- Each of the 16 personality types has a few quirky traits
that can either hold them back
or elevate them to a higher level.
Well, have you ever wondered what you can do
to develop some of those more positive traits?
Have you?
This video's gonna be awkward if you haven't.
Today, we're gonna look at habits
that each of the 16 types can develop
if they wanna be better versions of themselves.
You might even say developing habits
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Action-oriented, smooth and willing to try anything once,
the ESTP is one of the most active types out there.
In fact, their activeness and impulsiveness
can get them into trouble in a lot of situations.
If you leap before you look,
you might find yourself leaping off the edge of a cliff.
Generally, not good.
Wished I had looked first.
The most important habit
for ESTPs to develop is mindfulness,
the process of stopping what you're doing
and being mindful of what you're experiencing.
It's funny 'cause ESTPs are great at living in the moment,
but you need to stop, slow down, process what's happening.
Even just a little mindfulness can prevent ESTPs
from getting into irreversible situations.
Frank, why do you keep saying situations?
It wasn't funny the first time.
I don't know.
Fun loving ESFPs can be just as impulsive.
ESFPs are always chasing that next high of excitement,
whatever it is that can make them feel more alive.
This can be a problem for ESFPs
because they might find themselves
trying to push the envelope
in ways that aren't always healthy or safe,
like extreme sports or parties that get a little too crazy.
You know what I'm talking about.
You know, the parties where they got a little punch
and someone spikes it, spikes it with a little Metamucil?
He'll be in the bathroom for hours.
Frank, Metamucil doesn't even do that.
All right, so the habit ESFPs should develop
is contentness, being okay with how things are right now.
Not everything needs to be new and exciting
and learning to savor the small things in life
can help ESFPs find satisfaction in the long run.
On the opposite end of the fun loving spectrum,
we have the ISTJ,
who is instead known for their sometimes serious
and professional demeanor.
It's nice to have an ISTJ around
when you wanna keep the ship sailing smoothly.
Their, "I know best," mindset
combined with their hardworking personalities
makes them fantastic workers,
if a little strict with the rules.
Their adherence to rules and their established methods
can actually be their downfall.
And the habit that they need to develop
is to simply learn that it's okay to seek opinions
or methods that exist outside of their box.
I know, the ISTJs, they have this fear.
They feel like if they stray too far from the path,
then everything will fall apart.
But you know what?
It's actually true, in a lot of cases,
but on the other end of the spectrum,
an obsession with following the protocols
doesn't allow for growth.
Sometimes, it's good for things to fall apart,
so that you can put them back together.
The ISFJ is often considered the helper type
and this is because they're good at jumping into action
when someone needs them.
They also really love the movie, "The Help,"
and The Beatles album, "Help."
But a big thing they struggle with is taking the initiative.
You see, they prefer to go on the defensive.
They prepare themselves for the bad stuff that can happen
and then they react when the problems arise,
instead of going on the offensive,
identifying what could go wrong
and then taking steps to prevent it
before it's reared it's ugly head.
So a habit that can help out the ISFJs with this
is for them to ask themselves the question,
"Can I eliminate this struggle
"before it even becomes a problem?"
It's a subtle distinction.
I know, it's like if you see a flammable substance
on the ground, is it better to clean it up
before a fire starts or to prepare yourself with water
and a fire extinguisher
for when Timmy comes over with a lighter?
ENTJs often feel like their way of seeing the world
is the most productive and, in fairness, many times it is.
The problem here is that many people,
and especially people who aren't ENTJs,
don't constantly want someone telling them
how they should do things,
even if the way that the ENTJ
is telling them to do it is better.
So the habit that ENTJs can develop
to alleviate this problem is an awareness
of when it is appropriate to interject with advice.
If you give a man a fish, but don't teach him how to fish,
he's gonna be hungry in just a few hours.
If you give people the answer,
while never giving them a chance to learn on their own,
they won't learn.
So ENTJs, let everyone fail.
(laughs)
ESFJs get along with most people well
because of their empathetic and warm approach.
A struggle they face though
is that sometimes they're overbearing with their caring,
doing favors or scheduling things for people they care about
without the other person's opinion or input on the matter,
like a parent who signs their kid up for soccer
because they think the kid will have fun,
but the kid hates soccer.
One habit you could develop as an ESFJ
is to learn to ask someone if they would like your help
and then to respect their response.
I know, you just feel the pull of it.
You're like, "I should just swoop in and help them.
"It would be stupid for me to ask if they want my help."
No, sometimes people just wanna be left alone,
even if you could help them out and your good intentions
could be making your relationships suffer.
Now, although ENFJs are known as empathetic helpers,
they can be surprisingly self-conscious
about their own actions and how they appear to others.
For example, an ENFJ might be hesitant to give input
into a group vote before everyone else has voted
because they don't wanna appear dumb
or go against the majority.
A habit that ENFJs can develop is reminding themselves
that having their own thoughts or opinions on situations
can be a good thing and that it's okay to make decisions
without the approval of other people.
ENFJs worry about how others see them
more than people actually think about the ENFJ
or anyone really.
And for an ENFJ, freeing themselves from that anxiety
can be really beneficial.
Now, ISTPs, they like to go against the grain
and stick it to the man.
What? What man?
I don't, the man.
If they see rules they don't like,
or especially if they think they're illogical or dumb,
they might break them out of principle.
They'll go out of their way to break these rules.
Unless extreme circumstances,
this could be something as simple
as just pushing boundaries,
like bringing their dog to a park
that has a sign that says, "No Dogs."
What kind of terrible park is that?
It don't make no sense.
- That don't make no sense.
- These behaviors can cause the ISTP
to get themselves into hot water if they aren't careful.
