obviously for guys and it is "Why Is My Wife Never Happy Constantly Angry Wife"
and I'm gonna tell you and you may not appreciate this but it's very important
for you to know so you can do something about it.
Now look, it does happen from time to time that women who are subject just
like men are to various mental issues she might be a victim of
depression, she might be uncontrolled in her anger
she may have a real problem. A lot of people have anger problems and I have to
ask you right off the bat, do you, are you angry? Do you react to her anger? Because
if you do that's the first thing you need to stop is reacting to her anger
and see what happens, that's the very first thing and if you're
not in charge of your mind to that degree where you can control your anger
and you're being triggered and then your anger comes up you have nothing to
complain about but you have work to do on yourself.
So, what do you do in the meantime? I have techniques because usually
the good thing about anger it's not self-sustaining. Anger is an
instinctive reaction, it's part of the drive to survive and it's a very intense
instinctive reaction that if it were maintained it would burn you up and
you wouldn't last so what happens is the anger turns into like a lower-level
anger and emotional anger which is something you can work on so there's
two different degrees of anger. One is that bursts
of instinctive reactive anger which just is like a wall and there's
nothing you can do. All you can do is duck and you could practice some
techniques that you could learn in communication where you don't take it on
you let it move past you, you duck, and then there's that other level of anger
that's emotional where it's not reactive anymore but it's carried and you got
asked why, why. Because even in those cases, it's a defense mechanism because
we're controlled to a huge degree until we take charge of our mind
we're controlled by a huge degree by our instincts and habits and emotions so
that emotion of anger is something that we can work with and one of the problems
that men have is that they don't really care why their wife is angry and I don't
mean because you left the dishes out, I don't mean that kind of thing, but what
is her problem and the reason we don't ask that question or men don't ask
that question, what is the problem, and I don't mean, what is your problem? I mean
what is the problem? Does she need your help? You see most men
aren't sympathetic in that way. They go, "What's your problem?"
When you should be going, "Honey, let's sit down and talk. Let's try to
understand why you're feeling this way. Let me get your glass of water," because
that helps dissipate the anger, "Let's go for a walk," because breathing helps
dissipate that anger and let's see if we can talk it out. One of the
things the way women are designed psychophysiologically speaking talking
about it is very helpful for them so you might want to try that. Now you may be
triggering her all the time. Now technically, that's not really your fault
but because you're married to her it is your concern. Not everyone is
like you, she's not like you. She's going to be triggered by certain
things and out of love, out of the respect of love, it is your duty to not
punch those nerves to not hit those triggers when you know they're there.
If you know saying something about her sister being fat is going to trigger her
don't do it and avoid those topics. There's a lot of topics you can choose
from that are going to make her happy and those are the topics you should
choose. Everyone thinks, "Hey, I want to be honest with her. I want to be
open," and they don't realize that that doesn't include being a jerk
just because you want to be open just because you want to be honest doesn't
mean you get to be crude and rude and mean so you really ought to read one
of my books it gives really good guidelines about what to say, what not to
say and why, and you need to get a handle on
your marriage and get to the sort of the core dynamics of your marriage. You
should understand your wife better. You should understand her well enough so
you're not stepping on our toes and this shouldn't be because
you're gonna get something back. You should be doing it for the right reason
which is because you love her, right? I mean that's what you promised when you
got married, "I will love you", "I will treasure you", "You're my goddess," blah
blah blah. You're not acting that way and so maybe if you started acting that way
it would help her calm down. Now, it's true. Women hide a lot of things until
after they're married so you don't know that you're stepping on these toes
because you didn't know they existed but they do and it's still your job to find
out. You should be striving for marital bliss
not just calming down her anger. You should be striving for a happiness that
you cannot find anywhere else in life. I'm gonna tell you right now
it's on you to look for that and I'll guide you and how, it's in my books, it's
in my program. If your marriage is on the verge probably isn't one of my books
will be fine but you really need to do this kind of research. You need to learn
how to be married. When you do you're never going to complain about your wife
being angry. You're never going to be defensive about your wife being angry.
You're gonna be loving considerate and caring. I don't mean to put it all
on you but you know you have some work to do. So hopefully, this was useful and
helpful for you, I hope so, I really do. So like it, communicate with me in the body
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