Most people don't think about their life
as a relationship that they are having.
But that's ultimately what it is.
Life is a relationship that you are having
with the people places and things
in your existence.
It's a relationship with the greater universe at large.
If people realized this
they would be treating their life differently,
they'd be treating the people, places and things differently
and they would absolutely
be treating their relationship with the universe at large
very differently,
Disclaimer (pause to read):
Setting Boundaries with The Universe
So many people who are walking the earth today
feel as if the universe at large,
what many people call Source or God
created them
and then dictate everything that happens in their life
and that they are just subject "to god's will".
It's tempting to think this way
because we sense the bigness and therefore power
and therefore authority
that the greater universe has.
This is why when we talk to the universe at large
we are usually praying to it or requesting something from it.
Like, we would talk to a parent who has the ultimate authority
to either give us what we want,
or deny us what we want.
Today, I've got to be honest with you,
this is a very immature perception.
It's a very immature way
of going about our relationship with the universe at large.
What we miss when we think about the greater universe in this way
is that we have a very dynamic relationship with the universe,
and in fact, we have a very two-way relationship with the universe.
The universe at large,
what many people are calling Source or God
sees everything in existence, this includes you,
as a fragment of itself.
Not just a fragment of itself,
a fragment that is imbued
with the very same qualities that it itself possesses.
Qualities like free will,
quality is like the capacity to create, etc...
What most people don't really understand
is that free will and destiny,
they're not a contradiction.
They go hand in hand.
Before coming into this life
you chose with your free will
into alignment with a certain plan for your life.
This was the why of this life,
versus any other one you may have chosen.
We call this bigger more objective plan
that is supported by the greater universe, destiny.
And therefore, using your free will
to go in the direction of what is wanted by you in this life
will put you into alignment with your destiny.
You are doing this life
hand in hand with the universe.
Because doing so is a symbiotic relationship with the universe at large.
It serves you both.
Your life experience serves your personal expansion.
It also serves the personal expansion
of the universe at large.
It is through you
that the universe expands.
It is through you
that the universe learns more about itself
and is developing self-awareness.
You must begin to consider your life
as symbiosis with the universe at large.
Albeit, not a very conscious one for most people.
Ready for me to simplify stuff for you?
All you need to do to be in a symbiotic,
and I mean a positively symbiotic
relationship with the universe at large
is to apply those rules
for how to succeed in a relationship,
to your relationship with the universe at large.
For example,
develop attunement to the universe at large.
You need to learn to see, hear, feel,
understand and know the universe.
You need to take its best interest
as a part of your own best interests,
you need to communicate with it,
you need to build trust with it.
In actuality, if you were to go back
and look through literally any video that I created
about how to make a relationship work,
and you simply applied that video
to your relationship with the universe at large,
you would be developing a better relationship with the universe.
But today,
we're going to talk about one specific element.
That's essential for relationships
and therefore, your relationship with the universe;
Boundaries.
Boundaries are a very important part of any relationship.
This means boundaries are an important part
of your relationship with the universe at large.
At one level, it is important to understand
that all is one.
Now, in a unified field where all is one,
there really are no boundaries.
And, at the same time,
it is also important to recognize that on another level
it is important
to define yourself.
Our individual perspective
is a kind of boundary
that uniquely defines us
from the rest of the universe.
A boundary is the imaginary line
that uniquely defines your personal happiness,
your personal feelings,
your personal thoughts,
your personal integrity,
your personal desires,
your personal needs
and therefore, most importantly,
your personal truth from the rest of the universe.
And given that you have free will,
you actually get to consciously choose what those are,
and consciously choose to live,
meaning think, speak and act
in alignment with those boundaries.
This is an especially big deal
because we live in a time-space reality
that is essentially governed
and set up upon this principle of mirroring.
Many people call this law of attraction.
Our existence is going to reflect back to us or mirror
whatever our boundaries are
or aren't.
This is also a big deal because in this universe
we are also managed by this law of cause and effect.
It goes hand in hand with mirroring.
Now, if we have or lack a certain boundary
this is going to cause us to think, speak and act in certain ways.
You could consider that a cause.
And being that way
is gonna cause a certain effect.
I'm just gonna tell you that that effect may just be wanted
or may just be unwanted.
Even though boundaries are about far more
than what you will and won't put up with,
most people are primarily concerned with boundaries
as they apply to how you want to be treated
and what your limits are.
Essentially, what you will say "yes"
and what you will say "no" to.
One thing I want you to remember about boundaries
and this usually confuses people,
is that a boundary is never about
what you tell another person that they can or can't do
because ultimately, you can't control them in any way.
All a boundary is
is you defining what you will say "yes" and "no" to.
So it's almost like:
"Regardless of what that person does or doesn't do,
what am I going to do?"
It is about how you will behave
given that defined personal truth.
For this reason, the universe wants and needs you
to set boundaries for your life experience.
And doing so,
changes the reflection you are getting in your life.
So that you can get a picture of what I mean,
I'm gonna give you just one example:
Anna had a very difficult life experience.
From a very young age
she had to keep on performing
despite or no matter what happened to her.
For example,
when her father became paraplegic,
literally the next day
she still had to go to her gymnastics meet
and perform so that the team would win instead of lose.
And when she was sick with the flu
and her boyfriend broke up with her
same day, of course,
she still had to show up to work to cover her shift
and to do so in a manner
where she was really showing up to the job
so she didn't get fired.
Long story short,
there's lots of other examples of this in her life,
this became a theme in her life,
is that no matter what, she had to keep performing despite.
She figured that this was just her unlucky lot in life
It was just that the universe was either against her,
or was testing how much she could handle before breaking.
But one day she realized
that if the universe wanted her to perform,
it wasn't fair for her to be expected to do that
despite not being supported to do it.
She was done
with the "performed despite" pattern.
So, she decided that this was her new boundary.
What I mean by this
is she decided this was her new boundary for her life
and for herself.
And something she needed to assert
to her relationship with the universe at large.
She decided that in order for her to continue to perform
her boundary was that
she was going to need and require support to perform.
And then, in fact, if she did not have that support
and instead, if pressure was added on her
to make it a "despite" situation,
she would decide not to perform.
The universe was in fact, very pleased
that this was her new boundary.
And because she made this decision,
she began acting differently.
For example,
she no longer put up with people being unsupportive around her
she went through a huge purge relative to her friendships.
And when her coach showed up to a gymnastics meet
and verbally berated her,
she did something different;
For the first time in her life,
instead of just taking it and performing despite this
she refused to perform and walked out of the stadium.
As a result of this powerful boundary setting with the universe
and commitment to live in alignment with her new boundary,
the entire universe began to reflect something entirely different:
support.
Friends who took pressure off her
and enabled her performance,
a new coach for her gymnastics team,
answers to improving her health
that she'd been looking for for a long time,
even people cancelling things before she had to
so she didn't have too much on her plate.
What all this means
is that something you need to consider
is one of the most powerful things you can do in life
is to set boundaries for yourself.
Set boundaries with the universe at large,
and then think, speak and act
in alignment with those boundaries that you have powerfully decided
as an element of your personal truth.
And then watch what happens.
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