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You like someone and you told them how you feel,
but now you don't know what to do about it.
Things might seem a little awkward or weird right now,
and you're not sure how to make things work.
Well, don't worry, in this video I'm gonna share
a few tips on what you can do to get closer
to your crush once you've told them that you like them.
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- In the past, I've said pretty explicitly,
if you have the option as to whether to tell your crush
that you like them or not, don't.
And that doesn't mean don't share your feelings with them.
It simply means don't create a scenario
where they have to choose yes or no as to how
they also feel about you.
Usually that conversation sorta works something like this.
Hey, um, so I kinda like, I like you,
and I wanna know do you like me too?
When you say it like this, you create a yes or no
type of scenario.
Your crush may say, yes I do like you or no I don't,
which means your odds are 50/50.
Sometimes, people will even tell their crush
that they like them without even asking
if they like them back,
which just leaves your crush wondering,
oh, okay, oh well, thank you.
I don't really know what to say.
I think when you do it this way, you're making things
a lot harder than they need to be,
but let's also accept the fact that it's not
the worst thing in the world.
So, let's try to move forward here and not backwards.
There's a lotta fears attached to telling someone
that you like them.
I mean you might outright get rejected,
they might make fun of you, their friends might make fun
of you, even your friends might make fun of you.
Everyone's looking to make fun of someone here
for some reason.
But let's be honest, stepping up is always gonna seem scary.
You're doing something that you've never done before.
So, the best way to approach it is to try to see
how you can be as effective as possible.
So let's be real here.
Now that your crush knows that you like them,
they're gonna be waiting for you to act on those feelings
and carry them forward.
Let's put aside getting rejected for a moment
and say your crush gives you a response like,
oh well, I don't really know how I feel,
but let's stay friends for now and see where it goes.
If something like that happens, it now falls on you
to move things forward.
Don't expect them to talk about going out on dates with you
or even to bring up whether or not they like you.
It's on you to be proactive and to ask them to hang out.
Most people hear that word friend and take it
as an automatic demotion straight to the friend zone,
but I've done a video in the past explaining
the difference between the friend zone and a friendship.
And when you're building a friendship with someone,
it's the same as building a relationship.
You focus on flirting, joking, and hanging out one-on-one.
One thing to keep in mind here is that your crush
is only gonna start developing more feelings for you
if you're actively acting on your own feelings here
and pushing them forward.
Imagine being in your crush's scenario.
Someone shoots you a DM and says, hey,
I really like you.
Well, what do you wanna see from them?
Don't you wanna see them be proactive with their feelings?
Or are you really gonna like them more if they just
act more nervous, act more scared to talk to you,
and just pull away?
Retreating and hiding after you've already told your crush
that you like them is only gonna make things harder
down the line because your crush is gonna see
that you're not being confident enough
to actually talk to them and eventually ask them out.
And this is really the confidence make or break point.
It's not so much just telling your crush that you like them,
but really acting on it.
Doubling down on how you feel by asking them to hang out
or even just talking to them more is a good way to start.
Now there may also be some external factors
that play a role in how you continue to talk to your crush.
For example, let's say your crush's friends
start teasing you about it or even your own friends
start making fun of you.
But if you really think about it here,
if you confidently tell your crush that you like them
and then you continue to ask them out
and go after what you want, what can people really
make fun of you for?
I mean, really, what is the worst that they can say?
Hey look at him, he's actually going after what he wants
and he's not scared to do it.
Oh wait, why are we making fun of him?
And it's likely that you might also run into
the type of scenario where you tell your crush how you feel,
they run off and tell their friends,
and now their friends look at you like you're a weirdo.
So what do you do?
Well, I've done a video on this in the past
where I talk all about how to talk to your crush
in front of their friends.
And the whole idea really is to get the entire friend group
to see you as a confident person going after
the person that you want to.
The main reason why your crush's friends might think
you're weird is because you don't regularly
talk to your crush.
You don't regularly flirt with them
and you never ask them out.
So because this is all so new to them,
they're just gonna see you as this weird person
just trying to take away their friend.
The overall point here is that if your crush
already knows how you feel,
you need to act on your feelings.
Don't take a back seat, don't retreat,
and don't assume it means defeat.
Yes I intentionally made that rhyme.
And if somewhere down the line they outright tell you
that they're not interested or that they only see you
as a friend, be respectful, leave them alone,
and walk away.
Just don't assume that's how they feel right off the bat
if they don't give you an answer.
You have to be proactive.
The whole point here is not just to talk about it,
but to be about it.
What do you think, though?
Does your crush know you like them?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
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with a ton of videos all about scenarios
you might run into with your crush.
For example, your best friend telling your crush
that you like them, your best friend being your crush.
There's a bunch of videos in that playlist,
so go check it out, let me know what you guys think.
As always guys, love and peace.