Hello, my name is Lydia. So I wanted to start off this video by giving you a definition
of a chill person, courtesy of Urban Dictionary. So I'm looking at my computer down here. A
chill person: a person who is cool. They aren't all worked up by sh*t because they have perspective.
There aren't a lot of chill people out there but there's nothing cooler than a chill old
woman or man. And then the example: Man, Becky is a chill person. It's like nothing bad phases
her. She's a lot of fun to kickback with at the end of the day. Don't we all aspire to
be a Becky in life?
Hey guys, my name is Lydia. Thank you so much for stopping by thelydshow.
This channel is all about turning your creative passion into your full-time career and it
will be following my journey as I try to do that. This channel also has a chill vibe,
not just for this whole video. So if you're into that type of content I highly recommend
subscribing and it would really help me out. As you can see I am currently trying to avoid
the one sunny spot in my bedroom which is like two inches away. This is kind of how
I sit on the regular so let's get into it. One of the questions I get asked the most
is, "Do you like the color black?" I mean I guess it's not that evident so that's pretty
fair. But no honestly one of the questions I get asked the most is, "How are you always
so calm?" I'm about to tell you a story of how the first half of my 2020 went and then
you'll see why people ask me this question all the time. You know my theory is that you're
not born chill. I mean you spend nine months in the womb and then you come out and the
first you do is cry. And then you spend the whole first year of your life crying, maybe
even the first 20 years. So I feel like that's ample evidence for people aren't born chill,
you become chill. And this is something that happened to me in 2019. So literally last
year when I turned 20 was when I became a chill person. What happened last summer was
that I moved to a new city, relationships ended, new ones formed, so many things were
different. I literally didn't know anybody when I moved to this city and my life just
completely changed. As a teenager I was told that I looked 20 and I kind of found it funny.
I made it a joke like, "Haha, I'm so mature." But then when I actually turned 20 I was like,
"You know, things are about to get real and if I am not ok with that life's just going
to be a lot harder." So yeah, I would say last year I finally just realized that I'm
just going to accept what comes at me and make the most out of it. And I think since
I've adopted that mentality life has literally been throwing the most unrealistic, most improbable,
one in a million chances of of things to happen to me as if it's like a giant game and I'm
about to tell you. So like most third years I decided I was going to go on exchange and
out of all the universities I could have chosen I decided to study in Milan. So long story
short instead of my exchange lasting lasting five months, it lasted three weeks. How 2020
was supposed to look like for me: I was supposed to be on exchange in Italy for five months
then I was supposed to go do an internship in Tel Aviv, in Israel. Like it was going
to be a pretty good year. But then three weeks into the exchange, I am on my first little
trip of exchange. I'm in Berlin and I'm at a club having a good time when I receive a
notification that school is closed for the week. We were so excited. I remember we just
thought that life was so good. Ha. Funny story, when we got back to Milan things actually
looked a bit serious and people were freaking out. People were wearing masks, people were
just going crazy. There was literally no more mozzarella left in the grocery stores. I think
that was probably the real crisis in Italy. And so I took it as an opportunity to travel
and I was like, "Oh, I'll go visit family in Russia if school is off for the week."
Yeah funny story I actually wasn't allowed back into Italy and all my stuff was left
in my Airbnb and now I only had a suitcase of winter clothes with me in Russia because
it was February and I thought I was only going to go for a week. But then me once again,
thinking that this was all fun and games, I decided I was just going to see where the
world would open their borders for me. I found a likeminded individual who was my friend
from exchange and we both were so excited. We were like, "Great, we have two months where
we can learn remotely and we can literally do whatever we want. Yeah you can do whatever
you want until the government comes for you. So our first destination was Poland and when
we get to Poland everything is normal. We're like, "Wow, I guess the world isn't that bad
after all." Yeah the next day everything shut down and we were told we had 24 hours to leave
the country or else we would be stuck in Poland. Trump also extended his travel ban, or created
a travel ban, for Europe. So as an American that was slightly problematic. We made it
on the last flight, that was stressful in itself. The plane came three hours late so
we were like, "Alright, we are going to be stuck in Poland." I guess it's a good thing
I like perogies. But then when we made it to the UK, literally as we land, Trump extends
his travel ban to the UK which meant I had to leave the next day. So yeah, I was essentially
being thrown around and you would think that after being kicked out of four countries,
after having your exchange cancelled, after having your summer internship in Israel cancelled,
you'd be upset. But like honestly, I was quite chill about the whole thing. What ended up
happening was I spent a month by myself in the desert in California because my family
back home was bit too paranoid about me being infected. But it was great and I'm honestly
just very happy the way it happened. So how did I achieve this level of chill? Well my
first piece of advice is to really accept that everything happens for a reason. You
know when you just give in to the strange powers of the world. As I always say, we live
in a simulation and as a Sim's character, you can only do so much. So in this situation,
I just took the most logical approach and decided to have fun with the limited resources
I had. I guess this ties into my second point which is, "You should treat life like a game."
This is a bit controversial, I don't mean that you should just skip out of school and
be like haha. No, use your brain. Think of life as a logic game. So that's kind of what
I did when I was being thrown around. I was like, "Alright, realistically I should go
here." Where can I go? Where should we go? Technically back then I could have still flown
to Asia but was that really a good decision at the point? I was still doing things within
reason. I think it's kind of a trend right now to be chill anyways. Think about it in
the 2000s the biggest pop stars were the edgy teens, the Avril Lavignes, the one's who had
Myspace and kind of wore grunge looks. Well now it's kind of the same but Billie Eilish
is such a chilled out version of that. So if you want to stay on trend, get rid of the
blonde brunette is definitely more in fashion, and just adopt a chill personality. My last
piece of advice is sometimes you need a stimulus break. I think 2020 needed to happen just
because we had gotten to the point where we were bombarded with so much information and
things were going pretty well. (Obviously some countries not so well.) But like in the
U.S. for example the economy was doing great. Everyone was like pretty happy. Then we've
gotten to such a point of fakeness in our life that I think we just needed a total reset.
And a reset is something I like to do once a week. Once a week, I will just take a phone
break and completely shut off from society and it is wonderful. Obviously I can't do
this every week because... You know it's something that I'm trying to work on but it's definitely
just so relaxing not to have this constant stimulus. Not to get too sciencey here but
I did want to be a med-student and be a doctor. If you see my last video I do mention that.
You know when you are in a stressful situation, you have heightened cortisol levels in your
brain and what happens is that cortisol kind of makes you think funny and you really aren't
a logical person. So that also happens when you get so many stimuli a day. We just need
to get rid of all this cortisol and just chill out sometimes. So I hope this video was helpful
and that my crazy story doesn't happen to anybody, but it made you learn that even in
situations like that, you can literally just think of these situations in the best light
and the logical solutions. It will all be fine. So I hope this video helped and I'll
see you in the next one.