- So do you feel like you are putting more out to them
than they are giving back to you?
Or, if you're waiting for their text,
you're waiting for them to call you, and they're not,
then this video will completely reverse the energy polarity
and dynamic that is happening.
And I'm gonna share with you exactly what to do.
Now, the first thing I wanna share with this is that,
when it comes to wanting someone else to text you
or someone else to call you, what is happening is,
there is a desire for something on the outside to come
and to be part of the experience.
So it's an externalization of power.
Now, look at just this simple also photo right here,
this little diagram.
When we think of somebody else
or we are sending energy to someone else,
what we end up doing is sending them energy,
and that is actually depleting our own field,
especially because we want something from them.
And think about it.
When people can feel that you want something from them,
they tend not to give it, energetically.
They tend to almost be stingy with their energy
because of the expectation that is there.
I know that when I used to, even as an example,
sell woman shoes, if I was helping customers
and I was thinking, and I wanted them to buy,
and I wanted them to respond in a certain way,
the more I wanted it,
it was like the more they could feel it,
and the more they resisted buying.
It was very interesting.
But the more I was unattached and the more I didn't care,
the more they would buy.
Now, one of the reasons being
is because when we want something,
we are putting out resistance,
and then, in a way, we are thinking of someone specific,
and it's in a way like a location address
that we are energetically sending that energy to.
So if we are thinking of this person
that you want them to text you back
or you want them to call you,
and you are sending them energy,
sending them energy that says I want this or I want that,
and it's in a way needy energy,
because there's a feeling of lack,
they're energetically feeling it,
and it's like, they're repelled.
They don't want to give you.
Maybe they actually wanna give you what you actually want,
but, because there's this energy of resistance
and this energy of really projecting that energy,
they energetically feel it,
and then they naturally don't want to give it.
Now, I've shared this example before,
but there's a technique or a example
that will kind of illustrate why this is
and how this energy works.
Now, I've done this before at the shift experience,
and also I talked about how I did this before
at a life transformation place in Costa Rica.
But there was a energy person,
they gave a TED talk, that was talking about energetics
and the energy within our body.
And she said, as an example,
"Everyone in the crowd send me energy.
Send me energy. Project your energy at me."
And she said that, as everyone in the crowd did,
it was like 40 people, she would feel repelled.
It would like make her back up she said.
She said she could feel it.
It was like pushing her away,
as they were setting her energy.
She said, "Okay, now I want you to do something else.
I want you to bring the energy back to yourself,
bring the energy into your body,
bring it into your body and your hands and your feet.
Feel the energy."
And as they did that, as we all did that in the crowd,
she said she could feel herself being pulled into the crowd.
It's almost got a magnetizing effect to it.
So I've tested this, I've done this,
and this honestly is pretty much the frame technique
that I've shared in a lot of my YouTube videos,
which is a simple technique
of bringing the energy into your body, into your hands,
into your feet, going out to public,
feeling the separation between you and other people,
and you'll notice that other people respond
in a very different way.
Where, if you go out and you want them to say hi to you,
you're worried about what they'll gonna think of you,
you want something,
like it's even the validation or approval,
it's a very different energy.
And I remember when I first started doing this,
I was living in Sedona at the time, I'd go on hikes,
I'd go to whole foods and stuff,
I know it sounds random, but I would do that,
and it was like, I wouldn't need anything from anyone else.
And I was just such a different response from people
because I was more embodied, I was more grounded.
Now, energetically, when we're talking about someone
that you want them to call you or to text you back
and you want them to do that,
the energetic component of this is being aware
of where the child trauma might be,
that is actually wanting their call
or approval to begin with.
Because until we acknowledge that, we continue to search
on the outside for what we didn't feel on the inside
when we were kids.
We're trying to close the loop from childhood.
So a lot of times what happens is,
we feel, as a kid, we weren't seen,
we weren't heard, we weren't validated.
So, therefore, what we do
is we search for it in the people we're dating.
And if they would just validate us,
approve us, or give us, or see us for the way we are,
we would then feel whole and complete.
The challenge is that we're externalizing our own power
and we're looking for it on the outside,
versus giving ourself the validation, the approval,
and the love that we're craving on the outside.
So the question here is,
why am I craving someone to call me, to text me back?
And it's looking at that and noticing the awareness
that maybe I'm searching for somebody
to prove to me that I am worthy,
to prove to me that I am enough,
to prove to me that I am validated.
And the funny thing is,
until we become aware of this pattern,
we will tend to attract people into our life,
that replay the same childhood dynamic
that we had when we were kids.
So if you had an emotionally unavailable mom or dad,
you might find
that you attract emotional unavailable partners.
And the challenge with that is that then you're trying
to get to give you something that maybe at the moment
they don't have the capacity to give,
because what is attracted that pattern to begin with,
that emotional unavailability,
is a familiarity with that pattern
that reminds you of childhood.
So it just feels so good and safe.
Sometimes feeling safe, it could mean that you feel safe
and it feels familiar to childhood energy,
which doesn't necessarily be,
may not actually be a good thing
because you might have some of that gaslights you
or abuses you, but that feels safe,
but the reason that feels safe and familiar
is just 'cause it was familiar from childhood.
So one of the most powerful things you could do
in order to reverse this energy dynamic
is to actually pull your energy back.
The more you pull your energy back and you don't project it
at this person with no torso,
this little stick figure right here,
I just drew it a minute ago,
and it's like two legs and two arms,
it's like a star person, but the way that you do this
is you pull your energy back and you focus on yourself.
