Some people
are successful
doing things they don't like,
but they're not happy.
Some people do
things that they really like,
but they're not successful.
So you have to find a balance.
And you have to ask yourself
what success is.
What is success, self?
What is success? Self?
Self, what is success?
That's a really good question.
That's a question a lot of people ask.
I don't know.
What do you think success is?
Success is when you succeed.
What advice do think you’d heard at my age?
the advice
that I wish I heard at your age.
I think it's something that I tell you
all the time.
And that's
that it's really important
for you to be you.
And you do a really great job at that.
And I wish I had- had heard that too.
But it doesn't matter
what other people think.
You can wear what you want and
say what you want,
and you should do your best
to be kind to people.
Did you do something like that
when you were a kid or...?
Did I do something like what?
Like I am now.
What do you mean?
Like, did you do something like I-
Did you- like, when you were a kid,
were you like me?
In some ways, yeah.
Like what? - Um.
Well, what I said before: that
I had a lot of opinions
that I like to share with people.
Just like you- Just like you do.
Um, yeah, I would just.
I would- if I could go back to
when I was little, when I was five,
I would want someone to tell me it's
okay to be who I am.
What advice can you give me about dating?
What advice can I give you
about dating?
Be respectful.
Listen to whoever the person is,
you know,
look them in the eye,
make them feel special.
Ask questions.
Um...
know that
it probably won't be
the only person you...
You know, are in love with, you know,
and have fun and, you know, and make
make them laugh, you know?
And also, be honest with them.
Don't change.
Don't say something just to make them...
Happy. - Happy or to make them sad.
Be honest.
What advice do you wish you heard
at my age?
A lot.
Um.
Uh.
Gosh, what advice
do I wish that I heard at your age?
Seven year old.
I-
I know how old you are.
I wish that I got the advice
that everything was going to work out
no matter what.
I wouldn't
have to worry
that everything was going
to always be okay.
Yeah.
What advice do you wish you had heard
at my age? But different.
Um.
I wish, at your age,
somebody told me or anybody told
me, like, advice wise, that
it's really okay
to have certain feelings.
And that we can just, like, work
through the feelings. Right?
So that's the advice that I didn't get,
that feelings that come up
are- it's fine to have those feelings,
we just like talk through them, right?
What’s something you think I need to hear?
There's so many things.
That's like asking me to give you
all the advice that I want
you to have for your life.
What's one thing that I feel like
you need to hear?
That no matter what, I love you.
And I trust that
you'll do what's right
and you'll mess up
and you’ll make mistakes
and life will happen and it'll get hard.
But
you got it.
And you can do it.
You can get through it.
What makes it easier
to get through certain
things is grace and
compassion, because
it just makes it easier
for everyone all around.
And you never know
when you're going to need it back.
So it's good to just try to
just know your own strength
and also know your own gentleness.
What advice do you wish you heard
at my age?
At your age?
Yeah. - Oh, geez. Okay.
Ten years old.
What do I wish?
Mm hmm.
Any kind of advice
about getting along with other people
and feeling good about myself
in general.
Because
my parents didn't
really give me advice
about anything,
so it would have been nice.
Yeah, just like, getting
at least a little bit of advice about
what I’m- about life. - Yes.
Yeah.
That would have been good,
because I feel like I was
a little lacking in social skills
growing up as a kid.
And... - Your parents like-
Yeah, well,
my dad didn't really talk to us much, and
like I said before,
and then I knew Nana,
she seemed kind of clueless.
And then they dumped you.
You keep saying that.
They didn't dump me.
What advice do you wish you heard
at my age?
What advice do I wish I heard
at your age? When I was seven?
Mmhm...
Well,
people might have given me advice,
but I don't think I remembered it.
But maybe
just to keep doing what you love,
the things that you really love to do,
whatever it is,
if it's drawing or writing.
Or reading or running.
Yeah, I think that's the best
advice at any age
to do something that you really love
to do because then you'll be good at it,
you'll have fun with it,
and that's what's going to keep you.
Very good.