Hi, I'm sex and relationship coach Caitlin V
and today I'm going to teach you one thing
that if you only use this one thing,
I guarantee that you can prolong ejaculation
and premature ejaculation
and last long enough to have
your woman not only reaching orgasm through sex,
but begging you for more.
Pretty powerful, right.
No lie, there is one thing that all men
have in common, in fact, all people have in common,
but every man has this.
Every single man does this
when he is reaching close to having an orgasm
and I'm gonna teach you exactly
what you need to do to control it
so that you’ll never cum too soon again.
So, what is the one thing that
all men have in common?
Every guy I have ever been with has had in common.
That all orgasms have in common.
They are based in tension.
That's right, as you build your arousal,
you build more and more
tension in your body.
All that tension is centered around your genitals,
but all of the muscle from your abs, to your thighs
are involved in building and holding that tension.
So that when you get close to climax,
that tension pushes you over the edge.
So, how do you stop yourself from oop,
going over the edge?
You control the amount of tension that you are holding.
Listen, it is literally impossible to reach
orgasm without holding any muscle tension.
You just can't cum when you are so totally relaxed.
Therefore, you can use this to your advantage.
You can use this knowledge
to get enough familiarity with your body
and where it holds tension
to prevent yourself from even being able to reach orgasm
and I'm gonna teach you three super simple steps
in order to get you there.
Tonight, that's right, you can put this to practice
right now tonight, okay.
Are you ready?
Step number one,
notice where you store tension.
Everybody is a little bit different.
I have seen men who had to store tension in
every muscle on their body, from their arms,
all the way down to their feet,
even to get to the point of ejaculation.
Most people will find that it's in your lower abs,
your thighs, your glutes.
Basically the areas surrounding your genitals, but
but everyone is slightly different.
So, the next time that you masturbate or have sex,
just make mental notes.
Okay, as I'm getting closer to orgasm
I notice tension building in my lower abs
or I noticed that I kind of squeeze my
thighs together, pinch my butt.
Just notice, just notice, that's step number one.
Step two, consciously scan your muscles for tension,
and release it.
So, I like to start at the top
but you could start at the bottom and go in either direction
checking in with each muscle group as you go.
So, check in with those abs,
are they holding tension?
If so, take a deep breath in
and out and when you exhale,
imagine that you are actually releasing the tension
that was stored up in those muscles
and move on to the next muscle group.
So, for you it could be the top of your thighs.
Release that tension, let it go,
and if this is a problem for you.
If you struggle to isolate that muscle and
breath the tension out of it,
squeeze it instead as hard as you can and then
let it go, I promise you'll notice that its
way more relaxing than it was before you started.
Remember, the more that you focus on what's going on in your body,
the longer you will last.
Part of the main cause of premature ejaculation is
being in your head, instead of in your body.
I know it sounds counter-intuitive,
trust me I have worked with hundreds of men on this,
in particular,
it is a matter of being connected in your body
and knowing and feeling and
being familiar with your arousal.
So, take your time and move
slowly up and down your body checking in
and you know what, if you ejaculate
in the middle of this process,
it's just that you start checking in too late.
Next time you need to start checking in earlier.
Maybe before you even start to notice
that tension is really being built
and on the other hand,
if you lose your erection while you are doing this,
especially if you are with your partner, do not panic.
This is awesome,
that means you are that much further away from ejaculating.
Take the opportunity to go down on her, finger her,
take a break, switch positions,
you can use that as an opportunity
to prolong your love making
and give your woman
even more pleasure, more orgasms,
and more time to reach
that level of arousal that she needs,
and remember that women's bodies
work the same way.
Women are also building up and storing tension,
as they are getting closer to orgasm.
It takes their bodies longer to get there.
So, utilize that if you have the opportunity to,
and step three is just to practice this on your own,
so that you develop more and more body awareness.
Remember that the more aware you are
of what's happening in your body
as you become aroused,
the more that you are able to control it.
Use this practice of remaining relaxed
of consciously scanning your body
and figuring out where you are holding tension
to help you last longer
while you are masturbating,
so that you can last longer
when you are in bed with a woman.
It's like driving a car,
the harder that you step on the gas the faster it goes.
The more tension that you hold in your body,
the faster you will reach orgasm.
Relaxing in your body is similar
to just laying off the gas.
So, experiment just the same way
that you did when you learned how to drive.
See what feels good, what doesn't,
what works, what different muscle groups are involved.
Again, just study yourself, learn your body
and become as aware as humanly possible
of what's going on in there.
With this tip, I am giving you the keys to the kingdom.
This is like the porn star secret to success,
so that you can be sure to ejaculate
when you want on who you want
Well, just kidding, not on just anyone you want.
Make sure you get the explicit consent first.
But you know what I mean, okay.
This is exactly what those people who are gods of sex use
to prolong their ejaculation.
Arousal is not like a linear scale.
You don't have to go 1, 2, all the way up to 10.
You can use this to play around, build,
move, change, and fluctuate your arousal
to make it not just a great experience
for your partner, but also for yourself.
So, now that you know how to
control your ejaculation,
I want you to write on the comments below.
Which muscle group you found most useful
in delaying ejaculation.
So, which muscle group
out of your abs, your thighs, your glutes,
did you need to relax the most
in order to prolong your ejaculation and last longer.
This is sex coach Caitlin V signing out.