(upbeat music)
- Okay, well, let's do this.
- We met on December, 2017.
Wait, no, on December 31st right?
Right before new year's Eve.
But we've been talking for a couple of months.
You messaged me on "Jack'd".
You lied about where you were,
you spoofed your location
and then pretended like you were in New York,
even though you were still in Montreal, I think, or Toronto
or something like that.
And then you were trying to sleep over at my place before,
even meeting me.
But then on December 31st,
when you were actually already in New York,
you hit me up again.
And then I was like, okay, fine.
You can come watch a movie with me and my roomie.
And then we ended up going on like a proper date,
and then you ended up being my first new year's kiss.
- I was planning a trip to New York city for new year's Eve.
I remember seeing you on an app.
I remember we exchange our "Line" contact and Instagram.
And to be honest that evening, I spent maybe
a couple of hours stalking your Instagram profile because,
you were totally my type and wow.
I really wanted to meet you.
So came the day I'm in New York,
it's new year's Eve
and I text you hey, what's up.
What are you doing?
Where are you right now?
You text me back. Oh, I'm in the cinema with my roomie.
Do you want to come and see the movie with us?
So at first I was like, Oh Kay,
it's a bit awkward.
We won't be able to talk It's a movie, but
Hey, let's break the ice that way.
And I remember asking you after the countdown,
would you like to be my first kiss of 2018?
And I remember you saying, fuck ya.
- Well, I had two first impressions of you,
first when I saw you on the app.
And then second, when I actually saw you in person,
when I first saw you on the app,
I thought you were like, this really douchey guy,
which like, okay, I could be into that.
But then when I met you in person,
you were like such a perfect gentleman.
Because of that, I didn't think that it was gonna go,
anything beyond like maybe like hook up or whatever,
'cause I knew you were visiting,
but then it turned to like a date
and then it turned into you staying with me for two weeks.
- Wow. You're totally my type.
You had really nice feature,
really pretty boy and good sense of fashion.
You came across a bit shy at first,
but once I got to know you,
you were a really funny guy and with a sense of humor,
and you were really witty.
All of those things made me fall in love with you.
- I think one of the major differences is like,
more, more about how other people perceive us,
more so than how we act around each other
or how we live with each other.
So for example,
like when we're going out to like a restaurant
or we're looking at like apartments,
I do notice that,
I feel like people take me a lot more seriously
when you're there.
Whereas before we were together,
when I was just doing all this stuff by myself,
I feel like people weren't taking me as seriously.
And that I think was like the major difference,
between having you in my life now and before.
- Personally I didn't think there was
that much of a cultural gap, between us.
I had the chance to live in Asia for a couple of years.
So it, it helped with understanding each other's culture
and expectation.
Of course, there's always some stereotype going around
here when you live in America
and you're an interracial couple.
Some people would have opinion of you and thinking
preconceived idea of you.
We got used to not listening to those
and living our best life.
And that's what I love about us.
- My family's reaction weren't great.
I was pretty private about our relationship.
And you were pretty private about our relationship as well
because I asked you to you put your Instagram on private,
which I really appreciated.
And even though you're still posting photos of us,
only like, I think, our close friends knew,
but somehow our photos got leaked
and then people started posting them on Facebook,
and then at some point,
there was a news article about us in Vietnam,
which kind of spread like wildfire.
And that's how it all started right?
through that news article,
and then my family found out, and
and it was a mess.
It was a train wreck.
It was one of the most emotional nights
I've ever been through.
You were there, you know,
I don't think I've ever cried that much in my life,
it was insane.
But I'm glad that it happened because,
living your life in secrecy is not fun.
- I hope you know that my family really like you.
And they're really supportive of us.
My mom, my dad, my brothers, my sister in law, my niece,
everyone like you
and they greeted you with open arms into their lives.
And you're part of the family now.
I know on your side of the family,
it's not exactly the same thing,
but my mom wants you to feel welcome in our family.
