Matt: Back in the day I used to miss all the signals in fact one time a girl actually
told me that she wasn't wearing any underwear and I still didn't make a move
on her now that's kind of a more obvious signal but there's also some much less
obvious signals that you need to look out for my name is Matt artisan from the
attractive man and these are teddy signs that a woman wants to go home with you
we've done all the testing you know what works now I'm gonna start the countdown
from signs that are a little more obvious yet a lot of guys still miss
them but they don't necessarily mean she's ready to go home with you right
then and there and work my way down to signs that are less obvious but are
pretty clear indicators that she's ready to go home with you pretty soon number
10 she's receptive to your touch now
generally speaking you're gonna start small and work your way up so just
because you shake your hands or touch her elbow it doesn't mean she wants to
go home with you but as the interaction progresses and you start escalating the
touch more and more starting with very platonic casual touching and you're
working your way up to more intimate touching that's a pretty good indicator
that she's receptive to more and more and you might be able to take her home
at the end of the night now I'm not going to talk about the different ways
of touching because I have a whole video that talks about the seven different
ways of touching and how to increase the physical intimacy in a way that makes
her feel comfortable and there's a link to that video down in the description
number nine she touches you first and is constantly getting close to you one time
I was talking to three girls and one of the girls actually spilled her drink on
my crotch and she began to wipe it off she actually crouched down and started
wiping so I took that as a pretty good indicator other indicators would be
she's standing closer to than most girls or most people she's like maybe this
close vs. arm's distance away which creates a lot of tension by the way do
not break that tension in fact and bump the tension you might even want to kiss
her if you know she's standing that close to you or just escalate things
further maybe kiss her on the cheek or kiss her on the neck to see how she
reacts but let her break the tension first a lot of guys have trouble with
this when a girl test them to see how he'll handle that tense moment a lot of
times they back away they can't handle it and sometimes women will even do this
during the daytime and then it's definitely game on but just notice is
she touching you a lot you know more than most girls is she sitting close to
you and her legs are touching your leg when you're walking is she grabbing your
arm and going arm and arm or you hold her hand crossing the street and instead
of pulling away when you get to the other side you keep holding in her hand
and she's totally comfortable with that and by the way if a girl is comfortable
holding hands with you like this in this locked position that is a pretty clear
indicator that you can kiss her or try dancing with her and if she's dancing
really sexual and grinding up against you then she's definitely comfortable
with that type of physical intimacy and of course if she kisses you first then
that's a pretty good indicator that she likes you and she wants to take things
further and you're not escalating quick enough one time in Brazil when we were
walking down the street with her friends in front of me and we've only been
hanging out for like 15 minutes she basically pulled me and pulled me
down and we started making out go to Brazil number 8 she leaves her friends
to hang out with you if she's not willing to leave her friends even just
to go a short distance like grab a drink or go to you know meet your friends or
go dance with you or go outside or any type of move like that then that means I
mean how are you gonna get her back to your place if she won't leave her
friends you could try to bring the whole group back to your place that can work
but the point is it's less likely on the flipside if she's totally willing to go
you know grab a drink go dance with you go outside get some fresh air that means
she's more likely to leave her friends and go back to your place later now the
farther did the distance away from her friends the better a sign it is if
she'll just go five feet away from them that doesn't really mean that much but
if she'll go to another room in the club or go somewhere where her friends can't
keep an eye on her because remember women are always concerned about safety
that's why when they go out impacts like that they're always like looking to see
where each other are but if they if her friends trust you and see you as a safe
guy a good guy and she sees you that way too and they're totally fine separating
from the pack then that's a good indicator and of
course the best indicator would be that she's willing to leave the venue with
you and leave her friends there and go to another venue that means you can
probably either take her home right there or a little bit later in the night
number seven she gets excited when you say something sexual if her eyes light
up at the word sex then that's a pretty good indicator that she likes it for
example if you ask her a direct question about sex something even simple like how
