you met him at Orchestra practice he
said he was an avid pianist you misheard
him and you both had a good laugh after
that he asked you on a date and that one
date led to two and before you realized
it you've been dating this guy for a
year and lately the Magic's gone maybe
you've just started to notice how loudly
he eats soup so you've decided it is
time to break up but how in the world
are you going to have that conversation
hey everyone Oh welcome to well cast
this week we're talking about that awful
discussion that comes at the 11th hour
of a relationship and we're going to
give you our 7 step plan for making a
clean break between you and your partner
download this worksheet on your
password-protected mobile device and
keep it handy for reference on the big
day you ready step 1 first things first
before anything else you need to make
sure that you want to go through with
this breakup if you're not happy in the
relationship that is a huge red flag ask
yourself the following questions do you
communicate well does your partner
accept you as you are are you open with
your partner or do you find yourself
keeping secrets from him do you look
forward to seeing him or do you find
yourself making excuses to avoid him ooh
step 2 figure out exactly what you're
going to say to your boyfriend odds are
the first question he's going to ask is
why are you doing this so on your
worksheet write down your reason or
reasons don't go overboard it can be as
simple as I no longer have feelings for
you or I don't think I can trust you
anymore
step 3 once you've committed to actually
breaking up and have figured out exactly
what you want to say plan out a maximum
three hour time period for the daunting
task these three hours will give him
enough time to process but keep the
conversation from spiraling into a loop
rehashing the same points over and over
again step 4
make plans for directly after the
conversation maybe ask a friend to catch
a movie or schedule a haircut giving
yourself a concrete out will help you
leave any difficult situations and
having something to do afterward will
give you time to process the breakup but
keep you from dwelling on it step 5
all right the time has come you've
blocked out three hours scheduled band
practice for afterward and written down
what you're going to say so say it
remember this conversation is going to
be painful for him and you nothing you
say is going to change that fact be
honest but sympathetic don't go
overboard and don't get angry just say
enough so that you can explain your
reasons for breaking up step 6
when it's over it's over don't leave
your partner on tell your now
ex-boyfriend that you won't be
contacting him and ask him to respect
this wish listen you won't be doing him
any favors by drawing a breakup out or
leaving a door open for a relationship
further down the line you're breaking up
for a reason remember so be sure that
there are no emotional loose ends step 7
the stuff exchanged this should be a
very brief meeting where you can both
exchange belongings but that's it no
talks of getting back together and no
cementing the break-up this meeting
should take place in public so you're
not tempted to have another long
conversation and if you're worried take
a friend
poof you've just gone through one of the
harder conversations you'll have to have
for a long time you'll probably feel low
for a little while and that's ok look
just because a relationship is over
doesn't mean it was meaningless in fact
the reason you're feeling so crummy is
because that relationship was an
important part of you growing up still
feeling a little down after your breakup
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recap you have decided to break up with
your boyfriend first make sure you
actually want to do this next commit a
time period up to three hours no longer
and work out what you're going to say
before you get into the situation when
you're there be honest but be
sympathetic with your now ex-boyfriend
make it clear that your decision is
final and ask them not to contact you
for a little bit if you both have stuff
to exchange make plans to briefly meet
in a couple days in a public place so
you can do that
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