Hey there, viewers! It’s important you set boundaries in your relationship.
Not just for romantic relationships but for all relationships in your life. It’s important to
establish your identity in the relationship. It could be with a friend, lover, or family
member. You’ll have to set healthy boundaries to prevent the relationship from getting toxic.
In today’s video, we’re going to talk about 7 healthy boundaries you need to set in your
relationship. Why is your self-respect the first and most important boundary to set?
How do you bring an equal balance of power into the relationship? We’ll be
talking about all of these AND more… 1. Your self-respect is important
When you’re in a relationship, it’s common for one person to dominate over the other. It may be a
natural occurrence, as it’s normal for one person to stamp their personality on the relationship.
But what you should never allow is the other person to trample over your self-respect.
Even if the other person is dominant in a relationship,
it need not always be bad. It’s just a personality trait. But where you need
to draw the line is when they start making you feel bad about yourself.
You must not let that slide. It doesn’t matter how much you want to be in a relationship.
Repeat this after me… YOUR SELF-RESPECT COMES BEFORE EVERYTHING ELSE!
If you cannot maintain your self-respect, you will not be happy. This is not only true in your
relationship, but in general. If your partner is getting in the way of your self-respect,
it’s important you draw the boundary, even if it means sacrificing the relationship.
Any relationship that does not make both people happy is certainly not worth keeping.
You will need to make sure your partner understands
that you treasure your self-respect. What’s the most extreme thing you’ve done to
maintain your self-respect? Have you ever broken up with someone for it? Share your experiences
with the Bestie community in the comments below... 2. You cannot be pleasing people all the time
One of the traps you might fall into in a relationship is the need to please your partner
all the time. While it’s certainly important to do things that would please your partner,
doing whatever they want whenever they want is only hurtful to you in the long run.
The reason you fall into the pleasing trap is that you feel
you may lose your partner if you stop making them happy.
However, always wanting to please your partner will actually leave you unhappy.
Worse, over a period of time, it will make you lose respect for yourself.
In the end, this pleasing trap will ruin your relationship. So it’s best you try
and stay away from falling into the trap. Looking for answers on all the latest health
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date on all our great Bestie content… 3. There should be a balance of power
Who has the most power in your relationship, you or your partner? The right answer should be both!
In a healthy relationship, there’s a balance of power that keeps both people happy. When a
relationship is built on equality and respect, it becomes the most fulfilling relationship.
One of the things a healthy relationship should have is a balance of power between both people.
But more often than not, only one person ends up making all the important decisions, while
the other just accepts it. This is never good for a relationship, as it affects both parties.
The one making all the decisions may feel frustrated after a while,
as they feel the responsibility always lies with them. For the person not calling the shots,
it might feel like they’re never heard, and their opinions are never taken into consideration.
Over a period of time, this will lead to contempt, especially from the person who’s not making the
decisions. It’s important you make yourself heard. Also, being involved in decision-making is the
best way to build trust on both sides. It’s important to set this boundary
if you want to have a successful relationship and be happy. Otherwise,
you will end up frustrated all the time. Before we move ahead, have you been noticing some
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medical attention. Now back to our discussion on setting boundaries in your relationship…
4. Learning to say no and being comfortable with it
So your partner wants to go to the movies while you feel like having a cup of coffee and just
relaxing around your house in your pajamas? While compromise is a good thing, make sure you
aren’t the only one making all the adjustments and sacrifices. It’s okay to say no sometimes.
We all want to say no to some things, whether it’s doing chores or going out with people.
But you might end up saying yes as you want to keep the other person happy.
You could also be saying yes because you believe that if a job needs to be done the right way,
only you can do it. But what this does is cause burnout over a period of time.
Saying yes to everything, especially when you want to say no, can be mentally draining.
This particular boundary is especially necessary. You don’t want to become
a more visibly irritable person. If you do, people will not want to be around you as much.
5. A little self-love goes a long way
Yes, loving your partner is important for a healthy relationship. But so is your love
for yourself. Treat yourself with respect and learn to love who you are. This means
enjoying your own company once in a while. Be with no one else other than yourself.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to end up spending all your time with your partner.
While this in itself is not a bad thing, you might end up losing yourself in the relationship.
It’s important you also make time for yourself as well. This can be as small as a 10-minute coffee
break where you sit by yourself. Or it could be setting aside time for writing in your journal.
Whichever way you prefer, it’s necessary for you to do this as often as possible.
The best way to make time for yourself is to take an entire day from time to time.
This means you should be away from your partner. No, I don’t mean completely alone.
You can hang out with friends. You just need space away from your significant other once in a while.
It would even be better if you can just spend the day all by yourself. You could go off to a
hotel and relax by the pool, or go to a library and do some research on your favorite topics.
The important thing is to do something you love without your partner hovering over you.
6. There’s no shame in asking for help One problem in a relationship is that
only one person does all the chores, while the other is on the couch. It’s important you feel
secure enough to ask your partner to help you out with anything you need to be doing.
It’s also important for you to understand that you don’t have superhuman strength.
From time to time, you will need help with the things you’re doing. It could be
something as simple as helping out in the kitchen. While you might think this could cause problems,
that’s not actually the case. Your partner may actually be happy to help. If they’re not,
then that tells you something about where exactly your relationship is.
7. Stop feeling guilty Never ever feel guilty about
setting boundaries in your relationship. It’s easier said than done. Every time you enforce
a boundary, you might end up feeling guilty. But you have to stop! Retrain your brain.
Setting boundaries is important for your mental health. You may feel you need to make other people
happy and put their needs first because that’s usually what you’re taught while growing up.
But if you don’t take care of yourself first, you will be of no use to anyone. Instead,
you will be burnt out from all the responsibility you’ve been putting on your shoulders. Your mental
health will suffer, and that’s never a good thing. It’s important that you stop feeling guilty about
setting boundaries. At the same time, you would also need to respect your partner’s boundaries.
Only when both are able to do that in a healthy way will there be a balance in the relationship.
When both people are able to be strong for each other, the result is a happy
and successful relationship. If even one of the two feels they deserve more from
the other person without putting in any effort of their own, the relationship will be doomed.
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