but I've really encouraged you to say the people who deserve your forgiveness the most are your
family members your wife your husband your children your brother's your sisters your parents
your parents in law as well they are also closely related to you forgive them excuse them and when
we say forgive we don't mean don't do something about it because sometimes your mother oppresses
your wife and it's happening in many homes I used to think it's declining but in actual fact it's
increasing how dare we have a daughter-in-law in the house and we really think she is just
a maid without the salary she must wake up at this time we must give her an instruction we'll
never praise what she does and we must keep on treating her like she's just a maid and a slave
do you really think Allah created a female in order to just get up and serve the mother-in-law
or the father-in-law do you really think that was the reason of creation of the female do
you not think she has a far greater purpose than something as low as that she's doing it for you
as a favor appreciated I challenge all the mothers in law and fathers in law to appreciate what their
daughters-in-law or sons-in-law do for them show that appreciation talk about it use your tongue
to say it it will bear witness for you on the day of judgment they do a lot so what they are tired
they were they may not get up when you want them to get up because they are tired they are ill they
may be sick they may have children to look after you don't even know and you're holding it holding
and you expect to be forgiven you expect to be forgiven how be kind with your words my beloved
brothers and sisters and we have the opposite problem as well and that is where these young
people get married and after that they divorce their parents No matter how many times you utter
the words of palak to your mother or your father it will not divorce them because those words
don't work with them they are irrelevant when it comes to your parents you still have to be
kind to them it's a test from Allah it's a test from Allah Allah gave you parents specifically
and he commanded you and instructed you to be kind to them even if they are not Muslim be kind
to them kindness notice we did not say obedience because obedience is only within the instruction
of Allah if they ask you to do something and it does not negate what Allah has said you will
do it for them but if they have asked you to do something against the command of Allah you will
not do it for them so this is amazing it's unique my brothers and sisters a relationship from Allah
you were born into those arms into those laps you need to show some kindness in that direction but
the point I was raising was it does not mean you forgive someone so you don't do something about it
you have to do something about it as well so if there is oppression coming from one party
to another stop it somehow forgive them but deal with it say look my beloved mother I love you we
have forgiven your shortcomings but I wouldn't like this to repeat itself again you have to
speak I know of men who think it is virtuous to be silent and to watch your mother bulldoze through
the whole house and destroy every relation and break every rule of Islam but no that's my mother
I cannot talk says who says who which verse of the Quran says do not swear your meaning do not
stop someone who is wearing which verse of the Quran says you must allow your parents to oppress
everyone and anyone under your guardianship your wife is under your guardianship be careful deal
with it kindly you have been asked to be kind kind so speak to your mother with a smile with
kindness she might explode she might get angry and upset you keep smiling because that's your
duty but keep saying what you have to because you have to say it you are the guardian of your
spouse you have to say it whether you like it or not whether she likes it or not whether he
likes it or not whether anyone likes it or not you have to say it when it's your duty to say it