's the way it should be done.
You gotta a lotta nerve, you know dudes kill me,
because we gotta a lotta nerve thinking this thing
is 50/50 cause I got news for you it ain't.
They happen to have a skill set that you'll never possess.
They can produce another human life.
- (Katy) Thank you.
(audience applauding)
- There's nothing you can do can come close to that.
I'm ashamed of men who don't understand that.
- In addition to that part of the conversation,
it needs to be made clear to men
that women don't owe you when you take us to dinner.
- Yes.
(audience applauding and cheering)
- Just because you buy me dinner.
Just because you paid the valet,
doesn't mean I need to go home with you.
- Absolutely.
(audience applauding and cheering)
- So in that same conversation that needs to be said.
- And I think that's why so many women
still wanna pay, because you don't want to be bought.
You want to still own yourself.
- Because you don't the perception of obligation.
- Exactly. I am not for sale.
- Because nowadays, a lot of times in this situation
the women might be making more money.
- Then he need to play in the playground he qualify to play.
- Ooh.
(laughter)
(audience applauding and cheering)
- Not mad at that.
- This is a real teaching moment for me.
You were born to be a provider.
You were born to put a woman on a pedestal
and treat her like a queen.
That's your job as a man.
Now if you don't want the job, go do something else.
(audience applauding and cheering)
It's an honor to take a woman out.
- That is true, that is true.
- This pissed me off right here.
(audience applauding and cheering)
Matter of fact, ladies, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
- Thank you.
- Look all these men here.
I've been looking at this man right here
with the lady next to the lady in the teal.
Is that your husband?
This dude, he been going yeah the whole time.
That dude up there with the lady with the sash,
he been going yeah.
That man with the blue t-shirt.
The lady with the green t-shirt.
I been looking at all these men going yeah
cause we know this how this work.
Y'all getting tricked, man.
These young dudes aren't it, man.
If you don't understand that and don't email
the show tomorrow Steve, you got money.
Steve ain't always had money.
I had nothing, I have never, ever in my life
from every date I've ever went on
and I'd a been on some dates.
Had a woman pay for nothing for me.
(audience cheering)
In my life.
This is when I was good and poor.
If I hadda money I saved it so I could take her out.
- Yeah.
- I'm sorry, man.
Alright, we gotta take a break.
We got more Straight Talk when we come back.
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