hey this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym let's talk yeah just you and me I put a
video out the last video I put out which was this past Wednesday and it was about
using NLP to meet women I knew this was going to be a bit controversial I knew
that some people were going to unsubscribe from both this channel as
well as my email list at the same time I still find this extremely perplexing
that this is such a taboo subject because there are people in personal
development who include something like this it's just not they don't come out
and say it's using NLP to meet women I know NLP has this negative negative
reputation for this deception or manipulation but that you don't have to
use NLP in those ways that brings me to the question when is it okay to use your
NLP skills because a lot of people learn NLP to use it in cells to use it with
their spouse or whatever relationship it is it could be to use it with coworkers
to use it with their kids and if I asked any of you if that was wrong or it's
wrong to use NLP in any of those situations or with any of those people
most people would say well no not as long as you're not deceiving them or
hurting them in some way it's perfectly okay to use NLP in those situations but
for some reason when you put dating in it are men meeting women suddenly it
becomes not okay if you learn NLP and you really practice the skills and opie
becomes a part of you why would I show off my NLP skills when it comes to
dating I don't want to leave anything up to chance as much as I can limit that as
possible whether that's business or whether that's personal relationships
whether that's dealing with my kids I want more choice I want to be able to
know what I want and then go and get it that is what personal development really
is because along the way of getting what you want and again as long as you're not
hurting anyone as long as you're creating win-win situations you're
getting what you want you're helping others get what they want
that is transformation when you want something and you don't have it the
process of getting it is the personal development that's the process of you
changing that's the process of you becoming the person who has who is who
does in order to get whatever it is that you want and I don't understand why that
dating can it shouldn't be included in that the the other thing that I want to
address is what is the alternative if it's not okay
for men to approach women in public where is it okay to do that is it much
better if they only do it in a bar or a club after they've been drinking is it
much better to try to hide behind a phone or a computer and swipe your way
to the right woman or is it something we're supposed to just wait for and hope
that it magically materializes like a dozen of movies I can tell you from my
experience my life has not been anything like the movies
it has never worked out like the movies and sure to be wonderful if it did the
reality is if you want something you're going to have to take action you're
going to have to earn it deserve a accomplish it
whatever it is so if you do not have the the social life that you want that will
require that you do something about it it's not going to just magically happen
and this idea that men should just sit back and wait for that to happen they're
going to be unsatisfied and when I think it's happening
especially today is we are becoming depersonalized because we live in a more
digital society we're also telling men a lot what not to do from the time that
their children were telling them not to do this not to do that and I'm telling
them very much about what to do or we're not giving them very good examples of
how to be especially when it comes to women in dating if they're if you have a
two-parent household the father becomes the example of how to treat a woman in a
marriage in a partnership they may not be good examples or they could be
outstanding examples a father can demonstrate how to be respectful towards
a woman what would you don't see what boys don't see growing up is good
examples for dating for reaching out to women for connecting with women and
hopefully the father is not doing that because he's married so the boy doesn't
get to see the courtship process and he will be told to respect women he will be
told not to do certain things and yet he has this desire he wants to meet women
and there is a sexual desire and as much as we've evolved in our in this human
species it still seems that we have we haven't gotten over our shame about that
and this is a drive that is as natural as hunger this is part of our biology it
is part of how we survive as a human species so it's not going away and boys
feel this desire and then they're told not to not to act on it they're told not
to do this not to do that so what happens the desire doesn't go away what
we do is we suppress it and we draw and we drive it into the underground and
with the accessibility of porn these days it's so easy to get to for for boys
or men to watch porn and become addicted to porn because they don't want to risk
humiliation by actually going out and connecting
with women they're told to have shame around this desire so they watch porn
because that's desire is going to manifest in some way and what they see
on the screen they think that's how women are or should be so no wonder we
have misogyny no wonder we have men bullying women and sexually harassing
them they've never been shown proper ways to reach out and connect with a
woman so what I'm proposing here is that maybe just maybe the most civilized most
sane way to connect with a woman it's to approach her in a department store and
on the street on a park somewhere where it's public where she can feel safe and
the man can not aggressively politely introduce himself
tell her why he's there because otherwise it could be confusing late he