A habit ISTPs can develop is to think about the boundaries
they are pushing from a wider perspective.
Yeah, maybe that rule is in place for a good reason.
It's just not a reason that you can think of or relate to.
And maybe it's not that much of a pain
to actually adhere to a rule
that might not make a lot of sense to you.
Yeah, some rules need to be broken for progress,
but not all of them, and not all at once.
Get your dog outta that park.
Many INTPs use their exceptional logical skills
to try to conquer problems that aren't always best solved
by logic, like interpersonal issues or relationships.
It's like hiring an HR department
to improve employee satisfaction
and the department spends hours in their offices,
researching what makes employees happy,
instead of just, like, talking to the employees
and asking, "What makes you happy?
"Could you just tell me?"
They're like a carpenter who loves his hammer
and he uses it even when he should be using a screwdriver.
This leads to INTPs using solutions that are logical,
but they don't really fit the specific needs
of the people they are interacting with.
'Cause guess what?
People ain't always logical.
The habit INTPs can develop
is recognizing that people aren't logical systems.
Sometimes, you have to approach interactions
in ways that might not make any sense to you,
but it's in the best interest of you connecting with others.
ISFPs can be known for their laser focused interests,
whether it's in the arts, a band they like,
a sport, whatever.
Once they fall down a rabbit hole of personal interest,
it can be really hard for them to come out of it
and try something different.
Now, this might sound odd because the ISFP
is known as an explorer type,
but what separates them from, say, the ESFP,
a very similar type, is that the ISFP's exploration
is usually within one or a few laser focused interests
that change from time to time.
A habit ISFPs can develop
is to remember their explorative side
when they are already in the middle of a current obsession.
You don't need me to tell you, but I'm gonna tell you,
there's a whole world of interesting things out there
and getting super attached to the first interesting one
that you come across might leave you wanting more
down the road.
Known for their dreamer-like personalities,
INFPs can find themselves easily caught up
in an idealist fantasy that just blooms within their mind.
The idealism can be a good thing.
We need people who dream of a better future
to give us an idea of what a good future could look like.
Sometimes, though, INFPs get a little carried away
or they wanna take drastic leaps towards that future
without any of the small steps along the way.
A habit INFPs can develop is recognizing that change
takes time and not everyone can see the INFP's perspective
as easily as they can,
and it might be a great vision for the future,
but others might not wanna get on board.
It's like if we suddenly just got rid
of all the fossil fuel emissions from the planet in one day,
sure, that's a good thing,
but the majority of the population suddenly not having cars,
not a good thing, could present a few problems
because we don't all have a horse.
ENFPs are often seen as a whirlwind to those around them.
They're hard to keep up with.
They're always doing something new
and they're generally out of control.
One thing ENFPs like to do
is try to get other people involved in their antics.
After all, if I'm gonna have fun doing something,
everyone else should have fun doing it too, right?
Some people, mainly introverts,
can feel exceptionally overwhelmed
when an ENFP suddenly throws them headfirst
into one of their plots.
A habit that ENFPs can develop is learning when it is
and when it isn't appropriate
to drag people into their fun and games.
Some people just wanna be left alone and that's okay.
Maybe they're just having a bad day
and the ENFPs spontaneous antics
aren't the solution this time, maybe next time.
Despite their tendency to hop from project to project,
ENTPs can surprisingly get a lot done.
Their biggest setback is usually routine
and scheduling though
and many ENTPs will spend more time developing
or writing out a routine
than they will actually spend following one.
It's like the routine and the scheduling
is so unnatural to them that they get weirdly stuck on it
and they're like, "I have to figure this thing out,"
and then you just waste a bunch of time.
I'm not saying just give up on routine,
but don't sweat it too much.
Give give it your best shot, take a step back.
A habit that can help with this is learning to recognize
when a routine is actually going to be beneficial to you,
as an individual.
Like, really, stop and reflect, "Will this routine help me
"or is this just something I'm doing
"because a successful business guru told me
"this is how he upped his productivity?"
Finding what works for you will always be better
than finding what worked for someone else.
And ENTPs usually have unconventional ways of doing things.
Focused and forward-thinking,
the INTJ can often find themselves boarded up
in their rooms, working on something for days at a time
from an inspiring idea they had.
The thing they struggle with, though,
is getting too focused in on that one idea,
like working in solitude for a long time
without ever stopping to analyze the real world info.
For example, you have a great idea
for an investment firm business.
What is an investment firm?
I don't know.
- No one knows what it means, but it's provocative.
- And then they're about to launch it
and then they realize there are five other businesses
with the same model in the same town
because the INTJ just didn't stop for a second
to do the proper research
'cause the research isn't the fun part, right?
A habit that INTJs can develop is to, every now and then,
look around at the real world
for the relevance of your ideas.
Even if an idea is good, in and of itself,
it needs to fit into an environment that supports it,
like planting a seed in soil versus a crack in the sidewalk.
INFJs generally have an easy time analyzing others,
but their prying eyes can sometimes be seen as prying.
You know, sometimes people just wanna live their life
without being observed or analyzed every step of the way.
A habit that INFJs can develop
is to learn when to switch the people analysis mode off
and take a step back to analyze themselves
in relation to a situation.
Two intuitives,
it can seem like they have a complete mental picture
of whatever's going on, but, the truth is,
they might not always have all the information,
and, especially for an INFJ,
they could be creating their complete picture
from a few broken pieces.
If you make an assumption about a situation
and offer unrequested support or advice to someone,
you could end up damaging your relationship
with them in the long run.
So just remind yourself,
"While I feel like I know what's going on here,
"maybe I don't have all the info."
Thanks for watching it and until next time,
stay cool and attractive.
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