Getting Your Ex Back - Top 5 Questions Answered
What’s happening ladies and gentlemen, I am YouTube’s #1 breakup and divorce expert…
my name, of course, is Brad Browning… if you want to learn more about me or see how
I’ve helped tens of thousands of people like you win back an ex and get through a
breakup, visit www.BreakupBrad.com and check out my full how-to videos.
Now, you’re going to want to pay attention to this particular video, guys…. because
I think it’s going to be one of my best yet, at least in terms of offering helpful
tips for those of you trying to get back together with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
So last night, I spent a good two or three hours digging through thousands of recent
comments on my YouTube videos… and I’ve compiled a list of the top-5 most common questions
that kept showing up in your comments.
These are the questions that people are asking many times every single day, and for the most
part they’re great questions that you’ve been wondering about yourself.
So, let’s do this… starting with question #1:
“What if I still live with my ex / see my ex daily at school or work?
How should I handle that, and how do I apply your No Contact strategy?”
This is a super common one I see again and again in your comments, and it’s also probably
the toughest out of the 5 I’ll cover in this video for me to answer.
First of all, you don’t need to worry, this is a super common scenario that hundreds of
my clients have faced and managed to overcome… so, it’s not going to be something that
should stop you from getting back together with your ex.
As for No Contact, I still strongly recommend you limit communication to the essential stuff
only… just reply and engage your ex when it’s critical to do so in order to avoid
conflict or upsetting your ex.
This is especially important if you have kids together or need to work together daily at
the office or in school.
So, in those cases, just keep the chit chat to the important essentials only, and try
to avoid any kind of other discussion aside from perhaps a bit of necessary small talk.
When you are forced to talk with your ex for whatever reason, you absolutely have to keep
those interactions positive and drama-free….
Don’t ever let your ex drag you or bait you into conflict or bickering, and don’t
have “serious talks” or discussions about anything remotely related to your relationship,
breakup, or future together.
Just keep it to fun, light-hearted banter that will make your ex think you’re moving
on and your post-breakup life is awesome.
If you can, use the opportunity to subtly hint to your ex that you’ve started dating
again, and be sure to share details of any fun new social events you’ve been attending
or new friends you’ve made recently, that kind of thing.
Lastly, don’t make it at all obvious to your ex you’re trying to avoid him or her.
Sure, it’s fair and reasonable to want some space and privacy after a tough breakup, so
that’s not a problem… and I even suggest trying to avoid putting yourself in situations
where you have to spend long period of time with your ex… just don’t say things like
“I can’t talk to you” or “leave me alone”, and don’t completely change your
daily routines or habits just to avoid your ex.
Make it look like you’re not actively trying to avoid conversations, but rather you’re
just really busy and don’t have time for anything but the essentials and occasional
fun small talk if it’s necessary to avoid awkwardness.
Next up is question #2, and this one is by far the single most common question I’m
asked by my coaching clients and here on YouTube in your comments…
2.)
“Do I still have a chance to get my ex back, or have I blown it forever?”
Ah yes, the question that I see at least 10-15 times a day… and also a question I can’t
answer in a minute or two here, because I’d really need to know more about your situation
to give you a proper evaluation.
BUT… here’s two ways to answer that question yourself…..
First, take a chill pill, because I’d say at least 9 out of 10 people watching this
video right now are still in good shape and can -- with the right strategy and a bit of
perseverance -- get back together.
The only major red flags that might suggest you’ve got almost zero chance are if it’s
been a LONG time -- as in, years -- since the breakup… or if your ex has moved on
and been in a serious long-term relationship with someone new for a few months or more.
If your ex has blocked your phone number, blocked you on all social media channels,
and stated outright that they never want to hear from you again, that’s also a bad sign
obviously… but other than those 3 possible red flags, you probably still have a chance
to turn things around and reverse your breakup.
The best way to get a quick answer to that question is to take my free quiz, which I
developed myself from scratch using a boatload of research data, studies, and years of experience.
It’s free, so just go to www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz and fill out the 20-25 questions and you’ll
be able to see your score and a custom, detailed report with personalized recommendations based
on your quiz answers.
It takes about five minutes, it’s free, and the URL again is www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz.
3.)
“Should I text my ex if their birthday falls within the 30 day no contact period?”
Another question that I see all the time… and an easy one, thankfully, to answer in
this short video.
Yes, it’s OK to send your ex a quick happy birthday message or voicemail… keep it super
short, casual, and don’t turn it into a conversation… just say “Hey, happy birthday,
hope it’s a great day” and leave it at that.
The same thing applies to major events like college graduations, death of a family member,
etc….
It’s OK to break no-contact for a simple and quick message if your ex goes through
a major event like that during your 30 days of no contact.
4.)
“What does it mean if my ex unfriends me on Facebook or other social media sites, and
should I unfollow my ex as well?”
I have a video on this very topic already here on YouTube, so please search my channel
if you want a full answer to this question… but the short answer is: it probably doesn’t
mean anything major if your ex unfriends or unfollows you, and you don’t normally want
to block or unfriend your ex….
If you want to avoid seeing his or her updates, just hide their posts from your news feed
or homepage.
If you’ve already deleted or unfriended your ex, don’t stress, just move on and
worry about it later.
5.)
“What if my ex forgets about me or moves on during the period where I’m not talking
to them?”
Look, guys… my No Contact strategy works, and I know that because I’ve seen it first-hand.
Read through the comments on my YOuTube videos and you’ll see literally hundreds of people
saying thanks and crediting the No Contact method with saving their relationship and
getting a second chance with their ex.
Unless you’re in a very small percentage of people who have unusual situations that
might make No Contact less effective -- which is maybe 1 in 20 at most, in my experience
-- you should use the full 30 days, and avoid breaking down and giving up early.
It is often enough by itself to make your ex take you back, but even if not, it’s
crucial that you give your ex that time and space before you move on to the more advanced
tactics that I cover in my Ex Factor program for re-establishing positive contact and ‘sealing
the deal’.
Please watch my full video presentation at BreakupBrad.com for more info and tips on
how to apply No Contact in your breakup situation… it’s at BreakupBrad.com, it’s free, and
you’ll learn a lot if you watch it to the end.
I’m also available to offer 1-on-1 help if you need a more comprehensive plan for
your unusual or complicated breakup scenario -- more about my coaching program can be found
at BreakupBrad.com/Coaching.
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Alright guys, thanks so much for watching...
I’m Breakup Brad, and I’m signing off…
see you soon!