comfortable are you with sexual topics and she says oh I love talking about
that ding ding ding good sign on the flip side if she says well it takes me a
little while to feel comfortable talking about that or oh I never talk about
those kind of things then it's not such a good sign
or if you're a little bit more indirect maybe you tell her about some experience
that somebody else had for example one time I told a girl that my friend went
to a sex party a few nights ago like a swingers event and she said Wow really
I've always wanted to go to one of those that's a pretty good indicator that
she's very sexually adventurous that she doesn't have a lot of hang-ups about sex
now with a girl like that make sure to wrap it up number six
she gives you the look of desire you know what I'm talking about bedroom eyes
that sultry seductive look where she definitely has something naughty on her
mind for example she keeps looking at you
even though you're not talking the conversational thread has died there's a
pause in the conversation but she keeps looking at your eyes or even better yet
she looks down at your lips for a second or two every once in a while which is a
very clear indicator that she wants you to kiss her don't miss that opportunity
because remember women will generally not make the move first unless they're
totally wasted or something because it's just not in their nature it's your job
as a man to take initiative push on the gas and take things to the next level so
to help you do that I created a free escalation cheat sheet
that shows you exactly how to take things from a platonic friendly vibe and
turn things a lot more sexual and take things all the way to the bedroom so
there's a link for that down in the description get it man cuz it's
absolutely free and before I get into the top five signs that she wants to go
home with you make sure to subscribe to this channel because I have even better
videos coming out really soon and click that Bell notification icon because I
don't want you to miss out number five she asks you to go somewhere alone with
or even better yet her friends leave they go home but she stays there alone
with you actually my friends are leaving but I would say that's a really really
really good indicator that she wants to go home with you but even if she
suggests like going sitting down at the couch or going outside to get some fresh
air just the fact that she is comfortable being alone with you and
wants to be alone with you and is comfortable leaving her friends to be
with you is a very good sign that she'll go home with you
side note if a girl is drinking a lot that's also an indicator that she wants
to go home because she may be using alcohol as an excuse because women get
judged if they are if they go home with a guy often times by their friends or
even by themselves by society etc so she can just write it off by saying oh I was
drunk you know I didn't it wasn't really me it was the alcohol but be careful man
if she is a little beyond tipsy I would steer away I don't want you to get in
trouble it's usually not worth it plus she might just pass out when she
gets to your house and that just sucks what a tease number four she brings up
sexual topics if she brings up a sexual topic before you even bring it up she's
got sex on the brain and a story let's move on to the next one yeah seriously
if you are talking about the weather and now it's raining outside and she tells
you how she one time had sex in the rain and it was amazing then get the heck out
of there what are you still doing in the club it's good here but most women
aren't so overt about their sexual interests and their sexual fantasies so
what you want to do is give her an opportunity to bring it up one way I
like to do it is through the question game and I have a video on YouTube that
explains the question game I'll put a link down in the description but
basically it's you and her going back and forth asking each other questions
with three rules rule number one is the questions have to be good hint hint
rule number two is no repeat questions and rule number three is she goes first
and if her first question to you is sexual like what's your favorite
position or what's the last time you had sex or anything about sex then again you
know she has sex on her mind number three she tests you a lot of guys don't
see this as indicator that she wants to go home with
the guy they see it as something the opposite because she's poking fun at him
or teasing him or just saying something that kind of throws him off his game I
don't like cashews and he sees it as a bad thing when really it's a good thing
and let me explain you see four women going home with a guy is a scary thing
men are bigger and stronger and can take advantage of a woman when they're alone
together so she needs a way to screen you and make sure that you're safe and
especially make sure that you're not easily affected that your emotions don't
control you because if she changes her mind once she gets to your house and
doesn't want to go all the way and you get mad at her and kick her out that's
gonna be an awful experience for her or you force her to do something that she
doesn't want to do she needs a way to know that you're not
that type of guy so she might say something like are you a player or I bet
