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the 7 Disturbing Traits Of An INFJ Dark Side Make sure to watch each one and find out if you
have any of them!
Did you know that in addition to MBTI type, you have other key personality functions?
These functions are crucial to understanding how you function in society, and they're useful to
know as a tool to help you learn more about yourself and others. Today we’re going to
look at the shadow functions and how they create the dark side of an INFJ personality type. This
dark side represents the unconscious parts of our psyche that you have less awareness of and control
over. It hosts repressed, unwanted and overlooked elements of your personality. If you are an INFJ
(advocate/counselor) personality type chances are that you have already experienced some dark side
traits at least once in your lifetime. You should undoubtedly be aware of your dark side since it
will help in the integration of your unconscious and conscious selves, allowing you to better
design your life and achieve personal growth. Here are 7 Disturbing Traits Of An INFJ Dark Side
Number 1 - Bottling up emotions, then exploding
INFJs have the ability to adapt to the requirements of others and enjoy providing
comfort. If they believe they have been wronged, they will lash out. It usually happens after a
series of little setbacks have worn INFJs down and their patience has run out. Because they
would rather keep the peace than tell someone who has injured them, Advocates tend to bottle up
negative emotions. As a result, INFJs can only take so much before the frustration powder keg
explodes — and it's generally nasty. INFJs can avoid emotional explosions by dealing
with minor infractions as they occur, rather than allowing hurt to stew and build. Unfortunately,
INFJs have a tendency to bottle up all the negative emotions until they can’t do it anymore
and this is when they explode.
Number 2 - Door slam You've probably heard of the legendary INFJ
door slam. This is when an INFJ removes someone from their life because they have harmed them.
This isn't always as impulsive as you would believe. The final line is that the INFJ door slam
is for their own protection, the INFJ has seen how much anguish others cause them and has decided
not to participate. When they slam the door on someone, their sensitive and emotional side comes
out. They completely stop speaking with them INFJs are able to shut down completely from people and
isolate them. When they shut someone out, they may still communicate with them when required, but
they try to maintain as much distance as possible. Advocates may be the sweetest individuals you've
ever met, but even they have a limit. When they've been exploited or used as a tool,
the INFJ would not be hesitant to slam the door. It may happen soon or they could choose to wait.
This door slam's target may be utterly unaware.
Number 3 - Manipulation Another Trait coming from INFJ's
dark side is their tendency to be manipulative. INFJs have a reputation for being the good guys.
They are depicted as compassionate and warm. The Extroverted Feeling (Fe) is one of their
most important functions. As a result, they are usually aware of people's feelings and intentions.
However, the dark side of an INFJ causes these abilities to be put to horrible use. Advocates
are able to gather as much information as possible about people and use it to control
them. As a result, they may get individuals to perform things they despise while making it look
nice. INFJs who are manipulative are harmful to be around because they may appear bossy, controlling,
or full of themselves. They may tease or even mock other people. When INFJs feel attacked or
confronted by other people, they may trick others or use deceptive reasoning to evade conflict. This
is a very Disturbing Traits Of An INFJ Dark Side.
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Number 4 - Uncompromising Complete stubbornness is a prominent
trait of the INFJ dark side. Because they prefer to be in charge of their time, INFJs exhibit an
obsessive planning trait. They do have a bit of spontaneity now and then, but they aren't
always cut out for it. The essential point is that once they've made up their minds about anything,
it can be tough to change their minds. This makes them appear obstinate and unyielding,
but the INFJ will not change their thoughts if something doesn't set right with them.
Let's say they do ultimately, it's because they saw a reason on their own, not because others
presented a compelling argument. Furthermore, INFJs may feel inwardly critical towards people
whose choices don’t align with their personal value and they can make the judgments on the spot
however they are not showing it. Those with INFJ personalities may dismiss those whose ideas are
different from their own and because they have their own vision on how the things should work,
they often reject any other alternatives.
Number 5 - Self-doubt In their dark side,
the INFJs' focus shifts from Introverted Intuition (Ni) to Extraverted Intuition (Ne), which they
typically don't comprehend or grasp well. The INFJ tries to reinforce their intuitive understanding
by forging outside connections, but Extraverted Intuition is weak in this circumstance and becomes
messier and more confusing. Someone may criticize the INFJ's views and instincts, implying that they
don't know what they're talking about. Because the INFJ doesn't have a natural stream of thinking
to demonstrate where they get their information, they can try to use this Extraverted Intuition to
do so. They strive to connect dots and uncover patterns outside of themselves, clutching at
concepts in the hopes of stitching it all together in a logical manner. Instead of relying on their
own expertise and self-assurance, the INFJ tries to prove themselves through Extraverted
Intuition. When the INFJ does this, they may get overwhelmed by all of the alternatives and options
available to them, and begin to distrust their own intuitive abilities and wisdom. The INFJ may
get more stressed as a result of this, causing the shadow to interrupt their natural state of being.
Number 6 - Defensiveness
Naturally, Introverted Thinking (Ti) is an important function for the INFJ, but in
their dark side, it turns Extraverted Thinking (Te) weary. When the INFJ is in their shadow,
they can become irritable, especially among those who think in extraverted ways. They frequently
perceive these individuals as a threat, hoping to challenge or control the INFJ in some way.
This increases their likelihood of pushing these individuals away or demonizing them
as something bad and untrustworthy. This can make the INFJ defensive, as they try to
utilize their own Extraverted Thinking (Te) logic yet have many flaws in their approach.
Number 7 – Ruthlessness
The Demon function of an INFJ is Introverted Sensing (Si). The demon
is the most suppressed and alienated aspect of one's personality. Introverted Sensing
is concerned with contrasting and comparing previous experiences with current events.
Si remembers earlier impressions, pays close attention to specific details,
relies on tried-and-true problem-solving approaches, and places a premium on routine,
comfort, and physical well-being. INFJs sometimes feel afflicted by Si since it's
their demon function. It frequently appears to be both a source of deep humiliation and
immense power. INFJs may employ Si in nefarious ways to demonize themselves or others at times.
As a result, INFJs may bring up a laundry list of embarrassing failures and blunders from someone's
history during times of high stress or conflict. They may have a habit of replying
to unfavorable memories from their past. Advocates have a tendency to put their own
comfort, health, and physical well-being last. Past experiences and specific knowledge may be
difficult for INFJs to trust and they feel threatened by their opponent's argument,
Si may give them stunning information or a chain of past mistakes that will completely
demolish their opponent's argument. This is a very Disturbing Trait Of An INFJ Dark Side.
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