finds her attractive and he wanted to meet her and then go from there how is
that not okay and doing it in a bar or a club or
trying to do it through a dating app and how is that better in any way so this is
not about using NLP to dupe a woman to brainwash a woman to do a lot of and I
understand it because NLP and there is a darker side and it's been advertised
that way and in fact people are using NLP to tell them to market to men saying
that you know you can control the woman's mind and first of all it's not
true second of all that's not you don't have to use NLP for those things NOP is
a communication model that helps you communicate better and it helps you
build rapport and connect with people better and that's what we should be
using it for and the more people are connecting with each other the more we
win for all as a society and as a species so
if you found anything that I've said in this video as offensive unethical
immoral in any way very well some unsubscribe from this channel
unsubscribe from my email list however if you are a man who suffers from fear
of approaching women and anxiety of approaching women and you're ready to
overcome this you're ready to be the guy who is bold enough to approach a woman
in any situation and it doesn't even matter if she's with her friends or not
if you're ready to transform this part of yourself if you're ready to transform
this fear into the boldness and the courage to approach a woman and connect
with her then you can pre-order this program that I will be making that will
be ready in September September 2018 I'll put the link here down below if
you're ready to transform into that man and you're ready to have a very active
social life and a very active dating life and to have a lot more choice in
your romantic life this is the course for you I will show you how to overcome
this fear and I will show you how to connect with women so some of you might
be thinking well this objectifies women and I can understand how you might think
that my experience has been the opposite the more I've approached women the more
I've connected with women and going out on dates with women
the more I've become empathetic and come and compassionate towards women and the
struggles and the frustrations that they go through I don't fully understand it
because I'm a guy and I never fully will understand that any man who says he
fully understands what it's like to be a woman or how to be a woman I I would
question that person that sounds like they might be pandering to women so I
won't fully understand women ever but I can get closer and closer by connecting
with them more and that's what this is about this is
not about using women this is about connecting with women understanding
women better and becoming a more empathetic and compassionate person
which is very attractive to women when a man is very empathetic and compassionate
that draws women to them both in a romantic way and also in a friendship
way and I don't know about you but I don't have I never have too many great
friends and I've approached women who my intent was to date them because I was
very attracted to them and then for one reason or another it turned out maybe
they had a boyfriend or it just wasn't a good it wasn't going to work out some of
these women are friends of mine to this day good friends so there is
nothing to lose by learning this there's nothing to lose by overcoming this
crippling fear men suffer a lot from this and they don't have to and if
you're one of those people who is encouraging men to suffer encouraging
men to not act out on this desire Curt encouraging men to drive this on the
ground you're not helping the situation in fact that creates more misogyny that
creates more aggression towards women that creates movements like the insel
movement the involuntarily celibate men who have now created a movement it's a
brotherhood it's extremely toxic it's even dangerous there was a recent mass
shooting in the US and one of the the man who did it was a self-described
insel so when we are pushing when we are D personalizing society because we're so
digitized and we're telling men this is not OK and we're telling them everything
that's not OK and not telling them what is OK and what is proper and what is
appropriate we are creating a problem that is creating violence now not saying
that's the only reason that that happens there are probably many more reasons but
this is not helping when you say it's not okay to have an adult
conversation about this when you say that oh using NLP to meet and connect
with women is a bad thing you shouldn't do that if you're one of those people
then the nun I'm eager to hear what your solutions are feel free to comment down
below I'm open to a dialogue about this so again if you're man you don't have to
be crippled by this fear anymore you don't have to suffer anymore I will show
you how you can pre-order this program until Wednesday August 1st after that
you can still get the program it's just going to cost more so you might as well
get it now and save yourself some money
check out my website NLP-Gym.com I have some free hypnotic inductions that you
can download straight to your phone to your tablet to your computer and just
put your earbuds in and relax and let that let my voice take you to a place of
greater confidence also I have some free sensory acuity training this is a
foundational skill in NLP it's a great place to start your NLP journey and if
you've already started your NLP journey it's a great thing to revisit because a
lot of people don't really master the skill of calibration and sensory acuity
and it is absolutely mandatory that you master this skill if you want to be good
at NLP and you want to make you know if you work once again if you don't like
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