Hey it's Stephan.
Alright I want to share with you one principle that will help you to get better at approaching
girls and striking up conversation's with people and it's kind of linked in with one
of the biggest mistakes for a lot of guys that I can see or that I'm working with make
initially when it comes to starting up conversation's with people or meeting attractive girls that
they actually would like talk to.
Alright now what do most guys do when they see something that's attractive or they find
attractive?
Got a girl that you are interested in then what happens?
Well normally that guys go about their business and they are relatively well you know whatever
their state is and then they see a girl and let's say she's over there and the first time
they see her they go... a bit like this and they kind of freeze up and then they notice,
I better look cool so they just kind of like do a bit more manly stuff and kind of look
all intense and look a bit more serious and it's a really weird look and I think you know
what I mean.
When I'm talking about this, I think if any women watch this video I'm sure you've seen
this before so if you're a woman remind yourself this is when guys are actually interested
in you.
I know it sounds weird but that is what guys do.
You will probably notice the way but anyway so if it freaks you out don't worry they actually
like you.
But on this freaking you out thing, I talked to female friends telling me over and over
again while I was in a bar with them they would go, "This guy in the corner he is staring
at me and he is freaking me out" and I'm looking over and then going, "I'm sure he's just a
guy that he is probably just into you and he just probably fancies you or something.
It's just that he don't want to come over I guess because he thinks I'm your boyfriend"
and she will go, "No he's freaking me out.
There is something weird him."
Do you know that the only thing that's weird about him is that he's doing exactly what
I've just talked about and so many guys do this because they are unaware of how they
look at that moment.
Now, here is the thing that I want you to bear in mind, you know why these guys do it
like that?
Because they want to talk to her instantly they notice something that they want to say
they are attracted to her but they don't do it and then they start thinking, "Oh I like
to talk to her but what am I going to say, oh my God maybe if I say the wrong thing she
won't like me or may I'm gonna make a fool of myself.
Oh I'm sure lots of guys talk to her all the time and oh no!
I can't.
What am I gonna say" and so on...They are going to think about that in their minds and
then at the same time they're trying to look cool and relax and this and that.
You know what the tip that I want to give you is this as opposed to stock trading or
buying a house or this or that in terms of approaching girls in terms of making connections
with people in terms of starting a conversation with people the principal must be act first
or talk first and think later.
Talk first and think later.
What I want you to bear in mind is when you see somebody that you find interesting or
whatever say it out loud straight away.
You end up sitting next to somebody in a bar or whatever that you find interesting and
you just arrived.
You see them and there's something interesting about them and tell them right there and then
before you have time to think about it.
Practice starting conversations before you're ready before you have found your perfect way
of opening a conversation.
Practice speaking before you can think about it.
I promise you if you do this and you practice it and you fall on your face a few times maybe
but I don't think you will but if you do feel that this is a bit scary at first, keep going
anyway and do it with anyone, practice with anyone, but practice to speak first or to
act first and then start thinking about if you want to.
To be honest, can I tell you a secret with people, and with women in general thinking
about what you're going to say to them kind of never really works.
The idea is with people if I can give you one piece of advice, talk first and think
later.
That is my number one tip.
I really want to hear what you think of this and I want to hear from you what you think
of this after you have tried it.
If you've been on something that's been going with a girl over there then tell me once you've
changed it.
Tell me what you think of it obviously if you have something to add, and if you have
something to share just put it here right here under the video leave a comment and I'll
be very grateful that I think it'll be great for other people to read it.
Secondly of course if you want the report that will help you to deal with your dating
nerves and to get rid of all this pain and then go tooshytodate.com and sign up there
and you'll get a free report which contains this great technique that I developed over
quite a number of years which literally helps you to stop your dating nerves or stop your
nervous in any situation even if you where in front of 50,000 people in a great football
stadium like the Emirates Stadium which is that home my beloved Arsenal and you have
to sing this song that technique would work for you.
Well I don't think you will do but anyway enjoy the video and I hope you have enjoyed
it and you found it provoking.
I hope you weren't just listening to this but you will try it and see what the difference
is but basically talk first and think later, that is my principle for dealing with people
starting conversations and talking to woman.