In this video, you will learn 5 secrets to make a man want more from you.
So, if you’re dating someone new, or if you’re in an established relationship, using
These psychologically based tips will have your man wanting more from you and pursuing
you like never before.
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I’m Dr. Antonio Borrello and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach.
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OK.. on to the secrets to make him want more from you.
First, I need to say that if you apply the 5 tips that I talk about in this video, your
man is going to want you and pursue you like never before..
That you can count on… and let me tell you why.
Because These five tips are designed to accomplish two things.. first, they will increase the
level of attraction he feels for you, and second, these tips will help you to demonstrate
the fact that you are the amazing woman that he wants in his life.
and when you simultaneously increase both his attraction towards you and your value
as a partner, then you become the dream woman that wants more from… and so, he’s going
to pursue you and court you because he wants you to be his other half.
And again, these are tips you can use in the beginning of a dating relationship, but they
are equally as powerful when you apply them to your long term relationship.
These tips are going to reignite that spark and passion and have him wanting you like
he did in the beginning.
So, without any further ado, here are the 5 tips.
1.
Be The Woman He Can’t Get Enough Of.
Now, what do I mean by that?
Well, simply put, when you’re with him... you’re going to create a vibe that makes
him feel amazing.. when you’re with him he’s going to be feeling happy and on top
of the world.
And you’re going to be the person he wants to be with the most. and you’re always going
to leave him wanting more.. leave him craving more. and the only one who can satisfy that
craving... that need, is you... so you must create that dynamic... that vibe that
he can't get anywhere else.
And, you create that by doing three things every time you are together.
* a.
every time you are with him, and ideally in the beginning parts of your date, you are
going to connect with him by using his name along with positive words of praise and admiration.
That’s right, your are going to say his first name when you are talking to him.
The reason - Our brains involuntarily respond to the sound of our own names.. and this has
been demonstrated in countless studies… just do a google search on it and you’ll
see.
Hearing your own name causes your brain to react as if you’re engaging in the behaviors
and thought patterns that serve as some of your core identity and personality markers.
And when you connect his name with words of admiration and appreciation, – it has a
profound effect.
Let me give you an example.. ,,,
antonio you are such a great father,,,,, Really… thank you..
I really do try hard
See it works.
Remember, you are going to use his name along with positive words of admiration or appreciation
At least one time when you’re together.
Now, don’t over do it... just make it a point to use his name at least once every
time you see him.
* b. giving him the look of love through prolonged eye contact..
So, while he is talking to you…
while you are doing whatever it is you’re doing together, I want you to look deeply
into his eyes and think about how much you want him… think about how attracted you
are to him… and hold that stare.. * give him your most seductive look… because
prolonged eye contact... gazing into someone’s eyes increases attraction.
* I’ve talked about this in previous videos….. your “eyes are the windows to the soul,”
your eyes are the windows to your heart..
And When it comes to falling in love, how you communicate with your eyes can make all
the difference.
* That’s because Prolonged eye contact can cause two people to feel attraction towards
one another..
So again, make sure you are making that connection with him through the eyes.. and again, feel
those feelings when you’re looking at him…
* c.
And smile when you are around him Smiling makes everyone look more attractive and approachable
because it conveys expressions of joy and happiness.
* And when you’re smiling in response to seeing someone…
It makes them feel like you’re smiling because of them.
* And Of course There are Many psychological studies that have confirmed the relationship
between expressions of Happiness and attraction.
And simply put, ones level of attractiveness can be increased by the mere fact they are
expressing happiness.
* So….
When you are with you’re man.. and especially when you are first greeting each other…
make sure you give him a genuine smile and maintain that eye contact.
Using his name, giving him the look of love, and smiling and expressing happiness are 3
simple things – but make no mistake about it.. using them
together is super powerful.
So Make sure you use them.
OK on to number 2
2.
Become an active listener.
Active listening is when you fully commit to understanding what someone is expressing
to you, and listening with intent, purpose, and without any distractions or interruptions.
So, when you’re talking to your man, you can boost and heighten your attraction levels
by practicing active listening.
And several psychological studies have shown that active listening is related to higher
evaluations of social attractiveness.
Google that one too.. active listening and attraction.
. Think about it.
so many people today are totally preoccupied by their phones, by social media and texts...
so having a conversation with a person who is completely present and in the moment is
highly attractive and it further cultivates warm feelings.
So, how do you engage in Active listening?
Well, begin with the goal of trying to be fully present and seek to completely understand
a persons content...(what they are saying) and the feelings associated with the content.
1.
Don’t interrupt or judge the person who is talking.
2.
Nod your head and give short verbal signs and lean into the person talking so that you
are showing you acknowledge what the person is saying.
3.
Paraphrase what they’ve said so that they know you’ve understood.
Again... remember the content of what they are saying and the associated feelings.
4.
And 4.
Ask questions to signal you’ve paid attention and are interested.
This one is super important... it’s the basis for developing trust and emotional intimacy.
