- Since I'm 6'4, I predominantly start
at about 5'10 when it comes to dating.
I think the most important thing is clickage,
how we spark; like, oh, I wanna get to know you more.
- I think the most important things
in my life have always been my family.
One of the main thing I've been looking for
is someone that's gonna mesh well with my family.
I typically go for taller, more muscular
Latin men; it's kind of my kryptonite.
- Your name is Chad, and this is your story.
You are 28 years old; for work, you do something in retail.
You grew up in Denver, Colorado.
Your cultural ethnic background
is white, maybe Greek, Italian.
- My name is actually Adam; and I am 32 years old.
For work, I work in marketing.
I actually grew up in Upstate New York.
And I am Italian actually;
Caucasian, yeah, you got that right.
- You just look like a Chad to me.
- My parents actually let my brother and my sister
pick my first and my middle name, so--
- Really; how old were they?
- My sister was seven, and my brother was four, so.
- Oh, where did they get Adam from then?
- She wanted to call me A-dumb.
- Okay, got it.
- Your name is Brandon, and this is your story.
You are 27 years old; you work in finance.
You grew up in Connecticut, or I was gonna put LA
or, like, California; but I wasn't sure.
For your cultural ethnic background,
I put Caucasian as well.
- My name is Frank; I'm 33 years old, so I'll take 27.
For work, I'm a marketing consultant.
I grew up in, primarily, New Jersey;
and I'm white, so, yeah.
Why did you think I was from California?
You can say.
- I don't know; I just feel like you look
really put together, and I feel like people
from LA are just, like, very, like, prim and proper.
Like you just have really good style, or.
- Thank you; no, it's funny because everyone always
thought I was from California or I should go to California.
And, no; I tried it, and I didn't like it so.
- Yeah, no, I'm not a big California person either.
- No, not at all. - East Coast.
I kind of came from that standard
Italian family; everyone was really loud.
It was me, my mom, my dad, my brother, and my sister.
It was very supportive; everyone's,
kind of, always there for each other.
Everyone's always, kind of, pushing everyone
to do the best that they can and be the best
that they can possibly be for themselves.
- So my parents divorced when I was three years old.
My mom remarried when I was nine,
and my dad passed away at 12.
It primarily affected me just because
I didn't have that strong male figure approval.
- To work out, you lift daily.
I said that you prefer going to the gym
over watching Netflix, and you'd be willing
to spend up to $20 on movies and media per month.
- To work out, yes, I do lift.
I mean, it depends on my mood obviously;
but I do prefer going to the gym.
I feel like if I go to the gym, it kind of sets me
in the right mindset for the rest of the day.
But binge watching Netflix, yeah,
it's more of like binge watching, like, Bravo or,
- Housewives.
- Yeah, guilty pleasure; it's embarrassing, but, you know.
- I mean, I own it.
- Yeah, okay, there we go.
- I'd be willing to spend up to, you said $20; I mean,
- Yeah, it's like the cost of a movie.
- That's like a, yeah, I guess it's a movie a month.
I'll go with that, yeah.
- Okay.
- To work out, you run.
- I give off running vibe?
- Yeah, I think it's like your energy.
- Yeah.
- You have like a bright energy, and I feel like
runners usually are a little, like, uplifted.
So you prefer to binge watch Netflix,
and you'd be willing to spend up to $50 on movies and media.
- To work out, I go to the gym; I just casually lift.
I don't, again, I'm not like crazy about it.
- Right.
- I would actually prefer to binge watch Netflix.
I'm like a huge movie, music buff.
I probably own like five, six hundred movies.
- Oh, really?
- It's like my thing; it's been my thing
since I'm like a little kid.
And I said that I'd be willing to spend up to $100
on movies just because I go to the movies a lot.
- Did you try that movie pass thing, or?
- I actually just found out about it yesterday.
My friend sent it to me. - Oh, really.
- I was like, I'm gonna sign up for this
because I spend a lot of money on movies.
- Yeah.
- Because I went to a Catholic high school,
everybody was like, you're a faggot.
And people used to close lockers on me;
people used to spit on me, which is why I think
as I've got older and I just accepted being gay,
it just made me realize that if you have a problem
with it, then you have a problem with it.
That's not me, and I need to just be happy for,
you know, the life that God gave me.
- In high school, I didn't really play any sports.
I did dance for a little bit, tap, modern ballet.
No clubs or anything; it was just hanging out in Jersey.
What's Jersey comprised of?
The diners, malls, tanning salons; so that's what we did.
