Hello my wonderful friend! This video is on interesting reasons why introverts
are so attractive. If you have ever asked yourself "Are introverts attractive?" then
you are going to love this video. What you are about to learn is based on my
insight as a woman as well as my extensive research and training as a
certified coach. The last thing on this list is probably the most surprising so
make sure you don't miss that one. Before we get started if this is your first
time watching be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell. My name is
Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I help good guys get the girl of
your dreams so you're gonna want to make sure you don't miss any of the videos I
have coming. Now I quite literally get thousands of comments and messages and
questions on a weekly basis and one of the most common concerns I hear is "Well,
I'm an introvert or I'm shy and what if nobody's going to want me or what or
what if I'm never going to be able to get a girlfriend?" Have you ever seen
extrovert guys who seem just able to charm women like crazy and have you ever
felt like "Well maybe I don't stand a chance?"
The truth is, you stand a far better chance than you realize. Now I do need to
say this right at the start. I am not one of those people who says one is better
than the other. I feel like sometimes as a society we try and prove that
introverts are better or extroverts are better and the truth is, it's not one
ways better than the other. God made us all amazing with our own strengths and
our own weaknesses and we're all just trying to figure life out. I actually
happen to be an extrovert so I'm not in any way trying to down talk extroverts.
I've never done a video on extroverts, but if that's one you'd like to see be sure
to let me know. Now I recently did this video which is How to Flirt as an
Introvert and this video which is Seven Reasons Why Introverts are so Attractive.
You guys loved it and you asked for more so I wanted to give you Interesting
Reasons Why Introverts are so Attractive. So let's get started. Reason number one
why introverts are attractive is that introverts pay attention. It's pretty
common for extroverts to be friends with introverts, and
naturally in a romantic relationship for one to be an introvert and one to be an
extrovert. And one of the reasons is introverts pay attention. And for
extroverts it will help her feel heard and understood and introverts
are good at helping people feel like they matter to them, because they pay
attention. Everyone wants to feel heard, everyone wants to feel understood so the
fact is that is an incredibly attractive trait that women are obviously looking
for in a man. Reason number two that introverts are
attractive is that introverts can actually come across as more mature.
There are obviously people who are fun and a blast to be around but they can be
really loud and maybe even a little bit aggressive or pushy and all over the
place. And sometimes this comes across as immature and sometimes it actually is
immature and it can be really overwhelming. So meeting a guy who is
more calm and grounded can be incredibly attractive to women. A huge, huge secret
for you. Women like mature guys, unless she's not a mature woman but you don't
want anything to do with a woman like that. Women really like men who are
mature so that is definitely a trait that is very attractive. Quick question.
Are you enjoying a hearing about introverts and should I make more videos
on introverts and dating as an introvert? If I should be sure to comment "INTROVERT"
in the comments below. The third reason why introverts are so attractive is that
introverts tend to allow themselves to be more vulnerable. This is actually
something as an extrovert I have seen in the introverts I know. My sister is an
introvert and my best friend is an introvert and they seem really able to
just allow themselves to be vulnerable and be more comfortable being vulnerable.
Now, vulnerability is incredibly important in a relationship. Being able
to open up is essential to a happy and a healthy relationship. Now as a woman, when
a man opens himself up to her and when he's vulnerable with her,
I've been trying to figure out the words to use and I can't come up with them.
That is something that is very, very- that's a big deal to a woman. She knows
she's seeing something very, very special and that means so much to her and makes
her fall deeper and deeper in love with this guy. Not only does it let her see
the softer side of him, which is always attractive to women, but it also lets her
know that she's safe with him, that she can open up with him, and there's a huge
connection and a huge bond and a huge trust that develops when you have two
people who are willing to be vulnerable with each other. So being able and
willing to be more vulnerable, that is a huge, hugely attractive trait. The fourth
reason why introverts are so attractive is that introverts tend to be able to
maintain long-term relationships. Now that's kind of the end goal, right? Is a
long-term relationship. Especially for Christian women that is ultimately what
she is wanting, is a long-term relationship. So having the traits that
help you create and maintain a long-term relationship is huge. Introverts are very
very loyal for the most part and that obviously contributes to maintaining a
long-term relationship and it's an incredibly attractive trait that is a
deal breaker to women and makes her trust you and feel attracted to
you and want to spend more time with you. And we are to the fifth reason why
introverts are most attractive and I think this is probably going to surprise
a few people. So if it surprises you be sure to comment "WOW!" and let me know.
Introverts actually appear to be more confident much of the time. Have you ever
known someone who was just like really loud and really pushy and always had to
talk over everyone and always had to fight for their own opinion and kind of
push that on to people? If you've ever known someone like that you know that
they're trying to appear confident but they actually just kind of appear desperate,
right? They want everyone to think they're confident but usually someone like that
actually is not super confident. However, on the flip side, someone who is more
quiet often appears more confident because they don't have to defend their
position, they're already confident enough in themselves, in their opinions,
and whatever else, that they don't have to defend it because they just know it
and they're confident in it. So, often not feeling the need to express yourself and
and being more quiet in a conversation can actually help you come across as
confident. And as I've established in so many videos confidence is an incredibly
attractive trait. Now this obviously does not mean that you should never talk and
it doesn't mean that people who talk a lot are not confident, it just means that
what many introverts are self-conscious about can actually be perceived as
confidence. I hope you enjoyed learning about some of these introvert
superpowers as I like to call them. The truth is, you are doing better than you
think you are and you are so much more attractive than you realize. I know from
talking with so many men, so many good men, that the fear of not being good
enough because you're an introvert can keep so many guys from getting out there
and getting that girlfriend. The truth is, introvert, extrovert,
whatever, getting a girlfriend and getting your dream girlfriend is
actually very very easy as long as you know the right skills. Now we've already
gone over some of your introvert superpowers but how would you like to
know the skills you need to get your dream girlfriend? I have put together
some free training for you on the three secrets you have to know to get a
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I know it's going to help you so much. You already know now that you are
incredibly attractive as an introvert so why wait
any longer to get that girlfriend? Thank you so much for watching my wonderful
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I know you're going to love. Do you have an introvert friend? If you do be sure to
share this video with him. Everyone deserves to know that they're doing
better than they think they are because we all tend to be hard on ourselves, am I
right? So be sure to share this. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have
an amazing day. [blooper beep]
This is- I feel like sometimes a society we try and prove
that extroverts or- [messed up] I feel like sometimes as s-s-s-s society [chuckle]
So finding a guy who is more calm and a little bit more... I'm trying to think of
the right word. [pause] So meeting a guy who is a little bit more... What is that word?
[snaps fingers a few times]
I don't know what the word is. Grounded! Aha! That's the word.
Thank you so much- Uh [laughter] What was that? Thank you so much uh uh?