hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 12 signs that you're dating
a narcissist now let's begin number one me talk if your partner is a self-centered as
a narcissist there's only one thing they ever want to talk about themselves they find ways to
make themselves the subject of every conversation every story revolves around them every reference
leads back to them they're constantly the center of attention and they like it that
way but there's one particularly annoying habit that almost every narcissist does in
a relationship every narcissist rambles about their own great qualities but a narcissistic
partner wants to hear you talk about them too they'll ask you self-centered questions like so
what do you like the most about me or what about my personality are you the most attracted to it's
normal to ask these kinds of questions every once in a while your partner might honestly be curious
about how you feel but if your partner drops the same conceited questions on a regular basis soon
you've got a much bigger problem because there's a good chance you're dating a narcissist number
two exaggerated language but it isn't just the subject of the conversation that comes off as
self-centered you've probably noticed the same arrogance or self-importance in the way they talk
about themselves the words they use and the kind of stories they tell okay let's say your partner
tells you about finding someone's wallet from the sidewalk a normal person might say they were
relieved to find the wallets owner or that someone else didn't run off with it but narcissists have a
very particular way of characterizing themselves they want to look like the hero of any story they
want every story to give you a reason to admire them to feel attracted to them they want to leave
behind an image of confidence and achievement especially if they're talking to a significant
other that's why narcissists exaggerate almost every detail they spice up the action raise the
stakes and emphasize their heroism just to impress you suddenly that story isn't about
finding someone's lost wallet it's just another chance for your partner to brag about how great
they are number three zero follow through a narcissistic partner will talk a big game but
when it comes time to back it up they consistently fall short this lack of follow-through is all too
common among narcissists whether it's something little like a chore or something big like a job
interview your narcissistic partner will tell you they have everything under control but they
rarely ever do if this sounds like your partner you should ask yourself one important question
is my partner really a dependable person we all like to believe our significant others are people
that we can count on people that will come through for us when it matters most but are they actually
dependable does your partner really do the things they say they're going to do because that lack of
consistency is a huge red flag because everyone no matter who you are should be with someone you
can count on number four inflexible empathy on the flip side accountability might not be
a problem for your partner instead they might have unreasonably high expectations of you many
narcissistic partners are extremely unforgiving if you're five minutes late for a dates they'll
yell at you like you just crashed their car narcissists expect you to be perfect at every
turn and want you to do every single thing that they ask no matter what so the moment that you
fail or disappoint them your narcissistic partner is gonna let you have it number five requiring
validation in the mind of a narcissist nothing is worth doing unless someone is there to see
it they thrive when other people recognize their success those compliments inspire them and drive
them for example if they work extra hard on a presentation at work they're not doing it
because they care about their project they're putting in all those extra hours just to hear
their boss tell them they did a great job or to put their co-workers to shame but what happens
when no one recognises their work without any kind of validation narcissists either get lazy or they
get desperate they start searching for compliments from everyone around them most importantly their
significant other if your partner is constantly fishing for compliments they might be a narcissist
number six violating the rules narcissists hates being told what to do they think that anyone who
gives them orders is trying to put them down or make them look small so they'll do anything to
prove how powerful they are to show people that no one can tell them what they can and can't do
that's why many narcissists make a habit of breaking rules not because they're angry or
defiant they break their rules just to break them more often than not narcissists have a rap sheet
of petty crimes like stealing chips from a gas station they'll rarely do anything serious they
won't rob a bank or steal a car no they won't hurt anyone but they'll perform these small acts of
defiance because they want to prove how fearless they are so if you're dating a narcissist you
might hear them bragging about running a stop sign or cutting in line they'll insist that it just
doesn't matter that the rules are just there to be broken but the truth is you're dating someone
who's really self-centered who values their own time and space way more than anyone elses which
means you're probably dating a narcissist number 7 obsession with status does your partner act like
they're friends with celebrities or do they brag about how much money they make narcissists are
often obsessed with status and power even if they don't have either one they'll pretend like they're
the wealthiest person in the room why well because they need people to look up to them it's how a
narcissist develops their self-worth they want the people around them to feel inferior that's also
why narcissists shy away from people with real power because they feel small in comparison they
know they can't compete so narcissists surround themselves with people they feel superior to in
other words if you're dating a narcissist they probably think they're better than you number
eight the silent treatment couples have been using the silent treatment for hundreds of years
but narcissists use this little punishment more than anyone else you see a narcissist believes
that talking to them is a gift they think you need to hear their voice otherwise you'll feel
empty and incomplete so when they want to punish you they'll just keep quiet because in their mind
the silent treatment is basically torture number nine lack of positivity narcissists don't like
to acknowledge anyone else's success they're the first person to jump on a mistake or make fun of
someone behind their back but when something goes right a narcissist has nothing positive to say why
well because narcissists don't want anyone to look better than them they treat everyone's success
as a direct challenge even their partners they'll devalue your accomplishments and subtly undermine
your success just to make themselves feel superior so pay attention to how often your partner
encourages and praises you if you're with the kind of person who rarely ever supports you you may be
dating a narcissist number 10 false entitlement does your partner get mad when you tell them no
this is very common among narcissistic partners because they feel entitled to everything you have
they expect you to willingly give up anything at the drop of a hat if they want it you're supposed
to give it to them imagine you're at work one day when your significant other asks you to bring them
lunch now a normal partner would understand when you said you couldn't because you're too busy
with work but a narcissistic partner would act like your job is less important than their lunch
now of course the entitlement doesn't stop there narcissistic partners act in title toward everyone
around them they get angry with servers for making them wait a few extra minutes they yell at store
clerks who make some kind of tiny mistake so if you notice a pattern of disrespect you're probably
dating a narcissist number 11 failure to commit have you ever noticed that your significant other
is scared of commitment you want to take things to the next level you want to get serious with
them but for whatever reason they say things like oh I don't like labels their lack of commitment
might be a sign of narcissism why well because your partner is looking for the easiest least
intensive way to keep the relationship alive they want all the benefits of a relationship with none
of the commitment they want attention and intimacy but they'll do anything to avoid titles or labels
if you let them your narcissistic partner will take advantage of you for as long as they can so
don't let them get away with it number 12 willing admission yeah I know it sounds strange but most
narcissists will recognize their own narcissism in fact they'll willingly admit to having some
of the most common and self-destructive symptoms narcissists aren't blind to their own behavior
they often know what they're doing wrong they know that they're being manipulative
or entitled they know that they aren't being as supportive of their partner as they should
but they have too much pride to actually do anything about it that does mean however that
they're self-aware if you show a narcissist the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder
they'll be able to recognize those symptoms in themselves this was actually proven by a
recent study which recreated this exact situation researchers educated people who tested positive
for NPD and they found that most narcissists readily recognized their own narcissism so if
you think you're dating a narcissist don't be afraid to come right out and ask your partner
there's a good chance that your partner can tell you everything you need to know hey thank you
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