in this video i am talking about how to upgrade your life for mid-year this year we are treating
media like a second new year this is a time to start new things make changes in your life
become the person that you've always wanted to become or at least take steps towards that person
and in this video i want to talk about how to do all of that in the form of mindset shifts to
make rituals to embrace changes to make in your life the first way to upgrade your life mid-year
is through a mindset shift a mindset shift that is become the person that you want to be friends
with for example the kind of person that i would want to be friends with she takes herself to the
beach she goes on cue coffee dates she is reading she is meditating she is journaling and so that is
who i try to be and you can also use the mindset become the person that you would want to date
because how can you attract those kind of people in your life if you're not embracing the qualities
that you want to see in other people embracing this mindset does two things for you firstly
your life is going to be more enjoyable because you'll approach your weekend and you'll be like
what would the person that i'd want to be friends with do with their weekend etc etc and also you'll
find that you'll attract those people which i would argue is one of the biggest upgrades in
life that you can make just one new friend huge life upgrade to do this decide what the kind of
person that you would want to be friends with does with their days how do they spend their free time
what are the kind of places that they are going to in your local area what mindsets are they
embracing what kind of things are they watching then start putting yourself in environments where
those people would be so take yourself to the local coffee shop that you think that that girl
would hang out at escort yourself to the park read a book under the shady tree you don't need
to go to these places with other people if other people in your life don't want to attend your cute
coffee shop go on your own drop the attitude of if i have plans they have to be with someone else
if your small circle of friends cannot make it to thrifting on saturday you go thrifting anyways you
get a hot chocolate mid-thrift trip you bring a book so that you can sit drink your hot chocolate
we are getting comfortable with being on our own in this mindset shift then start planning your
weeks in alignment with this person start with small changes one little trip to that coffee shop
chuck in a workout session here and there and slowly up the entity over time going back to
that question what would a person that i would actually enjoy being around be doing with their
time the next way to upgrade your life for media is to decide to make the unenjoyable enjoyable
for the next six months think through the most mundane parts of your life so your commute your
cleaning routine waiting in line for lunch write a list of all of those mundane things that you do
that you don't particularly enjoy then ask how can i make these mundane moments more magical
if you mix doing laundry with playing all of the new episodes from your favorite podcast
laundry suddenly becomes an enjoyable task if when you wait in line for lunch you choose to
intentionally message appreciation messages to all the people that you love it becomes something that
you'll look forward to another way to make mundane tasks more interesting is to simply decide to give
them your all instead of just tidying the house decide to make it a project what is the best route
to tidy your house what can you do to make your tidying routine 10 minutes instead of 15 minutes
become kind of fascinated by these tasks that you consider mundane to make them more interesting
tasks iambogost is a game designer who talks a lot about making mundane things fun he talks about how
he really didn't enjoy mowing the lawn until he started asking himself what is the best time of
day to mow a lawn how can i make my grass grow incredibly well and then he just got really into
the mundane task of mowing his lawn being ultra curious made for a far more interesting task near
the author of indistractable goes back to the quote the cure for boredom is curiosity there is
no cure for curiosity the next way to upgrade your life is to create a weekly planning ritual that
supports you becoming the person that you want to be weekly planning is not just for productivity
i see it as a time to also plan in the enjoyable things in your week plan when you're gonna get
in nature when you're going to be in the sunshine plan in dates with yourself moments of discomfort
alongside planning in the to do's planning in the task planning in the things that move you
forward on your goals the most magical of times often come from just a little bit of pre-planning
you've rarely gone to a magical party that hasn't involved a bunch of pre-planning you probably
haven't been to a good presentation that hasn't involved a good amount of pre-planning it's very
unlikely that you have done a really good job at an interview without some pre-planning i recently
made a whole video about how to organize your week and get things done that talks all about
creating an intentional weekly planning ritual that is very much custom to yourself i'm going
to have that linked up here as well as down below if you want to dive deeper on a weekly planning
routine the next way to upgrade your life for the next six months is to start actively working
on your negative beliefs so beliefs like i'm a procrastinator i am not competent i'm not
interesting to uncover your negative beliefs that you really need to start working on ask yourself
the question what am i struggling with right now and what beliefs are supporting that struggle for
example if you're struggling with finding a good relationship do you hold the belief that you're
not worthy of someone amazing that you're not worthy of a ton of love if you are struggling
with money do you hold the belief that money is a really limited resource and it's really hard
to make negative beliefs usually start with i am i can't world is people are and those beliefs drive
your life whether you think you can or you think you can't you are right applies always
get intentional about firstly uncovering your negative beliefs you need to be aware of your
negative beliefs before you can start working on them secondly decide which ones that you want to
work on first pick the ones that are having the biggest impact on your day-to-day life thirdly
do the work around those beliefs there are a ton of resources online to help you with this if you
truly make it a priority to start working on your negative beliefs in the next six months your life
will look very different by the end of the year the next way to level up your life for media is
to decide exactly how you are going to manage your mind when negative feelings or thoughts arise our
society tells us that negative feelings are really bad to have and our friends and our family as much
as they adore us when we get negative feelings they just try to squash them they don't want to
see them and most of us are never really taught how to handle our negative emotions at least
in a healthy way something that can be really helpful for this is creating almost a manual for
your feelings so amber rae released a product it's called the wonder journal and it is essentially a
guide to managing your emotions if you're feeling angry you flip to that page you follow the prompts
this is not me telling you that you absolutely need to buy that journal i am saying that you can
create something of a similar nature for yourself that helps you to handle those emotions when they
arise it can be a quick list that says when i am mad i label five things in my environment i do a
breath exercise etc doing this is just like having a guide for your car there is not a chance that
you would let a learner out on the road without at the very least a teacher with them someone that at
least initially guides them on how to merge onto the highway without dying but once they've been
guided for a certain amount of time in australia it's about 100 hours that's when muscle memory
has started to develop reactions have become automated they have a reflex built in when
things happen on the road and wanting to manage your mind is very much the same if for the next
six months every time a negative feeling arises you react to it by taking five deep breaths really
sitting back and feeling your feelings feeling those physical triggers that come up behavioral
warnings that come up emotional warnings that come up and then doing a bit of journaling
you are going to develop a really healthy reflex when you feel those negative emotions in future i
have had a bounce back checklist for years that i've talked about in videos before essentially
it's this list of self-care activities that i know i need to visit whenever i'm feeling down i even
turn this into an interactive bounce-back guide on my app intention which i'll have linked down below
i have used that bounce back guide so much that whenever i feel off mentally i go through all of
those self-care essentials have i had enough water have i had a good nutritious meal did i get enough
sleep last night have i connected recently it's very automatic now because i've revisited that
checklist that many times and that's what happens my brain is now wired to revisit those things when
i'm feeling down i don't even necessarily need to go to the bounce back guide although i like to
because i've hardwired it in if you liked this video you might like my playlist that focuses
very much on resetting your life and this is a great time of year to visit those kind of videos
in it you'll have videos on how to reset for mid-year how to reset for a new month which
absolutely you can apply to mid-year how to plan and organize your week if you do want
to create a weekly planning routine and five thinking habits to start for 2021 that you can
definitely embrace in the next six months i'm gonna have that playlist listed on the
screen as well as down below i appreciate you so very much and i will see you soon