And you will always be a part of it if you want to.
- When we started being in a relationship
or when we got married,
I didn't have like a full checklist of,
what I wanted in a partner.
I know a lot of people have that.
They're like, Oh, someone has to be like 6'2",
and like have to have this kind of job,
have to do that. Whatever.
I didn't have that checklist.
So I wasn't looking to be in like a longterm relationship.
So when we started going out,
and then we started going steady,
you sort of made that checklist on your own.
You kind of made me realize what I wanted in a partner.
You were such a gentleman to me.
And I was like, okay, that's what I want a partner. Now,
you basically proved to me that,
you're the partner that,
I wanna be with, the partner that I deserve.
- I don't think there is a moment in time during our
relationship that I thought, Oh, I'm choosing him.
Well, of course, when I asked you to be my boyfriend,
is because I felt that we had a good chemistry
and things were going smoothly,
the getting married and all that,
was just, it just happened, like,
one thing after the other,
life throws at you.
And we're just good at living life together.
And that's where I felt comfortable, putting down my wall,
with you, and being myself and, you know,
putting the effort,
into showing you that, I love you,
and I wanted to be the one for you,
'cause I felt that you could be the one for me.
Yeah, life event just happened.
And there is no straight answer.
It just, it was meant to be that's all.
- I would describe our relationship as like,
a pizza dough, because I feel like we've been kneaded a lot,
and then we've been put through the burner,
but then we came out fresh and delicious.
It wasn't an easy relationship.
And I feel like we've gone through a lot,
probably stuff that normal relationships,
wouldn't go through,
but we came out of it, delicious.
- Spicy, passionate, and always interesting.
Sometimes it's a real roller coaster of emotions.
We moved around a lot, New York, LA, Montreal,
and I feel that we finally found a place where,
we are comfortable, that we have friends and family around.
And I can't wait to see what life is gonna throw at us.
- To me was definitely the sponsorship process,
of getting me my permanent residency here in Canada,
because you don't know when it's going to come.
You don't know if you're gonna get it or not,
so it was like, a whole year of just stress
and wondering if we did anything wrong,
if we miss any documents,
if we should have done more.
- Just being kept in silence
and not knowing for months and months until,
it finally went through,
right at the end of the 13 months period,
knowing that we'd been through that together,
it makes me hopeful for the future that we can achieve
anything together.
So I want to start by thanking you because, thanks to you.
I learned to believe in myself.
I used to have really, a simple vision of,
who I was, my life and what we want to achieve.
I really appreciate,
that you were there for me, to motivate me.
And sometimes it's tough love,
but you had to say,
what I needed to hear to be where I am today.
- I can say that I've matured a lot since we met,
because you pushed me to do things that I don't think
I would have done on my own.
You made me believe that I was able to somehow monetize my
creativity or the skills that I had,
even though I never believed that I could have done it,
or could have done anything with it.
But I think since the beginning,
you've always been super supportive of me,
doing my thing and working and experimenting.
I also learned a lot,
about how I could be comfortable with myself.
Obviously growing up as someone who was deep,
deep in the closet,
it was really hard for me to be able to be public about,
who I really am and seeing how comfortable you are
with your sexuality, with your family and with your friends.
And it was really cool.
And it's what I've always wanted,
but I didn't think I could ever reach.
So you helped me realize,
the person who I've always want to be.
I know there are times when we argue
and there are times that's been difficult
and we've been put through the ringer.
That's for sure,
but there's not been one time where I'm like,
I don't love you.
I've always loved you, all throughout everything,
and I don't think that's something
that's ever going to change ever.
So, my answer is a definite yes.
I still love you.
- I can say without an ounce of doubt in my mind.
Absolutely, Yes.
I still love you.
I don't think that will ever change,
no matter what we go through.
I'm proud and I can say it out loud,
that I'm in love with Yos.
And that will never change.
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