- Alright, picture this,
Donald Trump hears about two people across the pond in Paris
talking trash about him in a restaurant.
How he handles it is very interesting,
and I'm gonna break it down in this short video.
But first I'm ask you,
have you ever had someone talk trash about you
or talk down to you?
Maybe it's gossip at the workplace,
you see people over there they're talking about you.
What's your tendency on how to handle it?
Do you have protocol for what you typically do?
Most people do one of two things.
Number one, they just stick their head in the sand,
oh, maybe I heard 'em wrong,
maybe they weren't talking about me.
You know if it's not real in my head,
it's not real at all.
Or number two, they get very defensive.
Oh, those dummies don't know anything anyway,
who are they, I saw them just the other day
doing something dumb too, they have no right to judge!
They're not trying to figure out what's really going on,
why the people are really talking bad about 'em,
because it's tough, as our egos were wired
to defend our ego and keep, you know,
we always hear we look at ourselves
through rose colored glasses.
We wanna think highly of ourselves,
and when there's other information
that could make us reassess our value,
our natural tendency is to not look at it.
But I'm gonna talk about what Trump did,
which actually shows a higher level of confidence
than both of those things,
and I want you to consider
handling it this way in the future.
Now I wanna listen to a little audio clip here
of a reporter that describes what went on,
and how Trump actually ended up talking to these two guys
or this guy at the restaurant
when he heard they were talking trash.
And then we'll come back
and break down exactly what happened.
- [Dan] The fellow who just handed me the phone,
who turned out to be Joe Kernen from CNBC,
who he had been talking to the President
'cause the President had called to express regret
that he couldn't do an interview with.
And Joe apparently said, you know, even here in Paris,
everybody's talking about you.
You know, there are two gentlemen next to me at the table
and they're talking about you.
And the President apparently said,
are they still there?
Let me speak to them.
So Joe didn't recognize me, I don't think really knows me
and so he thought, you know, just these are two Americans
talking about the President.
These are two Americans talking about the President.
- So he's on the phone with a guy in the restaurant
apologizing for not being able to make the interview
that they had prescheduled,
and he just hears this guy saying
yeah, there's people around here
who are kinda talking some trash.
What does Trump do?
Put 'em on the horn!
Are they still there?
Let me talk to 'em, okay?
Let me tell you what this shows, okay.
I'm gonna assume the reason he wanted to talk to them
was to get information on why they were talking bad
about him, he wanted to learn that.
I'm gonna assume he wasn't getting on the phone
to dress them down or to talk down
or to put them on the spot.
That would be a lot of energy for him to do that
with really not much of an upside,
you're gonna put two people
in check across to Paris, does it matter?
But my understanding and my belief
is that he was trying to learn where the descent
is coming from, why are these people talking trash?
What's going on in their head?
'Cause that gives him a clear picture.
Is that the easiest thing to do?
No!
The easiest thing would be like, oh those dummies!
You know, how many people talk trash
about anybody in the limelight, right?
You don't even have to be famous at all.
Look at my comments, look at the comments on this!
It's gonna be 90% people talking trash.
A guy like the President, who's so polarizing,
people are always talking trash about him,
so it'd be very easy for him just to be like,
oh I'm not even looking at that stuff.
But he wanted to take the time to hear about that.
So let me give an example at the workplace for you.
Or let's say me, for instance.
Maybe it'd be easier to swallow if I'm talking about me.
So say I'm at the workplace and some guys,
I can just kinda see they're looking over
and kinda snickering, and I look over and they're like,
what, nothing to see here.
Maybe I got up to one of 'em afterwards and I'm like,
hey no big deal, I'm just curious,
what were you guys talking about?
I saw you kinda pointing at my shirt, no big deal,
I was just curious.
And the guy says, oh you know Johnny over there says
you been wearing that same shirt three days a week
for the last two weeks.
And I go, oh yeah, shoot, must not even realized, whatever.
But now what happens from that?
Well, you're exposed to your blind spots.
We should wanna learn about our blind spots!
Maybe I did wear that shirt more than I realized,
but now I realize it is so I can change that.
That is not being weak by being supplicative
to other people, the way they're perceiving you.
That's seeing your blind spots, we need that,
we need to know what we're not seeing.
'Cause we think about ourselves all the time, right?
We're our number one, numero uno,
but we don't always see what other people see.
So maybe I had been wearing that shirt way too much,
that's good information for me to have.
That's valuable information because likely other people
are thinking the same thing, and it's an easy fix!
Stop wearing the shirt more than once a week
or once every two weeks, however many shirts you got.
But just become aware of that is very important,
and that's what Trump was likely trying to do in this call
to become aware to potential blind spots,
or to be aware of what people are saying on the street.
What's the average Joe Schmoe saying?
Now in this video, I actually watched this
this morning on CNN, and they were kinda spinning it
in a way like, Trump, oh he had no idea,
he thought he was just talking to an average person
and it ended up being a reporter, the joke's on him!
I mean, I guess you could look at this any way you want.
But from his perspective
that's likely what he was trying to do.
And I think that shows a high level of confidence
and it just shows how important it is to feel
like his ear's to the street,
as far as what other people are talking about,
people saying about him so he can address that.
You know, clearly he doesn't pander to everybody, right?
He kinda sticks to his line,
he doesn't really worry about that.
But he still wants to know what's going on,
it's an important thing to have.
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So the question is,
has anyone ever talked over you consistently?
Like you know this person,
every time you get in a conversation,
maybe it's work, maybe it's a neighbor,
or you're in a group, they talk over you!
How annoying is that?
What do you do when people talk over you?
Do you just get quiet?
Because I'll tell you what,
when you're an easy person to roll over
and people constantly talk over you,
it lowers your social value.
Twist it in your head however you want,
oh I'm being a bigger an, I'm being polite.
This guy's so rude!
Eh, one way to look at it,
but the most accurate way to look at it
is that happens consistently,
it looks like you won't stand up for yourself.
I've got a video right here
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you can do every time, right?
Pick the right one for the situation, A, B, or C,
so next time that dope comes and tries to talk over you,
you'll know how to handle it.
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