Did you know that in one year alone, 15,372 people reported being catfished?
Now if you're wondering what the heck is catfishing, I'm going to tell you exactly what catfishing
is and how to actually spot a catfisher online so that you don't get scammed or fall for
somebody who isn't who they really are.
Hi everyone, welcome back to my channel.
I'm Renee Slansky, I'm a professional dating and relationship coach.
I want to talk about online dating and some of the dangers that are out there.
One of those things that we need to really be aware of is catfishing.
If you're not sure what catfishing is, I'm not talking about the little fish that swims
in the ocean or the rivers or wherever they swim.
I'm talking about when people actually create a fake profile to lure you in to either scam
you out of money, maybe nude photos, or start having a fake relationship with you so that
they can feel whatever sick desires they have in their head.
Either way, it isn't something that is healthy, but it is actually something that is incredibly
rampant.
The first thing you need to do to spot a catfisher is do a reverse photo search.
This is probably the most simplest and easiest and quickest way to actually spot a catfisher,
is check if their photo is actually their photo.
You might be wondering how the heck do I do that?
It is really simple.
All you need to do is pop into Google reverse photo search and it'll give you a couple of
options where you can then put that photo of whatever their profile picture is and see
if it's actually being used somewhere else.
I have seen so many stories and I've actually had clients where they've had this awesome
looking guy contact them and they thought, "Hang on a second, that picture actually looks
really familiar."
They've done a reverse photo search and actually found out that it was another male model and
his photos were being used by this catfisher.
If unsure and it sounds too good to be true, then do a reverse photo search first to work
out, okay, is this person even using their real identity?
Number two, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
When we go online, we are obviously searching for love, and a lot of the time I see women
get caught up in these scams because they're really hoping that they find this dream person
that they've been looking for their whole life.
You know what?
Online dating is a great way to be able to connect with somebody, but you have to remember
that online dating is about connecting first and then getting to know the person offline.
Actually getting to know them in the flesh, not over distance, not over messaging, and
definitely not just through a computer screen.
Now, if they have painted a picture to you about how amazing they are, they rescue orphans
in Africa, they own three castles, they want to marry you after they've only known you
for three weeks, then chances are they're probably elaborating and trying to move things
too fast to build a false sense of security between you and them so that they can gain
your trust.
Then what they do is once they gain your trust, or your emotional involvement, is that is
when they'll hit you.
They will either take you for a ride, or they will actually take you for money or they will
scam you out of something else.
Number three, they want your money.
there are so many scams out there and it actually really surprises me how many people go and
give money to other people that they've never even met.
Now I have fallen victim to a scammer before.
It wasn't through online dating, it was me trying to sell my bicycle and he said, "Okay,
send me $800 and then I'll send you 880."
I don't know what I was thinking, but I sent him $800.
Anyway, that's in the past.
My point is, I don't want you to go and send money to people that you don't even know in
person or that you don't even really have a real relationship with.
Now, there are a lot of ladies out there that I have observed from a distance who I've either
worked with or who's even commented on my videos in my channel about the fact that you're
in a long distance relationship with somebody and then they've gone and asked you for money,
large sums of money when you don't really see them, you're still getting to know them
and things aren't adding up.
In my honest opinion, if you're dating somebody, why would they ask you for money in the first
place?
That's not something that you really do or discuss until maybe you've had a solid relationship
with somebody and you really know their true character and intentions.
So if somebody asks you for money early in when you're starting to get to know them online,
I can probably 99.9% guarantee that they are a scammer, that they're catfishing you, and
that they're taking you for a ride.
Number four, they want to move things really fast, but at the same time they don't want
to meet up or they never really want to do a video call with you and you never really
see well who they actually are.
When somebody wants to catfish you, as I said before, they want to try and build this idea
of what it is that they can give you.
That's why they do sound too good to be true.
That's why they always contact you constantly and you think, "Yes, I finally got a guy who
is prioritizing me."
But if they don't actually follow up with video calls where you can actually see their
face, and if there's a lot of inconsistencies between what they say and what they do and
they're trying to speed up this online romance when you haven't actually met in person, that
really is a red flag that this person is in a rush.
You've got to ask yourself, "Okay, well why are they in a rush when I haven't even really
had a chance to get to know them and I don't even know who I'm building something with?"
Speaking of red flags, I've actually put together a brand new free red flag checklist, and I
want you girls to have a copy because I don't want you to be catfished and I don't want
you to be caught up falling for somebody who really doesn't even exist with who they say
they are and they're completely different person.
It is free, all you need to do is click the link in the description down below, download
it and read it so that you can recognize the warning signs early on before you even go
on a date or get involved with somebody.
Okay, number five.
They always have excuses.
As I was saying before in point number four, there seems to be some sort of inconsistencies
and incongruencies, which is they say they're going to call you and they're going to do
this and they're going to meet up, but then they never actually follow through.
Or their story starts to change when they say, "Oh, I've got a sick son, or I've got
a sick child," or, "I'm living in this country," but then you're like, "But didn't you say
you were living in this country and doing something like that?"
If there are holes in their stories and things don't really feel like they're adding up,
well then they're probably making it up.
If somebody is speaking the truth to you, there won't be gaps or holes in their stories
and things will actually make sense when you think about it, and what they say they will
actually follow through with.
Lastly, number six, it just feels off.
Girls, I believe that we have women's intuition for a reason, and that's usually that gut
feeling where we're thinking, "Oh, this just doesn't feel right.
Why are they asking me for money?
Why are they saying they're going to video call me and then they don't?
Why is it that they're saying this part of their story, but then it doesn't really make
sense with this part of their story?"
If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
That's why you should straight away go to point number one, which is do a reverse photo
search and even see if they're using the proper identity, and then go through all the other
points and add it up.
I know that you girls want to find love, and I know that online dating seems like the best
way to be able to do it because we have instant access to people who are also looking for
love.
But just remember that access to people doesn't necessarily mean it is going to be the right
people or that they're even going to have the right intentions.
If you want to know how to actually attract quality men in real life and online in a period
of 30 days, then I want you to actually join my free masterclass.
That's right, I'm giving away two freebies in this video.
This masterclass is all about doing that, and it is a lesson that goes for about an
hour where I actually teach you the three secrets to attract genuine, authentic, real
people who aren't catfishing you.
If you want to know how to do that, then simply click the link in the bio down below and then
register for the masterclass and you can learn all of that.
All right, girls.
Hope that this video helped you.
Have an amazing day.
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Drop a, "Thanks, Renee," down below if this video has helped you, and I'll see you next
time.
Bye for now.