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have you ever wondered does masturbation hurt your chances with women can
masturbation actually decrease your chances with hot girls and does no FAP
even work I'm at artisan from the attractive man and this time I'll answer
the question does masturbating hurt or help your chances when it comes to
meeting and attracting women
to be assertive we've done all the testing you know what
works well I have to go sharpen my pencil if you know what I mean according
to statistic brain calm 95% of men admit to masturbating 55 percent of myths to
masturbating weekly and 40 percent admit to masturbating daily that's a really
big percentage of men so pretty much all of us know about it and most of us do it
on a regular basis according to the same source even women are in on the action
89% of women actually admit to doing the deed
that's right men women like to rub one out - well let's see what medical
science and psychology has to say first why do men jerk off in the first place
studies have shown that masturbation has the following effects on men it can
relieve sexual tension it can relieve stress it can help you sleep better
improve self-esteem and body image and can even improve certain sexual problems
most doctors also encourage masturbation saying that it can increase overall
sexual health however this must be done in moderation
doing too much of it can have harmful physical and mental effects now on to
the real question does it limit or decrease your chances with women first
of all you need to understand that when you masturbate a drop in testosterone
does occur it's nothing that significant that would affect your overall health
but masturbating in general can have an effect when it comes to your chances
with women first of all it definitely can deplete your motivation have you
ever heard the saying never leave the house with a loaded gun I've been going
out with a loaded gun he's not talking about a gun it means masturbate before
your date that saying was basically made to prevent guys from thinking about sex
all the time the belief was that if you kept thinking about getting into her
pants you would probably mess up and throw off
your game the problem is that after you orgasm your testosterone levels drop
along with your neurotransmitters and dopamine levels that have already fully
rewarded you with the feeling that you've just had sex
your body has already perceived that you've finished your instinctive role as
a man to procreate thus severely depleting your motivation
to actually go out and meet real women and that kind of mental state you'll be
less motivated to actually go out and approach women or to even go on dates
and you'll probably just end up staying home I wish I could say that's never
happened to me keep in mind that testosterone is your manly hormone
involved in developing certain sexual characteristics such as growing a beard
having a deeper voice and developing muscle mass so even if you actually do
will yourself to go out and meet women you might appear less manly due to
you're depleted testosterone level plus if your desire and motivation to have
sex is a little bit lower than usual you may not have that same seductive look in
your eye when you're talking to women one of the biggest aphrodisiacs for a
woman is to feel desired by a sexually confident man you see women love it when
a man that they like is turned on by them which is a lot harder to do after
you've just rubbed one out what I recommend is that you hold off on
spanking your monkey if you're planning on going out to meet women that includes
dates too it'll feel more confident more manly and more motivated if you have a
fully loaded gun the gun metaphor actually makes a lot of sense plus if
things go great and you end up back at your place you can release all you want
and remember to practice safe sex by the way guys if you're not already
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of really awesome videos coming out and make sure to also hit that Bell icon so
that we can notify you of upcoming videos another problem is that it can
actually make you desperate for instant gratification like I said before
masturbation and then of itself is not harmful it's actually a healthy practice
and a lot of doctors recommend it but as in most things in life too much of a
good thing can actually become bad for you
you see dopamine and serotonin are regulated to give you pleasure in
connection to your experience masturbating too much especially to
Impractical stimuli like fantasy pornography stop watching porn can
actually Hotwire your brain to only respond to what it's used to so then
when it comes to actually doing the real your mind and body will either feel
desperate to get an instant orgasm and you'll come too early or reject the
feeling and leave your penis flaccid we've all been there and both those
scenarios are no fun so what I recommend is that you only masturbate once or
twice a week and try not doing it to pornography
instead try fantasizing about women that you've actually slept with if you think
of women that you've already been with and you imagine those past sexual
experiences it can actually boost your confidence
and self-esteem if you're fantasizing about your own past memories and you
know sexual conquests and better yet don't masturbate at all the real thing
is a lot better trust me I tried it once by the way if
you watch porn and you're wondering you know what are the effects on porn on
your psyche and just your overall health I create a whole video on that here on
YouTube and there's a link down in the description last but not least
masturbating can decrease your self esteem and your self-worth
when down the wrong way if you use it to escape reality or mask negative emotions
that's where it can take a wrong turn you see when masturbation is linked to
depression or anxiety it can actually worsen those feelings afterwards just
like using harmful drugs or alcohol to forget depression masturbation can
become highly addictive and damaging to the psyche
after you finish stroking your salami you should actually feel feelings of
success and achievement which you know are good things and actually make you
feel more confident and have higher self-esteem if however your self-love
session is followed by negative feelings of sadness guilt shame depression or
anxiety that can lead to devastating mental damages this is what usually
starts the downward spiral of clinical depression and addiction so what I
recommend is to never masturbate when you're feeling depressed or after you
experience a loss in your life and don't use it to escape reality instead try
something like exercise or a good hobby to help you get negative thoughts off
your mind so remember if you want to masturbate just don't do it before
you're about to go out of meet women and don't do it before a date
don't watch pornography instead fantasize about actual experiences
that you've had make sure you don't get carried away and do it all the time
that's just a time waster anyway and don't do it when you're depressed or as
a way to escape reality now if you want to meet a real woman who is willing to
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i'll see you in the next video