3.
Get His Adrenaline Flowing
You know that feeling you get when you’re really attracted to someone or when you really
like someone?
Some people call it the butterflies..
It’s that nervous excitement, the jittery stomach, a racing heart and an inability to
focus on anything but that person.
It’s an amazing feeling, right?
But what’s happening on the inside your body?
Well, when you’re attracted to someone, You’re body is releasing a cascade of neurotransmitters,
particularly norepinephrine also called adrenaline, just as it does during the fight or flight
response.
Chemically, it’s the same response.. if you fear for your life, your body prepares
you to fight or run away by releasing adrenaline.. and adrenaline causes an increased heart rate,
focused attention, and sweaty palms.
It is that same wide-eyed, electricity in your veins feeling that you get when you have
the butterflies.
So, what do you think happens if you are able to artificially trigger the fight or flight
response by engaging in some adrenaline producing activity with the person you’re dating?
Well, The arousal he feels can get transferred to you and the level of attraction he feels
towards you increases.
In other words, when you trigger his fight or flight response by engaging in thrilling
activities together, his adrenaline increases, his heart races, his palms get sweaty… and
all of those feelings cause what is known as a misattribution of attraction..
The adrenaline high he experiences gets associated with you and his feelings of attraction and
excitement about you increase as a result.
So, how can you apply this to be more attractive to your man?
Well, find opportunities to Engage in adrenaline provoking experiences with him…
go to an amusement park and ride a few roller coasters together…
go bungie jumping together, go sky diving… or wall climbing.
You can even watch scary thrillers together.
All of these things will provoke your body and his body to release adrenaline..
And when that happens.. his level of attraction for you goes through the roof.
It’s like fooling his brain (and yours) that the arousal produced by this activity
is really due to his attraction for you, and this helps to perk up the passion.
Try it… you’ll be amazed at how effective this is.
1.
4.
Get His Dopamine Flowing.
When you see a person that you’re attracted
to, Your dopamine levels instantly increase because you've detected something desirable
in your environment.
So, You become instantly focused and excited.
Well, guess what happens if you are able to artificially provoke an increase in his level
of dopamine in your presence.
Yes.. he becomes more attracted and starts to enjoy and desire you more as a result.
So, how do you provoke his brain to release dopamine?
Well, as it turns out, Engaging in challenging and novel activities affects the brain in
much the same way that drugs do—that is, they trigger your brain to release the neurotransmitter
dopamine.
And when that happens, you associate those great feelings to the people you are with.
Let me give you some examples that you may recognize…
people who are in challenging academic programs together… they are facing the same novel
and challenging experiences, right? and often grow very fond of one another quickly..
they feel like they have a super special bond… or they have know each other much longer..
that’s dopamine working its magic.
Another example..
Going on vacation to a new and exciting place with friends that you don’t often see..
When you start the vacation you feel one way.. but spending time with them in a novel and
exciting destination helps to develop this very strong connection… again, it’s dopamine
working.
or people taking dance lessons together and ending up having an intense affair.. yes..
that’s also dopamine.
So.. finding ways of engaging him in novel, challenging, and exciting experiences will
cause you both to have elevated dopamine levels and you’ll feel closer and more attracted
as a result.
So, try out a new hobby together.. preferably it’s something that is challenging or requires
him to learn new skills or to push himself.
For example, perhaps you are into yoga or platies, but the guy you like has never tried
it..
So invite him to come along.. or take dance lessons together, or invite him to experience
different types of food with you.
Or experiment with learning to cook new dishes together.. again.. we want to be doing something
challenging and novel together..
So, take up biking or hiking through an unexplored area near where you live, or take a weekend
trip to somewhere you’ve never been.
Remember these three words.. novel, challenging, and exciting activities.
All of these new adventures will cause a surge in dopamine that will be associated WITH YOU
and that’s a great thing.
5.
Ask him for small favors
People care more when they put more effort into their relationships, so if you want your
guy to like you more and be more attracted to you, you have to let him to invest in
you!
And I’m not talking about money.. im talking about allowing him to help you with things..
small favors, helping you complete a project at home,.
Help with studying.. things that take time and effort.
So, instead of agreeing to watch football with him all day, ask him to binge watch a
show that you will both enjoy.. and when he loves it, you now have something more in common.
Ask him to help you with everyday chores and taking care of your needs.
And when he does, he will be valuing and appreciating you more as a result.
So, the bottom line is that you have to allow him to invest his time, his effort and his
energy..
If he wants to see you, make him come to your side of the town.. let him pick you up....
The more he invests, the more he will like you as a result…
I know it seems counterintuitive, but trust me…when he does something nice for you…
he will be pleased with himself and feel extra-warm towards you.
Remember.. we appreciate and value the things we work hard for … so let him work for it
Have I missed any good suggestions or tips for encouraging a guy to fall in love with
you?
If so, I’d love to hear them.
Leave a comment and let’s start a discussion.
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