Andy: How is the mood striking you now? *awkward laughing*
Matt: Can this dweeby 40 year old Virgin played
by Steve Carell, really seduce this hot girl working at a bookstore?
Well, in Hollywood, anything's possible.
Let's break down the scene and see if we
can learn how to seduce women like Steve Carell.
That's just so weird to say.
Cal: The problem most men have is they just
plain straight up have no clue how to talk to women.
Just ask questions. That's it.
Because women do not care about what you have to say at all.
Anyway, you know, and only want to do is talk about themselves.
So you're just going to let them do that, OK?
Matt: Yeah, that's kind of true.
I mean, when you approach a woman,
she doesn't really care about you because she doesn't know you.
So you're the one approaching her.
So yeah, you should be inquisitive of her.
And this is just general advice for any interaction.
Like if you can get the other person
talking by asking them questions and they really open up and talk about themselves,
like get them to talk about things that they actually care about,
talking about. They're going to like you doesn't mean they'll be attracted to you,
but they'll like you because they're liking the conversation,
because they're talking about things that they like to talk about.
So, yes, generally speaking, you do want to ask her questions.
The problem is most guys ask too many
questions and it turns into a job interview and that just feels draining.
I mean, who likes to get interrogated?
So let's see how he does it.
Cal: So remember, questions, be cool and be kind of a dick. Y'know, here.
Be David Caruso in Jade.
Matt: Again, he's not that far off base.
Obviously, you want to be cool.
You want to be calm.
Do you want to be a dick?
Well, kind of.
In the sense that you don't want to be a pleaser.
You don't want to be a nice guy because that's fake, where you're just trying to
win her over and accommodate everything for her.
The reason women like bad guys is because they're genuine, they're not pleasers,
they're being themselves, and they really don't care about the outcome.
They want the girl, but they're fine if they don't get
the girl because they know they have other options.
So in that sense, yeah, I agree.
You do want to be kind of a dick.
You just don't want to be mean or be
an asshole or hurt women intentionally in any way.
I haven't watched the movie Jade in probably a decade,
but David Caruso did have a cool, kind of charming yet seductive bad boy
vibe in the movie, which is something you want to have. The key is don't be a pleaser.
That turns women off. All right, let's watch some more.
Andy: Okay. I know exactly what you do.
Cal: That's good.
Oh, there she is.
Matt: I like how she's bored,.
Cal: Go plant that seed, man. Plant it with your finger.
Matt: I love that. Plant it with your finger.
What does that even mean?
Beth: Can I help you?
Matt: So I like that. He just goes up and he's just standing there like he doesn't care.
You can tell there's a lot of tension.
He doesn't even say anything, which is funny.
And, yeah, it's a little awkward, but the fact that he's just standing there in
that tension makes it kind of work. Andy: I don't know. Can you?
Beth: Are you looking for something?
Andy: Is there something I should be looking for?
Beth: Oh, we have a lot of books, so maybe it depends on what you like.
Andy: What do you like? Matt: I love this because he's really taking his
time and he's overdoing it a little bit, but literally ninety nine percent
of my clients, when they first come on a bootcamp and they're going up
and approaching women, they talk way too fast.
They say, "Hi, I just saw you heard that. You're really cute.
I just wanted to come over and say hi.
Hi, my name is Matt. What's your name?"
And it's like Speedy Gonzales.
And not only do they need to slow down like a thousand percent,
but they just need to have this kind of - kind of this, not exactly this,
but kind of this just cool, calm, vibe where they're not so excited.
If you act so excited and so nervous when you approach a girl,
it's going to turn her off because it's going to make her feel nervous.
She's going to feel uncomfortable.
But if you seem really calm, you're taking your time.
It's like you're in no rush because you believe she's going to like you.
You're only in a rush if you don't believe the other person is going to like you.
So you have to say it as fast as you can.
But if you know they like you.
You can just pause like I know you're going to keep watching this video.
I can just take my time.
Maybe I won't even hit play and watch the rest.
Who knows?
But you're still watching.
All right, silly example, but you get the point.
Beth: We have a great section of do it yourself.
Andy: Do you like to do it yourself? Beth: Sometimes mean if the
mood strikes,
Andy: How is the mood striking you now? *Awkward laughing*
Matt: OK, that laugh is no good.
It sounds totally fake and weird because he doesn't really know what to do.
He's being fake and a little weird.
But the sexual innuendo is great.
If you can sprinkle those in just like James Bond into your conversation,
no harm there. Because sexualizing the conversation in a very.. I'll say this
is an indirect way, and not say like, "Hey, do you like sex?
Do you find me sexy?
Would you like to go have sex?"
That would never work.
That's the way to direct flirting needs to be more indirect, more subtle.
But if you can subtly get her thinking kind of naugthy thoughts and she's looking
at you, then of course she's going to associate those thoughts with you.
And he did a pretty good job of it.
So let's see what happens next.
Beth: What's your name?
Andy: What's your name?
Beth: I'm uh, Beth. Andy: Andy. Beth: Andy?
Don't tell me, okay, Andy? Andy: I wont..
Unless you want to be told on.. Beth.
Cal: Wow, that totally worked. Matt: That was a great scene.
Cal: I thought you were doing that for years. Andy: Should I have asked her out?
Cal: No. That's the key. Matt: Look, man, compare his vibe in that scene
with the girl to how it is just a second ago when he's talking to his buddy.
Right. He's anxious.
He's he's kind of needy there with his buddy, but with the girl, he just is cool.
He's calm, taking his time and he's just having fun with her.
So even though this is a movie and it's funny, it's a funny scene, honestly,
that kind of interaction, maybe not exactly like that.
I think if somebody did it exactly like that in a bookstore - maybe I'll try that.
I'll find a cute girl in a bookstore
and I'll, like, act out that same the same scene.
But I think if somebody did it word-
for-word and acted like that. It might kind of be borderline creepy.
But when you take that vibe
and that demeanor, that calmness and that you're not talking
fast, you're taking your time and you're just creating that eye contact
and that moment and you're showing this interest in her, but not in a needy, like,
overly excited way. In a way that you could just walk away like everything's fine.
You like her, but it's OK if she doesn't like you back.
That is very attractive.
So try implementing some of this vibe and definitely some of the pausing
and holding that tension into some of your next interactions.
And let me know how it goes.
Leave a comment down below.
Let me know how pausing and creating
that sexual vibe and using innuendos works for you.
And make sure to watch this next video
breakdown where Leonardo DiCaprio seduces a cigarette girl in the movie The Aviator.
It's one of my favorite scenes because he creates so much sexual tension.
I mean, he ramps it up in like 30 seconds.
So make sure to watch that scene because
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