And also, another huge aspect of this video
that changes everything,
is becoming aware of the beliefs you have
about the person and about love and about yourself.
Because I had a lot of blocks with love especially
because I felt straight up like I wasn't worthy.
I remember I had friends and people in my life,
they like, "Look at what you've done in your life.
Look at what you've created.
You have this big YouTube following.
How can it be hard for you to attract love?"
But the reason there was blocks there
is because even though I maybe created this YouTube channel
and part of maybe even creating the YouTube channel
was to fill the significant wound that I felt as a kid,
not feeling worthy, whole, or complete,
so it's like, "I'm gonna prove it to the world.
I'm gonna prove I'm worthy, whole, and complete.
I'm gonna add value.
I'm gonna make these YouTube videos.
I get views.
I'm gonna have people actually see me."
But it's coming from a wounded place.
And what I eventually had to do is realize
that even though that was something
that maybe had some benefit
because I've created abundance
and I've created something cool out in the world
that I feel helps and adds value to people,
it was coming from a place
where I felt like everything was dependent,
like my value, internal value is dependent
on what I was doing out in the world,
instead of realizing that I'm worthy for just being me.
And one of the big changes when it came to dating
and it came to my own sense of the energy out in the world
were like one or two things.
One of them was I had to let go of the shame from childhood.
Because the reason I was chasing validation and approval
was because I was secretly afraid
that people were gonna find out the truth,
the truth that I am broken
and there's no one that can actually love the real me.
That's what shame is.
We believe, as kids, that there's something wrong with us
and that we're broken.
So then in order to get other people to not see that,
we try to create success,
we try to create all these things.
And we try to even, maybe you're on a date with someone,
you're trying to just show the certain parts of yourself
and you're avoiding other parts of yourself.
The key to the transformation that I found
is to go into the shame, it's vulnerability.
Vulnerability is one
of the most attractive things you can do
and things that will actually the heal the shame.
Vulnerabilities is being able to express the real you,
it's being able to express yourself,
knowing you could get rejected, you could get abandoned,
but really you can only get rejected
or abandoned if you reject or abandon yourself.
And that was a huge change, because then when I was dating,
what I would do is I would actually express the real me.
The parts of myself I was normally afraid of sharing,
I would express that.
I'd be afraid of physical vulnerability,
of like touching someone,
and then that would depolarize sexual dynamics.
And I'm like, "Wait, I'm actually just gonna do that."
Even if I get rejected, it's like,
"That is how I actually feel,
or it's what I actually wanna do."
And then I would do that, and then I found out
that it was all in my head.
That's what I realized.
And then there was much more polarity,
which was very interesting.
So one of the most powerful things you can do
in order to switch this energy around is to become aware
if there's any shame there and focus on releasing that shame
and realizing you're not broken.
It's also realizing that the stuff that happened
when we were a kid that we internalized
from our parents or our parents divorced or whatever it is,
it may have happened, but it wasn't our fault.
When we take responsibility for it,
and we think it's internalized as something to do with us,
that's when there's that heavy energy there.
But I didn't realize my parents divorced,
emotional unavailability,
all of these things had nothing to do with me,
and I didn't have to internalize it and think I'm broken.
I realized there was nothing wrong with me,
except for the belief that I'm broken.
So that's what you wanna become aware of.
This is an energy game.
Attraction is 100% an energy game.
And if we have shame and we believe we're not worthy,
then we're holding onto that energy within our field,
then guess what?
We're gonna seek validation approval on the outside,
we're gonna project it out, it's gonna weaken our field,
and the answer is to actually bring your energy back,
bring the energy back to yourself,
feel inside of your hands, in your feet,
and then let go of all the insecurities,
own your own insecurities, and learn to set boundaries,
that's also one of the most powerful things.
My shadow work integration coach
always says boundaries are internal,
which means you can set external boundaries with people,
like, "Don't do this, do this, and this is what I expect."
You can set external boundaries,
but the best boundaries are internal.
It's where you believe that people aren't gonna respond
to you in a certain way,
and you almost just carry an energy with you,
to where people wouldn't do those things.
I've had to learn how to have internal boundaries,
when I'm sometimes even out in public,
and I meet people that recognize me for my videos.
Because sometimes, back in the day,
I would feel like there's almost
like I had such a low sense of my own sense of boundaries.
That sometimes people come up to me,
that ask me lots of questions,
and maybe I'm eating food or maybe I'm shopping in a rush
or something like that,
and then it's like I felt obligated
and responsible to just give as much as I possibly could,
even if it meant sacrificing myself.
But what I realized eventually is,
instead of having to set external boundaries,
it's almost like I carry an energy now
to where people respect my energy.
They used to come say hi.
I love that, love saying hi to people.
But at the same time, there's an awareness
that I don't have time to drop what I'm doing
to go hang out and have coffee with somebody.
You know what I mean?
It's like awareness, and now that I exude that energy,
it doesn't happen.
So the key to this whole entire process
is understanding that energy
and how to pull your energy back and just how transformative
and just how powerful that is.
Now, something that I have as well.
If you live in the US or Canada,
if you text me your questions,
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and then I will answer questions as well
that will come in future YouTube video.
So that's one way to engage.
And then the other thing is,
I have one of the most powerful videos I have,
is on the five secrets to letting go
that make you magnetic AF,
that's gonna increase your field,
that's one of the most powerful videos
I've made it on my channel.
Watch this video right here.
In this video, I wanna share you five secrets to letting go
that will make you more attractive
and that will completely transform your life.
And when you start applying them, it changes everything
because you start realizing who you really are
and you start letting go.