>>> SO HERE'S A QUESTION FOR
YOU.
HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU CHECKED
YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA SINCE WAKING
UP THIS MORNING?
>> IT'S KIND OF FUN TO SCROLL
THROUGH YOUR FEEDS TO SEE WHAT
EVERYBODY IS POSTING ABOUT,
THEIR COOL VACATIONS, OR THEIR
PERFECT FAMILY.
>> BUT WHAT YOU'RE SEEING ISN'T
ALWAYS REALITY.
>> Reporter: INSTAGRAM,
FACEBOOK, TWITTER, SNAPCHAT.
THE AVERAGE PERSON WILL SPEND
FIVE YEARS AND FOUR MONTHS OF
THEIR LIVES ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
THESE PLATFORMS NOT ONLY ALLOW
US TO KEEP UP WITH FRIENDS AND
FAMILY, THEY ALSO PROVIDE A NEW
LEVEL OF ACCESS TO THE LIVES OF
OUR FAVORITE CELEBRITIES.
A GLIMPSE INTO THE SEEMINGLY
PERFECT LIVES OF THE RICH AND
FAMOUS, FROM PICTURESQUE
VACATIONS TO THEIR GLAMOROUS
PARTIES.
WHAT WE DON'T ALWAYS SEE ARE THE
STRUGGLES FACED BEHIND THE
FILTERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA.
ACTRESS LENA DUNHAM RECENTLY
HIGHLIGHTED THIS ON INSTAGRAM,
WRITING, IN THE FIRST PICTURE, I
LOOK LIKE A CASHMERE PRINCESS
MADE OF MIRACLES.
IN THE SECOND, I LOOK LIKE I'VE
KILLED NINE HUSBANDS.
BUT IN THE FIRST, I WAS HIDING
WILDLY UNTREATED ILLNESS,
PHYSICAL AND MENTAL.
IN THE SECOND, I'M RESTORED TO
SANITY.
TALKING TO SOMEONE I LOVE ABOUT
THE JOB I LOVE ON MY WAY HOME
FROM A REALLY ENRICHING MORNING.
I AM OUT OF PAIN.
THIS IS YOUR AND MY DAILY
REMINDER THAT THERE ARE THINGS
MORE HONEST THAN PICTURES, AND
THAT YOUR FEED IS A BASTION OF
LIES.
KRISTEN BELL TOOK TO SOCIAL
MEDIA TO REMIND FOLLOWERS THAT
EVERYONE IS FACING THEIR OWN
BATTLE, EVEN IF IT DOESN'T LOOK
LIKE IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
>> DON'T BE FOOLED BY THIS GAME
OF PERFECTION THAT HUMANS PLAY
BECAUSE INSTAGRAM AND MAGAZINES
AND TV SHOWS, THEY STRIVE FOR A
CERTAIN AESTHETIC, AND
EVERYTHING LOOKS SO BEAUTIFUL
AND PEOPLE SEEM LIKE THEY DON'T
HAVE ANY PROBLEMS.
BUT EVERYONE'S HUMAN.
EVERYONE HAS PROBLEMS.
>> GOOD FOR HER.
>> YEP.
HERE TO TALK MORE ABOUT THIS IS
THE AUTHOR OF "UNFILTERED: HOW
TO BE AS HAPPY AS YOU LOOK ON
SOCIAL MEDIA."
AND PSYCHOLOGIST AND PAL
JENNIFER HARTSTEIN.
>> HI, GUYS.
>> PEOPLE WILL SCROLL THROUGH
INSTA.
THEY'RE DOING IT SO THEY CAN
EXPLORE OR WHATEVER.
THEY END UP FEELING DEPRESSED
BECAUSE THEY MUST THINK LIKE,
WOW, I DON'T HAVE THAT.
>> EVERYBODY'S GOT WHAT I WANT
BUT ME.
>> THEY FALL INTO THE COMPARE
AND DESPAIR TRAP.
ONCE YOU GO DOWN THAT BLACK
HOLE, IT'S VERY HARD TO REMIND
YOURSELF, WAIT A SECOND, I HAVE
SO MUCH TO BE PROUD OF, AND I
CAN EMBRACE WHO I AM.
I'M LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
I'M A WORK IN PROGRESS.
ALL YOU SEE IS THIS ONE GOT
ENGAGED AND THIS ONE HAD A BABY.
WHEN YOU WANT THOSE THINGS FOR
YOURSELF, IT CAN BE VERY PAINFUL
TO SEE EVERYONE ELSE HAVE IT BUT
YOU.