Okay, so I put the three things
you fear most are germs, heights, and snakes.
You feel most out of control when you can't tell
what the other person is feeling.
Your greatest fear about sex
in a relationship is losing control.
- Three things I fear most, I said being alone.
I'm actually really scared of the unknown and spiders.
So I want nothing to do with them;
and it's funny because I go camping ,
but I scream bloody murder even over daddy long legs.
- Right, right, right.
- I feel the most out of control when I don't get my way.
- It's the worst.
- I think it's a that I've been working on
for a while, but my greatest fear
about sex in a relationships, I said it was being left.
I think that's just because it's
something that I'm used to so.
- What do you, what do you mean by that?
- I kind of date people that are more into themselves
and their image and, you know,
I guess what's going on around them.
- I totally get that.
- At the end of the day, they always wind up just,
like, cheating and leaving and leaving me high and dry.
- All right.
- Yeah, so.
I mean, I also, I mean, I guess I just
also have really bad taste in men, so.
- Do you have a lot of exes?
- I have like four, so I guess not that, not that many.
I think my longest relationship with a guy
was like two, two-and-a-half years, I think.
- You've had a girl?
- Yeah. - Oh?
- I had a girlfriend until I was like 24; I came out late.
- Oh, wow. - Yeah.
- How long were you with?
- Like almost three years.
- Oh!
- It's not that I didn't care about her.
Like, I loved her; and, like, we're still
really good friends, but I think that, you know,
growing up and getting bullied a lot, it took me a lot
to just like come to terms and like accept it so.
- And your family was okay, or,
- Yeah, my brother's gay also; so it was, kind of,
like, a nice, like, segue, like, easy transition; but--
- So your sister's the only heterosexual?
- Yeah, but she played rugby;
so my family's, kind of, like, ass backwards.
- Nice.
My half-sister is a lesbian; so I have twin half-sisters.
- Oh, that's awesome.
- And then the other one is, yeah, the only
straight one out of, out of all of us.
It's interesting when it flips like that.
- Yeah.
So I said the three things that you fear the most
are losing a family member, losing your job,
or not having your own family when you're older.
I said that you feel the most
out of control when you're swamped at work.
Your greatest fear about sex in a relationship
is not pleasing your partner.
- Yeah, you went a little deeper than I'm, my answers were.
- Three things I fear, seems so silly now:
snakes, spiders, and, like, sounds funny;
but nail stuff, like when I hear about people
getting manicures and then they jam your cuticle
into your nail and all that.
- Or like nails on a chalkboard?
- Yeah.
I feel most out of control when
I can't understand something.
That's, that's not, I like to comprehend everything.
My greatest fear about sex in a relationships is being
complacent, so like just like same thing every day.
- Getting too comfortable?
- And just becoming boring.
I don't wanna be one of those. - I get that.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Did you have, like, a relationship where,
like, you were, like, too complacent?
- I think my fear of complacency more comes from
I view other couples where they kind of
shut themselves off to the rest of the world.
They don't explore what's around them still.
I feel like it'll just fizzle out.
- Yeah, that's a fear of mine.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Investing so much time and then it's like,
okay, well, I'm bored of you.
- You're like, what, after five years?
- Yeah.
When I first saw you, I said that I would date you.
You know, you're obviously attractive;
and you're, you know, you dress really well
and I was just getting a good vibe from you.
And after talking to you, I said
that I would still date you.
I think we have really good chemistry,
and I think that's really hard to come by these days.
So I would definitely still go on a date with you.
- When I first met you,
it's funny; what stuck out was your smile,
and I said I would date you.
But after meeting and talking, getting to know you
a little bit better, I said I would still date you.
- I'll do it again.
I've never dated anyone that was like blond hair, blue eyes.
I predominantly have always gone for, like, Latin,
I mean, tall, I mean, obviously I don't think I would ever
date someone shorter than me because
we would feel like munchkins, but--
- How tall are you?
- I'm like 5'6.
- Oh, okay.
- I'm like pocket-size.
- Yeah!
If I had just met you, I mean, out at a bar or something,
I maybe might not have taken the time
to get to know you a little more;
but having this time changed my overall perception.
Height became less important.
First for everything.
- Exactly, yeah.
So should we, like, go see a movie now?
- What movie should we see?
- I really wanna go see Thor, but.
- Thor sounds good.
- Do you wanna go?
- Yeah, yeah.
So who's in Thor?
- Chris Hemsworth actually.
- Oh.
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