you sleep with a lot of girls don't you and if you start getting mad about that
or even starting getting nervous and you're just not comfortable then she
knows that you're easily affected and that you can't control your emotions and
that you're easily knocked off course another example is maybe you're going
you're taking her back to your place and she says okay I'll go back but no sex
first of all that means she has sex on her brain she's thinking about it that's
actually one of the best indicators if she says no sex means she's thinking
about it and she wants you to think about it but a lot of guys get
emotionally affected they said wait what do you mean we're going back to my place
I mean I thought it was implied I mean come on I I bought you all these drinks
and he gets angry or he gets sad or his emotions change in some way indicating
that he's not really the cool strong confident grounded man that she thought
he was the key is just to be cool it doesn't even matter what you say you can
say okay cool yeah we can just hang out well I like to say we won't do anything
that you're not comfortable with and actually mean it at any time when she's
back at your place making out anytime she doesn't feel comfortable let her
know that you're not gonna make her feel uncomfortable and you're not gonna force
her to do anything she doesn't want to do and that will most always make her
feel comfortable and then want to take things all the way number two she
screens for your logistics I mean by that is she asks you questions
to see if going home with you is a possibility if you're at a bar a club
she might ask who you're there with how long are you staying where are you going
later how did you get there and an obvious question I mean she wants to go
home with you is where do you live and even who do you live with by the way
where you live just like down the street oh wow
if you tell her you live down the street you know you're walking distance away or
five minute drive thing a little bell goes off in her brain ding ding ding and
she sees you as somebody that can satisfy her needs but if you tell her
you lived 30 minutes away and she's looking to go home with someone then she
might dismiss herself and find somebody else with better logistics for example
one time I was on a date with a girl it was going so well it's like two or three
hours in we're already making out and there was so much sexual tension it was
awesome and then she asked me where I'm staying because I was it was San
Francisco and I was just visiting and I told her I was staying at a hostel and I
just saw the disappointment in her eyes and she ended the date soon after that
so lesson learned don't stay at hostels and number one drumroll please
she overtly tells you her availability for example if she's there alone maybe
her friends already left and she wanted to stay to see if a guy could sweep her
off her feet and she tells you that she's alone
within the first you know a few minutes of talking to her I'm just here by
myself that's either a really good indicator or I mean she's a hooker
by the way don't assume she's a hooker just ask her are you working and even if
she gets kind of upset like what are you talking about are you saying I'm a
hooker you could say yeah maybe I maybe were working at the bar and then just
change the subject so also if she volunteers the information that she has
no plans for later I don't have plans for tonight or no plans for tomorrow or
she tells you that she wants to stay out all night and she wants to party hard
those are good indicators or if she's there with her friend and she tells you
that we need to find someone for my friend
wink wink then that means she wants you and you need to find someone for her
friend and sometimes it's not that easy for example I was talking to two girls
in LA and I was making out with one of them and I
needed to find someone for the friend and I asked her hey what kind of guys do
you like she pointed at somebody I went over and talked to him I said hey this
girl in talking to she really likes you let me introduce you and they liked each
other they start making out and then I said hey man we're gonna all go to my
hotel room are you down and he said no I can't leave so I forgot to screen for
his logistics because he was there with his brother or something and he didn't
want to leave even though you know this girl really liked him so I basically had
to kick him out of the group which he didn't want to do because he's already
making out with this girl and eventually he left and I found somebody else on the
way leaving the club and actually became really good friends with that guy and he
was cool and he you know helped wing me instant wingman but what's most
important is that you know how to escalate because it's the man's job to
make the move so remember to help you out
I created a free escalation cheat sheet that shows you exactly how to go from a
platonic vibe to an I want to rip your clothes off vibe this is very useful if
you're talking to a girl but it's going nowhere so download it now by clicking
the link down in the description and also to the right of the screen and make
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then check out our bootcamp schedule my name is matt artisan from the attractive
man and i'll see you in the next video