>> SHOULD YOU JUST NOT LOOK AT
IT?
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?
>> I THINK IT'S UNREALISTIC TO
SAY DON'T LOOK AT IT.
WE'RE GOING TO CONTINUE TO LOOK
AT IT.
YOU HAVE TO CHECK IN WITH
YOURSELF ABOUT WHY YOU'RE
LOOKING AT IT.
AM I LOOKING AT IT BECAUSE I'M
BORED?
AM I GENUINELY INTERESTED IN
WHAT'S HAPPENING IN YOUR LIVES?
AM I LOOKING AT IT AS A COMPARE?
WHY AM I DOING THIS?
WHY AM I GOING DOWN THIS RABBIT
HOLE?
IF YOU DON'T HAVE A GREAT
REASON, MAYBE YOU NEED TO DO
SOMETHING ELSE.
LOOK UP AND ENJOY THE WORLD IN
FRONT OF YOU.
>> WHAT IF YOU GO IN WITH NO
INTENT OTHER THAN TO JUST ENJOY
IT?
THEN YOU SEE SOMETHING THAT DOES
UPSET YOU, THAT YOU DIDN'T THINK
YOU'D SEE.
HOW DO YOU HANDLE THAT?
>> I THINK THE FIRST THING TO DO
IS ASK YOURSELF, WHAT IS IT
ABOUT THAT PERSON'S POST THAT IS
MAKING ME HOLD UP A MIRROR TO
MYSELF AND REALIZE THAT
OBVIOUSLY I'M MISSING OUT ON
SOMETHING?
IDENTIFY YOUR PAIN POINTS.
GET TO THE ROOT OF YOUR RUT.
IS THAT SOMETHING THAT IS
CONNECTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP,
YOUR CAREER, YOUR LEVEL OF
COMMUNITY ACTIVISM?
BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING
EATING AT YOU FOR A REASON.
AND THERE'S A MESSAGE IN THAT
MESSY FEELING.
SO MY GOAL IN WRITING THIS BOOK
IS THAT PEOPLE WOULD FLIP
THROUGH THE CHAPTER, GET TO THE
POINT OF RELATIONSHIPS, TO THEIR
LEVEL OF COMMUNITY ACTIVISM, OR
THEIR JOB AND SAY, WAIT A
SECOND, I CAN FEEL GOOD ABOUT
WHO I AM AND WHERE I AM AND KNOW
MY VALUE, AND NOW IT DOESN'T
MATTER WHAT ANYBODY POSTS.
IT WILL NEVER MAKE ME QUESTION
MY WORTH.
>> IT IS HARD WHEN YOU LOOK AT
SOME OF THESE CELEBS.
YOU DON'T THINK THEY HAVE
TROUBLE.
KRIST
CRI
KRISTEN BELL JUST SAID IT.
>> NOBODY IS GOING TO PUT UP
THEIR AGONY.
>> WITH SOCIAL MEDIA, WE LIVE
THIS BEAUTIFUL CURATED LIFE.
I WAS THINKING ABOUT THIS.
YOU GO TO AN ART GALLERY SEE A
BEAUTIFUL PAINTING.
YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT THE BLOOD,
THE MESS, THE SWEAT, THE TEARS
THAT WENT INTO MAKING THE
PAINTING.
THAT'S REALLY WHAT LIVES ARE.
THEY'RE FILLED WITH MESS.
THEY'RE DIRTY.
WE LIKE TO MAKE IT LOOK ALL
PRETTY.
WELL, THAT'S NOT REALITY.
I THINK BEYONCE, WHO'S SO
BEAUTIFULLY CURATED HAD THAT
VIDEO, THOUGHT HER MAKEUP ARTIST
WAS DOING A PICTURE.
SHE GETS EMBARRASSED.
BEYONCE IS A REAL PERSON.
>> I DON'T KNOW WHY THAT
SURPRISES US.
>> SOMEHOW IT SURPRISES US.
THAT'S BECAUSE WE'RE SO CURATED.
LET'S GET TO THE MESS A LITTLE
BIT.
IF WE CAN DO THAT, WE'RE ALL
MUCH MORE REAL.
>> CHRISSY TEIGEN, SHE'S ALWAYS
POSTING HER MESS.
>> SHE'S GOT AED A THAT.
>> WE LOVE HER FOR THAT.
>> LAST WEEKEND I POSTED THAT I
WAS GETTING READY FOR A WEDDING.
I POPPED SOMETHING IN MY
SHOULDER TRYING TO PUT ON MY
SPANX.
THE RESPONSE I GOT TO THAT ONE